The Al-Anon Gifts/ Promises - From Survival to Recovery (p269)
If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, our lives will be transformed. Members work their program by being willing to attend meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-Anon/Alateen literature, getting a sponsor, working toward applying the 12 Steps of recovery to their lives and by becoming involved in Al-Anon Service work as they begin to recover.
1. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress will reveal to us our enormous potential.2. We will discover that we are both, worthy of love and loving. We will love others without losing ourselves, and will learn to accept love in return.3. Our sight, once clouded and confused, will clear and we will be able to perceive reality and recognize truth4. Courage and fellowship will replace fear. We will be able to risk failure to develop new hidden talents.5. Our lives, no matter how battered and degraded, will yield hope to share with others.6. We will begin to feel and will come to know the vastness of our emotions, but will not be slaves to them.7. Our secrets will no longer bind us in shame.8. As we gain the ability to forgive our families, the world, and ourselves our choices will expand.9. With dignity we will stand for ourselves, but not against our fellows.10. Serenity and peace will have meaning for us, as we allow our lives and the lives of those we love to flow day by day with G-ds ease, balance, and grace.11. No longer terrified, we will discover we are free to delight in lifes paradox, mystery, and awe.12. We will laugh more.13. Fear will be replaced by faith, and gratitude will come naturally as we realize that our Higher Power is doing for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
Can we really grow to such proportions? Only if we accept life as a continuing process of maturation and evolution toward wholeness. Then we suddenly begin to notice these gifts appearing. We see them in those who walk beside us. Sometimes slowly or haltingly, occasionally in great bursts of brilliance, those who work The Steps change and grow toward light, toward health, and toward their Higher Power. Watching others, we realize this is also possible for us.
Will we ever arrive? Feel joyful all the time? Have no cruelty, tragedy, or injustice to face? Probably not, but we will acquire growing acceptance of our human fallibility, as well as greater love and tolerance for each other. Self-pity, resentment, martyrdom, rage, and depression will fade into memory. Community rather than loneliness will define our lives. We will know that we belong, we are welcome, we have something to contribute, and that is enough.
Thank You for taking the time to post this Tigger
It is so very helpful and hopeful
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Thank you. Just what I needed to hear right now. I know what I need to do. I just need to do it. I am so tired of feeling in such despair. I know there is hope. I just need to do the next right thing and turn my situation over to God.
I .. am not yet convinced that these will happen .. for me .. even though I have in the past. I am taking this as a very good indication that I need to get back into the program despite being so very busy with work and school. We are in the middle of reading week from school.. and yesterday I got to go to a meeting that I haven't been able to attend in a very long time. It felt good to be back in that room with all of the smiles and love and I can't wait until April when school is over with and hopefully I will be able to go back again more often.I want to thank you for the promises.... even though right now, they appear so far beyond me .. I know that I am at the right place.
With love in recovery,
Although it may not be easy the slogans are very helpful. One Day At A Time
Wounds take time to heal
Living 1 day at a time
Stay Strong , live long
Thanks for posting this. I have formatted the text and made a pdf for my wall. I printed it out on pink paper. If anyone wants the pdf I am attaching it.
So good to read. Thank you for posting this.
I felt encouraged reading this post and the replies.
I am growing to and living with the mystery and joy of life.
Thank you all who risk and share your feelings, thoughts, and day to days.
First visit to this page, to any Al Anon forum - read this and I feel HUGGED with hope and understanding. Thru happy tears I read words of gifts greater than I could have ever dreamed. My cousin pointed me in this direction and from what I can tell, I have a lot of work ahead and much to gain...and a cousin to thank.
I have been am dating an alcoholic for a year and when I read that your man does not tell you he loves you and constantly criticizes your appearance and tells you, you are overweight, I was stunned. I am living that life too. We do not have children or live together, but he won't admit he is an alcoholic and has a DUI that of course, is not his fault. He also has a disabling back injury and is taking pain pills with his alcohol.
When he met me. he thought I was just perfect. Now, I don't dress to please him, exercise enough and he doesn't like my cat or that I enjoy reading. We have known each other distantly for over 10 years.
I started Al Anon to fix him, but after only two months I see it is helping me. I am that strong courageous woman, I always have been, and by attending my meeting I want to recover. Slow moving, but there is no timeline. I am praying to my H.P., and feel and know I want that peace and serenity. I am trying to realize I cannot fix his addictions and that I am not giving up on me. I am the work in progress and am working on Letting go and letting God one day at a time. Thank you.
I am willing to do this work. The past 4 years in my last relationship with my EX has messed me up. I think is my biography. Time to live for me now and not him. I still do love him and always, but I cannot change him. In the past, I went to one Ala-non meeting as well as AA meetings with him, but his sobriety never lasted long . In that Ala-non meeting, I learned the term codependent. Although, we are not together romantically anymore, we still remain in contact. He is in prison right now. Claims he has hit rock bottom. But I have heard that before.
Coursge is taking the first step even if we cannot see the path ahead.
I've got new tools, and I'm running with them!
Thank you! I am glad I read this post. I think I am right where I belong. I look forward to that day when it comes, to be able to breathe again!
Admitting I am broken, means I can be fixed
Admitting I am broken means I can be fixed