It's not working for me - Al-Anon Family Group

Wisdom67 · Senior Member

It's not working for me

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I know how tough it is out there and so many are depending on help because of this economy and now your in it. I hope you can get some assistance soon. Money and foodstamps should be a given because you have children. Help with health insurance should also be a given for you. That's what these programs are for. I'm glad your X did step in and I hope he can do more in the short term until you secure employment.

I know the feeling of being depressed but it really doesn't help at all. It's not going to get you a job. An idea might be is to go direct to a employment agency then your number is not getting out to the world. Any job at this point would be better than nothing at all. You have to stay positive and work hard for the rewards to appear.

I will keep you in my prayers that HP will answer your prayers and help you though this very trying time in your life.

(((( hugs ))))

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Keep trying wisdom. Stay optimistic and look at your capabilities. You don't have time or much option to be negative here. Chin up and keep trying! You can do this!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

So very sorry Wisdom Please attempt to apply for all the social services available. There is a food stamp prgram and rent susbsidy program in my state Please keep trying You are not alone.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Keep going Wisdom.....you can do this.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Call a womens domestic violence group. The ones I know of will know how and where to guide you. Women helping women is what you need. You don't have to have been abused for them to care.

Have you put ads on Craigslist? Just to have on room and a bathroom would help you.

Is there a place there for temporary work? Here that is where employers hire from. the ones who are actually good workers get hired full time.

Salvation army helps, st vincent de Paul helps. If you feel drawn to any religious group, go there, tell of your problem. See if anyone would be willing to help you help yourself.

Look on craigslist if you have a home and homeshare. that would bring in instant monies. there are many working people in your situation who can come together to share and thrive! Put ad on CL to clean houses, stay in someones home while they are gone. pet sit in homes and yours. I cleaned out flower beds, landscaped, took stuff to dump for people.do you have a car? I would trade it for a dependable pick up. Deliver things for thrift shops, people buy big things but cannot move them. Offer to go get bark dust and deliver.

I am throwing ideas out. I don't know where you live, we can have 4 chickens in our yards if we are in town. I am in country but always have eggs and share them. if you have a few chickens, fed them scraps etc you would have eggs.

grow a garden, I am thinking the womens support group is where you could find things in your area. IF you want,pm me and tell me where you live, city state. Let me do some calling.

What do you need exactly? What are your skills? DEpression makes it hard to be proactive. You have a computer? There is online work. IN fact there is online work with phone companies.

You need a hand up so you can keep going....care about you! debilyn

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Please forgive me, I don't do well when people change their nics.

You have kids? This opens more doors for you!

How old are they? Again please pm me. I know the snap program, used to be food stamps is about worthless now. so dumb when we need it the most!!They are fazing it out!!!

Depression is very hard, I know. Most people who do not suffer from it do not understand it is not a matter of bucking up.It is a disease that people need help with.

again pm me. hugs, everything will be ok. love!!!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

In my experience, Wisdom, it pays to call the food banks daily and the shelters, too. Each day things change for both food banks, shelters and other resource providers. It is getting close to the end of the month so some places may tell you their resources are depleted. Some mean for the day, some mean for the rest of the week, some mean until the 1st of the month. Putting in 10 applications a day to find a job may also be helpful to you? Looking for work becomes a fulltime job for some and I've never known anyone who didn't find one if they are employable and willing to do the legwork. It takes time and diligence and the first job you get may not be your dream job, but it could be just the right job for you right now? It can get discouraging but this too will pass. Keep going, Wisdom. Temporary agencies are a good way to work, earn a little money and shop for a suitable employment place for you, too. If you are a displaced homemaker, there might be agencies or resources in your local community college if there is one to check out to see if there are options for job training or work programs? I know that Goodwill often has job training programs that pay a stipend and some States also have a Work First Program that helps you obtain state funding while you work as a volunteer in an area non-profit. I don't know your age, so this may not apply, but AARP gets Title 1 money to do job training with folks 50 or older for which the participant is also paid a stipend.

-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 21st of July 2014 03:31:20 PM

-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 21st of July 2014 03:33:32 PM

Wisdom67 · Senior Member

Thank you for the extra help it's so overwhelming when so much to do when never done it before . My ex didn't live up to his barging . I droped charges keep the RO in place for protection . Never got my child support last week . The court decided absolutely no contact between us for 3 years . . I do get food stamps 200.00 a month that does not cover a lot of food plus toiletry shampoo ex that has to come out of my child support money .my birthday past my lic has ex spired I do not have money to get a new one . The kids do have health insurance and healthy kids but don't cover the co pay which has to come out of my pocket . I'm trying my best to maintain self for the kids but they no a lot more about what's going . On and I am working with a domestic team to find me location and a place to live . Some of what they showed me would put me and kids I'm harms way . I have a safely major trust . I'm scared of my surrounding of ppl I don't know .. I will be forceful and demand more help . This is pity talk not gonna lie but my learning disability play a big factor on me and depresstion is bad . I Going to back to church pray more stick to my program sometimes I wish I stayed in the marries and dealt with the crap he alwaysafe sure I would suffer and have nothing . It's my fault I guess I get what I deserve . Thank you all for your out reach and help I'm going to bed tonight and pray that some thing good happens to me . I have another court date aug 11 he wants his weapons to be released I'm will contest that I don't feel comfortable knowing he will have access to them to think if I just gave him another chance maybe I would not be struggling what father I'm there right mind watch his kids have nothing . I might not post for a while I need to get my head together . I love you all for your support thank you

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Churches will often help their members, too, Wisdom. I can remember feeling that overwhelmed, too. Please keep posting and going to meetings. I understand wanting to get your head together and I've learned I can better do that with support and feedback from Al-Anon fellowship. Maybe there is a person or two on the board that you feel close to that you can pm? Isolating is something that we work to counterbalance by reaching out to people who care about us and understand because they've been through it.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

You're loved here also...my suggestion is live in the moment...not in the past or in the future and absolutely no blaming and judging Wisdom...do not put her down cause she is doing the best she can with what she has. Check to see if there is anyone willing to trade room for work or someone looking for a house sitter while they are gone. The weapons? Turn them over to the judge or the Sherriff with your story about him and the threats. Go lay down in your HPs hands when you need a rest. In support. ((((hugs)))) smile

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

The fact he's been in violation of his RO and in jail should be enough for him not to be able to have weapons legally in his possession.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Take care Wisdom I love your honesty Prayers and positive thoughts on the way.

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

I think churches will help you also. If they cannot they probably can pass your name on to someone else. There has got to be some help out there for you and your kids.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

If you have the disease of depression you can get on disability. Are the kids not on assistance? Health insurance thru the state has no copay.

I know the snap program is a joke. I probably spend that much in a week and a half and it is just me!

Did you get energy assistance?

There are also programs for single parents to go to school to learn a skill to work. And you get money to live on also. Fixing computers is soooo easy once you learn how. That is a HUGE great way to work at home.

plus does not take that much schooling.

Finding fault to me is a waste of time. Who cares who's fault it is. Look at the issue, find your options and go for it.

NO do not go to some dump or bad neighborhood. I agree 100%

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