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Where I'm At


I met with a friend last night for dinner.  I guess she's more of an acquaintance.  I met her when I was taking a class and we've stayed in touch.  I don't know... I left feeling uncomfortable and just not good with myself and where I am at this time.  I felt like I was sitting in a high chair with a sippy cup across the table from her if you understand what I mean. It was one of those compare and dispair things concerning my work.  I realize this is about me and not her.  I felt that old acoa shame envelope me when I shared with her and flew into that apologetic people pleasing mode when she crossed a boundary.  I didn't want to be perceived as not being "nice."  I had no reason to apologize for telling her I thought her question was "kind of personal."  She then defended that she didn't think it was a personal question and then gave me permission not to answer it if I didn't want to. How magnanimous.  It was about my bf's my living situation and finances.  I found myself sucked in and I answered her question which was a major slip in my program.  I really have nothing to prove to this woman - whatever choices I and my bf make is our business.  I'm going to use this experience as a good exercise in preparedness for upcoming interviews lol.  Anyway... I need to be mindful that despite all the self esteem crushing that's going on in my workplace, my worth hasn't changed. I need to observe others objectively and be mindful not to measure myself against them.  Thanks for letting me share.  It's been good for me to reason this out. TT 



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Oh how those familiar feelings creep back in to say hello...though, now, they, too are mere acquaintances and you demonstrated a great example of thatsmile  Great boundary strengthening in the moment, don't you love when that happens?

I edited twice..when I use my IPAD and it autocorrects, I sound like I need the rooms of AA, too!!!!  I proofread, but I am suspecting it continues to autocorrect after I hit "submit"biggrin 

-- Edited by PP on Wednesday 16th of April 2014 08:43:34 AM



-- Edited by PP on Wednesday 16th of April 2014 09:19:53 AM

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Paula



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sometimes we just need to say it out loud. always good to see ya TT.

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((TT)) I can relate to those moments and my walking away wondering why I did or said something that was uncomfortable. I never seem to run out of opportunities for practicing something! Please be gentle with you.

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Thanks so much for sharing with me and for your support.  TT



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