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Babysteps


Each and everyday all I can take is baby steps for I'm still in the woods with my a bf,I'm going loafing today visit my friend ,and try try try to keep the focus on me and off him,his life is chaotic ,always something going wrong,as for me and my life I value my serenity and peace of mind,I've got to do this I know I can I've been reading other posts here ,and helps me so much,he is being mr nicey nicey but for how long???dont know but I've got to be ready for his next mess up,I've learned from alanon that they are a rollercoaster.ty agin I love y'all dearly I need y'all that I do know....lookingup



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Good Plan to visit a friend, keep the focus on yourself and attempt to maintain your serenity That is WORK You wiill not be loafing!!! It takes energy and concentration to focused anddn on target. Recite the slogans if yu get upset. Good Luck Let us know how the day goes.

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Good for you, thats a good start, do this everyday and it will become habit, then before you know your life is fuller and he is the last thing on your mind, then you will be asking yourself what on earth did I see in him, well thats bow it worked for me.x

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I like that saying ty ( he is the last thing on my mind) and what on earth did I see in him,sounds magical almost.keeing my life fuller I can do that surely if it makes me forget him.

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It's not so much about forgetting him as it is about focusing on you, LU. What makes your eyes light up? What makes your heart happy? What makes your life worth living? I can't forget any of my loves as they all helped form and shape me in some ways. I do, however, recognize that those folks were all just a part of my life - flowers and weeds in my garden so to speak - but they were not my life and will never be my life even when I want them to be or think I need them to be. My life is within me. It vibrates with health and energy when I'm treating myself well. It feels lost to me when I'm caught up in the past or fearing the future. Each step you take daily to focus on you and what you want and need for you - with or without a partner - and then do what you can to meet those wants and needs is a step towards increased confidence and peace. Glad you're here. Keep focusing on you and coming back, too.

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