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I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...

im wrestling with this question: what is my part in the abusive way my a-bf treats me. i meet him with compassion and understanding. i try to set boundaries. i try to work my program and yet beyond my continued presence in the relationship, i cannot identify my part. is it enough to say i'm doing my part j...

Hi. I have been with my addict since we were 11 years old. We have been in a consistent relationship for the past 7 years with a few hiccups in between. We are both only 22 years old and we have a 4 year old daughter and another girl on the way! I love him more than I can say, despite every wrong doing he has done...

I have known my boyfriend since middle school. We were friends thoughout the years. We hit it off more recently and became a couple. I should have known better not to fall in love and pursue a relationship with him. Both of us were of the grunge band stoner crew back in the day. I had problems with pills a...

I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...

I have incredible guilt right now for ending things with my boyfriend who was just days home from treatment. Guilt that I wasn't patient enough, that I let my emotions overshadow my ability to make a sound decsision. But he's moved out and its done. Back story at what brought me to my breaking point...

*Hello everyone, I just wanted to update on my ex-fiance who was in treatment for addiction to Oxycontin. I had previously posted under the user name YoungLady but I lost the password and was unable to reset it.* _ My ex-fiance, now "boyfriend" is seven months sober from opiates. The past year was real...

After living with my alcoholic wife for 10 years, I moved out of our shared home (rental) two and a half years ago. I initially bounced between sublets and a friend's house for one year, and then moved into my own one-bedroom apartment in Jan 2016. During that time my wife had 7-8 stays in residential t...

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I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...
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im wrestling with this question: what is my part in the abusive way my a-bf treats me. i meet him with compassion and understanding. i try to set boundaries. i try to work my program and yet beyond my continued presence in the relationship, i cannot identify my part. is it enough to say i'm doing my part j...
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Hi. I have been with my addict since we were 11 years old. We have been in a consistent relationship for the past 7 years with a few hiccups in between. We are both only 22 years old and we have a 4 year old daughter and another girl on the way! I love him more than I can say, despite every wrong doing he has done...
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I have known my boyfriend since middle school. We were friends thoughout the years. We hit it off more recently and became a couple. I should have known better not to fall in love and pursue a relationship with him. Both of us were of the grunge band stoner crew back in the day. I had problems with pills a...
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I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...
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I have incredible guilt right now for ending things with my boyfriend who was just days home from treatment. Guilt that I wasn't patient enough, that I let my emotions overshadow my ability to make a sound decsision. But he's moved out and its done. Back story at what brought me to my breaking point...
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Hello everyone, I just wanted to update on my ex-fiance who was in treatment for addiction to Oxycontin. I had previously posted under the user name YoungLady but I lost the password and was unable to reset it. _ My ex-fiance, now "boyfriend" is seven months sober from opiates. The past year was real...
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After living with my alcoholic wife for 10 years, I moved out of our shared home (rental) two and a half years ago. I initially bounced between sublets and a friend's house for one year, and then moved into my own one-bedroom apartment in Jan 2016. During that time my wife had 7-8 stays in residential t...

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