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Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

just don't know

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn: I am so sorry to learn that your faithful companion for 15 years has died so tragically and unexpectedly. I am going to be storming the heavens on your behalf. So much to think about and deal with right now for you. I am glad that the rest of the family are around you and near you, that your mouth doesn't hurt this time - thank goodness. I also know from reading your shares that although this is a very, very difficult time for you that somehow you will work it through. You always do. In the meantime, my heart is with yours and my prayers for you are steady. (((D)))

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm so sorry Debilyn It's so hard to lose a faithful and loving pet. I spent two hours on the phone a couple of days ago because my sister lost her little dog due to poisoning. She was in so much guilt I couldn't console her much in the beginning but with time we hang up with a better acceptance to what happen.

Let's be a peace that all our loving animals are in a better place waiting for our arrival someday.

((( hugs )))

SunshineGirl · Senior Member

Sorry to read of your loss.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn, I am so sorry, and I know your heart aches right now. Those of us who love animals form a bond with our pets, and it hurts physically, and emotionally when we lose them. People who are not pet lovers cannot understand this pain. I pray God will wrap his caring and loving arms around you and give you peace. Sometimes, when I am experiencing pain, whether it be physical or emotional, I close myself up in my room, lie down and picture myself in the cradling arms of God. Usually, I will fall asleep with this imagine. It's so peaceful and comforting.

Take care of you during this sorrowful time.

((Debilyn))

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Deb I am so sorry to read of your loss. If you cannot move your pet from the place that he has fallen, I think the police or fire department would help. I have a friend who experienced the loss of her 150 pound dog in her home. She was unable to move him and called the police department They came and moved the dog to the vets.
I will hold your intentions in my thoughts and prayers.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Debilyn)))

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

thank you all. I am better today. Was just so shocking, unexpected. hurts.

OH Betty it would be the sheriff dept. And believe me they would not know what to do. I think I shared about the sheep I helped them with then it died during the night! They had a heck of a time knowing what to do.

Animal control only deals with dogs and cats and can do nothing else! The problem is, now I can say it. He is wedged under the foot bridge!!! all bodies swell. I covered him with blankets and hose him down.

I don't know what to do!!! I am praying mac, my son, can get the tractor thingy, with a scoop to dig him out of there carefully then bury him. But that is huge as he has to to get the trailor and tractor thingy. ugh.

sigh. this is of course the worst part of loving living things. But I would take my brat dickens again in a heart beat. He added so much to my life always being the dickens. I will always see him as a tiny piglet running around the adults biting their rears.

I wanted him to be a house pig but he wanted no part of that. He was a big boy and wanted to boss the farm around. I will miss his sweet soul, but was blessed to have him.

In a way I wish I had placed Prudie. She can live as long as him and longer. I hope to live with Mac someday or at least on this property I hope he can get. IF its the property that is fine. but HE will not allow me to have a pig where he lives. Its honestly too small.

she is a sweet soul though, very gentle.

feel more serene today. maybe lighter. I was in ways dreading winter as he has such a horrible time when its wet and slippery so he hate to go out to go potty. I put rugs down for him. but pits HATE rain. big time. they will stand and the door, look out and shiver.

My AH was soooo good to the piggies in the sanctuary. He had a heart of gold for them. He would build me the neatest homes for them. condos I called them. I loved it when I saw him out there puttering with this one pig who loved him following him around. such a good man lost to the disease.

I am going to lunch on thurs with friends. They told me we are going to visit ex AH. I told them they can but I don't want to.

They want to check onhim and find out if he is still with us. They know I have life ins. on him. Would change my life for the better. They have seen me struggle all these years. hmmm

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

I hear you Deb Prayers and positive thoughts my dear friend. Glad you will be going out with friends this week.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn: I just had a thought. Do you think there are any pig farmers close to you or others that might be able to help you with moving him and burial?

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

you are smart dear grateful lady. I do have a neighbor. I hate to ask. Like I said the problem is he is wedged...ugh.

Mac son called and is coming tonight after work and did not sound crabby about it. whew. lol he is so busy. but He knows I am doing my best. NO more big animals. As much as I lovem and no regrets I don't like it when I cannot do for myself. I should go out, take my skill saw and saw that bridge, then roll him on a blanket and get him to my truck and maybe have a neighbor help lift him up. then take him to the woods to feed wildlife. sounds awful but yet so natural.

Mac may do this tonight. we an zip up to the mountains, not far. It cost me over $300 to bury my first horse up here. he was 32 had cancer, was white. that doesn't count the vet bill.

Glory may outlive me, my horse. she is only hmm seven or so. I may still have her and augs go to this wonderful sanctuary near me. they would be together for sure. she freaks if she cannot find him. He will run up to her, she will chew him out then she takes off and he follows behind! lol

but that is future ONe day at a time. Macs one dog policy is insane. I have never had just one Is that possible?

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Deb: I am glad that your son may be able to help with this for you. I can certainly understand you being reluctant to ask your neighbor and if it were your neighbor and you had the means to help him - even if it was a big job and a temporary one - would you do it? Besides this is a guy kind of thing. I had my carpet cleaned recently. Big pieces of furniture had to be lifted on tabs and blocks to protect the wood and the carpet. It dawned on me that once everything dried, I couldn't move the furniture by myself - especially a high dresser that could easily become unbalanced. In the end, I had to admit I had to have help and asked my grandson to help me. In the end, he pretty much said "Nana, I can do this. You don't need to help." The dresser that worried me most did get moved and he got to figure out the best way to do it. I could see the pride in his face and the joy he got from doing the heavy stuff needed to be done in my house. Regardless - I'm just glad you do have some options available to you! You are one resourceful gal.

$300 to bury a horse. Wow!

Sweet to know that both a horse and a pig are friends. I love what nature shows us if we'll just drop what we think we know about them and watch them for awhile.

I had a one cat policy once. Then, I ended up with four. There is always time for him to change his mind to at least a dog, a cat and maybe a turtle, too? Or maybe he can move in with you with his one dog?

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Aw, im sorry about your pig debilyn, hope it gets sorted and your feeling better soon. X

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