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Do all alcoholics talk to themselves? Mumble talk quite say I saying mean things? I try to ignore it not take it personal if I s a y anything it's gonna be a fight. He will roll his eyes blame me say I'm picking "oh here we go" because I snap as him to be quiet I truly believe he can't stop talking. Is this all his disease?
Paranoia is part and parcel of alcoholism. What the chemical does to the mind and neurological system is horrendous. Without you blaming him for anything he is already blaming himself about not being able to control the situation. He cannot control alcohol or alcoholism...He is powerless and his life has become unmanageable. Not all talk to themselves and it seems you have one that does...talking to themselves often is the least of the problem. Keep coming back. If you have Al-Anon literature...ODATT, Courage to Change, Hope for Today and/or others. Let go of focusing on him and spend time reading...self focusing. Mine use to just pass out and go comatose like...scary. Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
Nah. Some just isolate and don't talk at all. With alcoholism, there are a handful of nutty behaviors and a person can have different reaction even though the disease is the same and they all act more similar than different.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 18th of April 2014 06:15:45 AM
The alcoholic in my life acts as if he is talking to me, and rambles on and on, but if I start doing something else or make it clear that I am not listening and am not interested, he just keeps droning on. I don't think he's aware of me at all when he does this and is more or less using me as an object to receive his words; I don't think he cares if I hear or understand them. He does this with other people too; he will have conversations with his family members on skype and they will send me messages or have entire conversations with me via chat as he drones on and on, unaware that no-one is listening or that everyone is a bit disturbed by his behaviour. I can't offer you much other than to say, I relate, and also that i don't listen when he does this because what he is saying is generally nonsense; it's almost as if he is talking in his sleep.
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Interesting. My AH talks to himself a lot. But I think some people do that who aren't A. My AH also has ADD. I think alcohol destroys their brain cells little by little and we see all kinds of odd things from them.
Yea My A/W does this on a nightly basis at about 9pm in the first stages of her intoxication. It used to drive me crazy and I would engage with her however I learned to ignore it, took a long time to do that but I finally learned that to argue with an intoxicated person was making me just as insane as they were acting...One thing that helps me that I like to remind myself of frequently is not to take anything mumbled or even screamed personal, no matter how nasty or vile it may be, this historically has proven to be just an attempt to get me to join in on the insanity...used to work....but I feel a whole lot better now that I have learned to detach myself from these situations and retain my own sanity. lol sometimes earplugs help as well.
Do all alcoholics talk to themselves? Mumble talk quite say I saying mean things? I try to ignore it not take it personal if I s a y anything it's gonna be a fight. He will roll his eyes blame me say I'm picking "oh here we go" because I snap as him to be quiet I truly believe he can't stop talking. Is this all his disease?