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well its school vacation. we r staying hone for the most part. getting caught up.on family and home stuff. just to.ketyou all know. . as you may remember. .i was hoping for a posibility of a job change. wellll. . .the one i was hoping for let me kniw they were in need of someone with credentials a step above mine, despite having advertised differentky. i was so disappointed. i was so ready to make a change but now its not looking like it will happen. soo. . for now i stay in the toxic dysfunctional job. . so i guess its time to work on me. . .its a place im powerless over as im not the adminustrator. . he is part of the huge problem sadly. so i must face thexfact that i can only control myself and my reactions and responses despite the incompotence and bitterness surrounding me. its not easy but ive gotvto find a way to hang on awhile longer so that means adjusting my attitude and my expectations. i cant change the place right now. that door hasnt been opened. as for other news, my family member is recovering well from his surgery and the homefront remains quiet and strangly supportive. i know to not place expectations on my ah but for now the little connectedness im seeing and feeling i will take in the moment. thanks to all of you who journey through this with me. you are a gift and blessing to me.
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When all else fails...there is Faith, Hope and Prayer.
TOC Thank you so much for the update. I am pleased that your family member is recovering successfully from the surgery and thatyour family situation has settled down to a manageable level . Sorry to read about the Job disappointment and agree that hanging in for now, using your alanon tools will help
my name is Tracy I have not posted for a bit but wanted to share my ESH with you.
In my last job I was working with a spiritually unwell boss is was not until I left I realised the impact it had on me.
Luckily I had al anon and as you suggested I used programme to check my own attitudes behaviours etc,
However I am aware that I can stay in situations that are not good for me. Al anon has learnt me that I am important and how to love and care for myself.
I treated my boss with compassion , tolerance and needed lots of patience but it was my responsibility to change what I could.
I prayed for Hps guidance and today I am in a job I love.
It is the serenity prayer in action.
take good care of yourself, take what you like and leave the rest hugs tracy xxxxx
Dysfunction is everywhere in my experience. My family life is dysfunctiinal and my workplace is dysfunctional too. I think the best we can do if we must live with it, is to detach with love and keep thinking about our own behaviour, thoughts and actions. In work I try and treat the people like I treat my family, with courtesy but with my eyes off. Healthy boundaries for myself but I know im obsessive and if im not obsessing about one thing I obsess about another so thats the battle I have really, its about me. Bad behaviour, mental illness, crazy people are everywhere so im learning to live in the world with the mixture of people but keeping my own dignity and self respect in tact. Its not easy but work the steps and the program and it shows you how to do it.x
