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Post Info TOPIC: Do's and Don'ts


~*Service Worker*~

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Do's and Don'ts


Hi ((((Family)))

I posted this in the chat room tonight..and was asked to post it up here too.  We read this at my face to face meetings, especially when we have a newcomer!

Some great things to remember when living with the family disease of alcoholism.

Do's

Do learn the facts about alcoholism.
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Do talk to someone who understands alcoholism.
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Do go to Al-Anon, Alcoholics Anonymous, or to an alcoholism center.
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Do develop an attitude to match the facts.
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Do take a personal inventory of yourself.
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Do maintain a healthy emotional atmosphere in your home.
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Do encourage new interest and activities.
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Do pass your knowledge of alcoholism on to others.
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Do seek spiritual help.
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Do get a sponsor.

Don'ts

Don't preach or lecture.
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Don't argue with a drunk alcoholic.
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Don't have a "holier than thou" attitude.
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Don't use the "if you loved me" appeal.
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Don't make threats you won't carry out.
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Don't hide liquor or pour it out.
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Don't resent the method of recovery.
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Don't expect immediate contented sobriety.
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Don't try to protect an alcoholic against alcohol.
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Don't be discouraged by the mistakes you make.



Yours in Recovery,
David

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((((((((((((((David))))))))))))))))))

I love that list and the best one for me right now that stood out a mile was,

"Don't be discouraged by the mistakes you make."

Boy have I made some mistakes and boy o boy have I beaten myself up about them and still do, I am taking this list and putting it up on the inside of my wardrobe, cos it's just for me right now and I will read it every morning when I get up and dressed. I need to start the day with FOCUS.

THANK YOU HONEY BUN. sun.gif

Suzannah
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What a wonderful list.  How lost some of us become. I certainly was.  I had no idea how to cope/live with/find my way out of the morass I was in.


maresie.

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Thanks for posting that, David. The "don'ts" read like my "to do" list in my former life with my A. Gosh - it's so interesting to read that and now see how sick it all was. I also like the "do" list and have made mental notes of those things. Very eye-opening for me. Thanks again.

~R3

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Thank you my friend.  Simple, to the point, exact, easy to digest, powerful and proven winning reminders.   

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Thanks for posting this (((((David)))))

Hopefully I can learn to adopt more of the "Do's" and less of the "Don'ts". With a lot of help from my HP.

Take Care,

Claudia




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Being new to this I have one question. Our son is an alcoholic and is in a rehab right now. We have had to hide our alcohol for many years. How does it help him if we leave it in the open? Thanks Gloria

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Thank you David for this great list and for your service. After spending a week in close quarters with my family I really used many Al-Anon tools to keep my mouth shut and maintain my sanity. Pretty sure at one time I used all on the don't list not realizing how they only added to the chaos. Hiding or disposing of liquor never helped either as an alcoholic will only find another way to satisfy their need.

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My take on that last question is that it's futile to hide the alcoholic's alcohol.  I think many of us have thought we could solve the problem just by making his alcohol harder for him to find.  Of course unless they're in recovery, making drinking slightly less convenient has no effect on them.  If they're in recovery, I think removing obvious temptation is a helpful thing - the same thing as the alcoholic not walking into a bar.  Just my thoughts, take what you like and leave the rest.  I like the list a lot.



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Thank you, I am new here but not to alcoholism. This was the first thread I read. I will read this daily or more if needed.

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Weelocme Please do keep coming back

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