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Hello My fiance is a binge drinker, not a terrible one but he loses control of drinking with blackout and 12+/15+ drinks around once a week. I thought he was getting better when we got engaged - very little binging - but found out since fall started that he's not. I was devastated because I am too scared to...

I haven't reached out further than my closest friend for help. I bought a book on codependency and I sort of half way relate to it. I am not sure where really to start here... So I'll try to spit this out.... I believe I am a codependent, living with an alcoholic who has admitted the problem, been to AA meeti...

Well, I'm 26 years old and am a child of an alcoholic. Actually, it's more like I'm the parent (And I know that's typical for child-adult alcoholic relationships). My parents divorced when I was 4 due to my father's drug/alcohol abuse. My mother's father was an alcoholic (vodka killed him), so my mot...

I have been friends with this person for roughly six years. She has a history of reckless behavior growing up, which supposedly ended with the birth of her son, but in reality just changed to accommodate him. She has created an identity as a fearless person who never backs down from life (fun), and woul...

i apologize in advance...my laptop is about done and doesnt like punctuation so forgive the strange way i am writing. Am I too sensitive? On the other thread I started a couple of days ago, I mentioned someone had called to tell me: this just is not working for me so Im shutting this whole thing down...re...

Hi All, I'm new here and would like some opinions on what happened to my relationship with my ex GF. I am a compulsive overeater and go back and forth between going to OA meetings. I suggested my GF try Al Anon to deal with some problems her daughter was having and she liked the meetings and began to attend r...

I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...

Hello all, I am new here. Been asking these questions for some time now. I need some advice as I don't know where to turn, and feeling very isolated and alone. I plan on going to an Al-Anon meeting Monday evening. I have been in a relationship with a self-professed alcoholic for 2-1/2 years. I had not know...

I am brand new here and absorbing information like a sponge this morning. April 24 - I "came out of the closet" you could say. My AH of 23 years crossed the line on drinking -I have had it. I told him that I was done - I am so angry, tired, fed up, hurt, broken due to this disease and everything else on my plat...

Happened upon a hidden bottle of gin yesterday, which answers my question about how my AH is nodding off in the evenings though I've not seen him have more than one drink. He was drifting off late yesterday afternoon (head thrown straight back), and we had plans to go to a concert later. I prayed for my HP...

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Happened upon a hidden bottle of gin yesterday, which answers my question about how my AH is nodding off in the evenings though I've not seen him have more than one drink. He was drifting off late yesterday afternoon (head thrown straight back), and we had plans to go to a concert later. I prayed for my HP...

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