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Slogans


Can someone plz give me a list of the slogans for me to memorize?



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Sure There's an excellent list written by missmeliss. Scroll down a few to see the topic horrible night, and check out her response.
Others will have more, too.


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I went from paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude.

"Place me where you want me and tell me what to do".

You didn't Cause it, you can't Cure it and you can't Control it.

Let Go and Let God

S-save
M-mother
O-obsess
O-own
T-take abuse
H-HP (be his or let him be your tin God)
E-expect
R-react

One Day at a Time

Easy Does It

He/She will either drink, or he/she won't.... what are YOU gonna do?

Try looking at your active A with a large SSS stamped on their forehead

Focus on the "whats", not the "whys" - the whys will kill ya...

Honesty got you there, tolerance keeps you there

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Suess

You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to.

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Think, Don't React

How Important Is It

When In Doubt Don't

No Is A Complete Sentence, Feel Good About Saying No

Listen And Learn

Fake It Till You Make It

Insanity "Doing the same things over and over again expecting different results".

"If I keep doing what I've always done I'll keep getting what I've always gotten."

"If it ain't broke...don't fix it".

G.O.D. - Good Orderly Direction

Listen and Learn...take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. You have TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason - use the ears twice as often as you use the mouth.

When you're confused about what you should do and where you should be, stand very still for a while and look down at your feet...that will tell you where you are at; next look directly above you and ask, "Where do you want me?" then listen with both of your ears.

The alcoholic is a sick person because they drink too much, what is my excuse. (enablers question).

what you think of me is none of my business

There is only one thing you need to change about yourself in Al-Anon... E V E R Y T H I N G.

Steps One thru Three condensed. "I can't - God can - I'll let Him"

The twelve steps condensed. Trust God - Clean House - Help Others.

When at first you don't succeed...call your sponsor.

Next time you're feeling smart and think you know the solution to the alcoholic's problem...Say out loud "I think you should..." and then listen quietly. Most often you can hear God laugh.

"Recovery isn't winning, it's not playing."

"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."



I refrain from practicing the 4 M's found in our literature which are:
Mothering
Manipulating
Managing
Matyrdom

I have a full life today that is worth living. I remain grounded in my recovery and keep the focus on me leaving the results up to my HP.


I also like "An expectation is a future resentment" or
If you're not a fortune teller...stay out of the future.
Having a resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Often times the answer to a prayer is No or Wait.
There is only one God...I'm not it and neither are you.
Most naturally what you get from carrying too much weight is a hernia.
Many people will not choose recovery because of the fear or the pain of surgery.
My experience has been that when I am unwilling to ask for help, and I insist that I can do it all myself, I'm just a drunk talking to a crazy person.
I thought I was so cool. Then my sponsor pointed out that the definition of "cool" is "not so hot."
None of us came here on a winning streak
"If you do not know where you are going, then any road will take you there."
"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open"
If I can't be a good example then I will just have to serve as a horrible warning
Take the mess to your sponsor, the message to the meeting
Don't speak unless you can improve on silence
It is only a short jump from humility to senility
"I may only have one recovery in me. "
I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once
If it weren't for self-pity, I wouldn't get any

AA has a wrench that fits every nut that walks in the door
I'd rather have a frontal lobotomy than a bottle in front of me.
He who foresees calamities suffers them twice over.

I thought God would open up the "gates of heaven" and let me in. He didn't. He opened up the "gates of hell" and let me out.

No more taking the blame for someone else's drinking!
Be gentle with yourself
Don't worry about whether he's really an alcoholic
Don't pour out the booze
Learn to relax
Don't be afraid of losing him because you're changing
Stop arguing with him (it works!)
Do one thing every day just for yourself
Use tough love
Don't ride with him when he's drunk
Confront him!
Walk away from abuse
Accept yourself
Don't believe "Drunk Is Fun!"
Tell your families? Only if you want to!
Mean what you say and say what you mean
Deal with his arrogance!
Don't change your address!
Hide the car keys?
You have the right to get sick too!
Learn about blackouts
Try to remember it's a disease
Let the crises happen
No more lying to his boss!
Start to get help---- Even though he's the alcoholic
Stay with him or leave him "Just for today"
Break out of your isolation
Stop asking permission!
Act as if you love you
Put him in the back of your mind
Don't feel guilty when you're mad!
Forget his bad mouth
Don't say you're changing-----just do it
Stop telling him how to get sober (don't talk to brick walls, either)
Don't get scared when he threatens to drink
Wipe out saying, "you've been drinking again!"
Don't expect him to be sober
Stop checking the bars
Don't beg him to stay
Don't be scared that he will leave if he gets well
Getting Help
Sex and alcoholism

I have now reached a place on my journey where I will no longer tolerate unacceptable behavior.

I keep this surrender prayer when I need guidance, take what you like...
God, today is Your day.
may I be who You would have me be.
may I do what You would have me do.
may I go where You would have me go.
and say what You would have me say.
May Your Will be done in all things.

I also like "An expectation is a future resentment" or
If you're not a fortune teller...stay out of the future.

Having a resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Often times the answer to a prayer is No or Wait.
There is only one God...I'm not it and neither are you.
Most naturally what you get from carrying too much weight is a hernia.
Many people will not choose recovery because of the fear or the pain of surgery.
My experience has been that when I am unwilling to ask for help, and I insist that I can do it all myself, I'm just a drunk talking to a crazy person.
I thought I was so cool. Then my sponsor pointed out that the definition of "cool" is "not so hot."
None of us came here on a winning streak
"If you do not know where you are going, then any road will take you there."
"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open"
If I can't be a good example then I will just have to serve as a horrible warning
Take the mess to your sponsor, the message to the meeting
Don't speak unless you can improve on silence
It is only a short jump from humility to senility
"I may only have one recovery in me. "
I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once
If it weren't for self-pity, I wouldn't get any


The Awakening~~
A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change... or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that neither of you is Prince Charming or Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you... and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions. And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself... and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself... and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties.... and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.
And you begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should make, what you should drive, how and where you should live, who you should marry, the importance of having and raising children, and what you owe your parents, family, and friends.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with ... and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. And you learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK.... and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want... and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less.
And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect.
You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve... and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone...and that it's OK to risk asking for help.
You learn the only thing you must truly fear is the greatest robber baron of all: FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.
And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.
You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state -- the ego.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.


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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."

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Wow Breaking Free that is a great list.  Thanks  for all your efforts. 

Here are a few slogans in a poem form that might be fun to memorize


Al-Anon Slogans in a Poem - By Coach Papa


Slogans in a Poem by Coach Papa

First Things First - I have heard it said - Be Honest With yourself, - get out of your head - You can Feel Good -About Saying "No" - Keep Coming Back to - Talk And Grow - Easy Does It - sounds real nice - If you Keep It Simple - you don't roll the dice - Live And Let Live - Brings it back to you - They're in recovery, - you are, too - What's to Be will Be - So, Let Go & Let God - Just wait and see - That one Day At A Time - Is more than a phrase - In Al-Anon, - it's the phrase that pays - Think! Listen And Learn - or watch bridges burn - Keep An Open Mind, - Now it's your turn - Is your serenity worth it - Just, Fake It 'Till You Make It! - I am pretty sure, You can - Cause, How - important is it? - In time, you will understand - It's true, we're all different, - But, together we can make it - If you feel that you can't, - Then, once again, fake it - When you let it begin with me - The fog will raise, - the sun will shine - Your eyes will see - Slogans are there - For you to use - Say one every day - So you don't sing the blues - It works when you work it - We say and it's true - We're all here to help - But your recovery is up to you.



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This is brilliant, thanks for this. X

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Great lists I'm going to bookmark this page ;) Thankyou breaking free and Betty

I'll add a few not all are slogans some are acronyms and tidbits

Why
Am
I
Talking?

I can't god can I think I'll let him

We get here when we feel like we've had it

Ask god what's the next best thing to do

Stay in your hula hoop ;)

Stay where your hand are

Forgetting
Everything
Is
Alright

Talk slow and low and stay in control

If you worry, why pray
And if you pray, why worry

False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Take away the power from the alcoholic
Let go of the rope

Don't just do something sit there

Wherever you are be there

Go with the flow don't control

Cool down past kill

Don't
Criticize
Instruct
Advise

God doesn't say no he says not yet
Or I have something better ;)

God has one arm across my shoulder and the other across my mouth

I'm a child of god
And god doesn't make junk

God
U
And
I
Dance=guidance

Insanity= believing I can change someone else

Stay away from my old friends Vick and Tim (victim)

God gives his best students the hardest lessons

You will know when you have serenity when you don't have it

Forward
All
Issues
To
Heaven

I am enough

I detach mentally from the insanity caused by this disease

It's ok to say no




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I needed these behaviors in my past they helped me survive I'm finding new and better ways to not just survive but thrive 

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