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Hi 2 every1!! I'm so sorry if I am taking away from some1 else's dicussion,really I am!!!! Just wondering if some1 can help? I'm moving away from my husband of 7yrs married & 11yrs 2gether. I've never loved so much until I met him,really! Since I'm lving,any1 mayquestion that??!!! I get it though,really We both have severe mental hlth probs but mine has sent his PTSD through the roof & that doesn't say anything,not @ all! I know i'm scum 4 lving,especially since he's stuck by me all these yrs!! I'm not trying,though it may seem,2 get any1's sympathy,ust,I don't know?! Any1 have any advice? I don't know if I'm doing this right cuz I'm new. I read the instructions, sorry if I worded that wrong!! Truly hope every1's doing well!
Hello need help , welcome to Miracles in Progress. I'm glad that you reach out and shared. I am a little confused as to the issues that are disturbing you and causing you such distress.
If you are dealing with the disease of alcoholism, or have lived with the disease of alcoholism anytime in your life, I would like to suggest that you try our Al-Anon recovery program. Al-Anon is a fellowship of members who have lived with the disease of alcoholism, and who share their experience strength and hope in order to solve their common problems.
I'm concerned to read that you do not feel that you are worthy and I would like to point out that by attending Al-Anon face-to-face meetings held in most communities, I was able to regain my self-esteem and self-worth and know deep down that I was a worthy person. Living with the disease of alcoholism I have lost that awareness and it appears you have as well You, like any of the human being are valuable and worthwhile.
I urge you to search out the Al-Anon meetings and attend. Please keep coming back here as well you are not alone .
I felt sadness when I heard you refer to yourself as scum. I don't know you and I know you are not scum, no one is scum. I am confused, too, as to how we can help?
Hello. Welcome to the Al-Anon room for friends and family members who are troubled by our loved ones' alcoholism or heavy drinking. There was a time when I believed about myself some of what you believe about yourself. What I learned was that I was a person worthy of my own self-respect, self-care and dignity. I stopped calling myself names and I stopped letting others call me names, too. Is your husband a person who is an alcoholic or drinks heavily? Or is something else bothering you? Many of our members have dealt with many issues in addition to alcoholism and its affects on those of us who love people with the disease. Glad you're here.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 25th of August 2014 07:32:47 PM
Having mental health problems isn't a qualification for not finding help...just thought I'd mention it because Al-Anon went right around mine and helped me change for the better. Speaking negative about yourself really doesn't help things get better; in fact it actually decreases the chance of getting help and changing. I won't allow anyone to speak negative of you...don't do it yourself. You already have gotten two very supportive shares and mine is a repeat because it is from my experiences...this is what I did...after mental health and the suicide prevention center wasn't available to help me I called the Al-Anon hotline number and spoke with a person there who was very knowledgable and suggested I get to a meeting as early as possible because my very life depended on the contact. How did she ever know? The hotline number is in the white pages of your local telephone book...look it up and call...we are everywhere so you are not alone. Get to the first meeting you can and sit down and listen with an open mind. You won't have to speak; just sit and listen. If they invite you to and you care to share something about yourself and then listen more. The listening is what helps us the most. Keep coming back. (((((hugs)))))
