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Post Info TOPIC: AHHHHHH i need to talk to someone!


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AHHHHHH i need to talk to someone!


My mom just said that she hasn't been drinking for 2 weeks! AHHHH I.....I ....I need someone to talk to!

Lanchas confusedashamed


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I'm missing the point of your post?

DeVon-befuddled

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my mom has been drinking my entire life. now she tells me that she has not been drinking for the last 2 weeks. i need to vent to someone but get feedback at the same time.

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Are you scared that she's trying to be sober? Just not sure how to feel about the change in events?

I know I'd probably be blown away if I had someone I knew who was drinking all the time come out and announce "I haven't drank in a couple weeks!"

I've learned the hard way that if they're working to be sober, SUPPORT it. Know, too, that now is NOT the time to tell them "if you go back to drinking again, I'll leave" or something to that effect.

Get to some F2F meetings. They'll help a lot.

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Could you be even more specific?
Isn't not drinking for 2 weeks a good thing?  A start?

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Aloha Lanchas!!

I don't like surprises and change either.  I had the question Now what do I do? come to mind.  I learned many great things to do with myself and my life in
the Al-Anon Family Groups.  Give it a try and keep coming back.

(((((hugs)))))smile

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Lan, if you feel this way again, just go into the chat room. hugs hon,debilyn



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When I find myself in any kind of over-reaction I am generally in a place of being in Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired.  I have to take a step back and re-evaluate why I am over reacting.  Self Regulation is not my forte. I am getting better at it. Every single day I work on taking care of me because of course I did not do that for 7 years.  Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself.

I was very very very dependent on the A I was with. i gave him tremendous power over my life. These days I work on taking back that power, day in day out I take it back.  Even resenting him is in some ways giving him power.

I have not spoken to the A now for a few months. For me personally that is a blessing because I have nothing good to say to him so it is better not said. I am angry with him but I've given up telling him because he does not value my point of view.

maresie.

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