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Hi, I'm new to this site and new to the condition of alcoholism. I have three step-children ages 19, 17 and 11. Their mother will be going in for residential treatment in a week for 30 days. During that time they will be living with me and their father full time. (We normally have them every other week...

Hi all! I'm new to the group and first want to say hello and thank you for being here. I have a problem and hopefully can get an answer today (sorry to post at the last minute but I just found you guys!) My birthday was on Sep. 1st and my AH's birthday is today, Sep. 15th. My AH had been sober now for over a year. I...

I have been married to my AH for nearly 10 years.

He has been in and out of recovery too many times for me to count.I knew he was an addict from the beginning.I had a profound love for him from the moment we met.When we were first going out, I caught him in my bathroom smoking crack.I could have dumped...

Hello All, This is my second post in this forum. My ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years is an alcoholic. We lived together for about year and broke up last October. It has been a tumultuos turning of events and I sought the help of Al anon and will be in the program for 5 months in March. I got a sponsor and I am wo...

I've been married for 13 years and have 3 and 5 year old little girls. My husband is a binge drinker and a pot smoker. He has been in a 12 step program since July 2011 when I found out he drove drunk with our daughters in the car and told him I'd reached the end of my rope. I knew he was going to continue with this b...

I haven't reached out further than my closest friend for help. I bought a book on codependency and I sort of half way relate to it. I am not sure where really to start here... So I'll try to spit this out.... I believe I am a codependent, living with an alcoholic who has admitted the problem, been to AA meeti...

Hi all, I am new to the boards and fairly new to this whole area. My husband has been drinking for well over a decade and we we have been together for 11 years. We had a pretty rocky marriage for many of those years, but then I got very sick with a debilitating illnesss. For many years I could barely get ou...

Hello, I am new to this site, and new to Al-Anon, but I thought that it might be helpful for me to share my story and get some opinions from people who have been in a similar situations themselves. So here it goes: About a year and a half ago, I started dating who I didn't realize then was a fucitoning alcohol...

My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I guess deep down, if Im being completely honest, I have known for quite a while. Finding bottles of liquor behind the garbage in the bathroom, or in a suitcase in the storage closet, isnt normal. Why didnt I ever address it with him? All the signs were there, and I never said...

I was told by the Nurse in the hospital the day I lost my Dad, that it would be good for me to share my story... So here I am, openly speaking about my pain for the first time. On May 5, 2014 my father lost his battle with Alcoholism. In 2006, when I was 17, my parents divorced, this was the start of everything...

Hi Everyone! I just want to say thank you in advance for anyone who takes the time to read my post/reply. I've never done anything like this before so I don't really know where to start. My therapist suggested to me that she thinks al-anon meetings would help me, but I have a very busy schedule and I think a...

I'm not sure, as I sit here, what exactly I am hoping to gain by typing this out. I don't know that anyone can advise me on an effective solution or soothe me with words of wisdom. My earliest memories as a child are of my father or about my father and his being drunk, violent, out of control, or all of the abov...

Hello, I'm not sure of where else to turn at this point. My brother-in-law's wife has been dealing with severe alcoholism for many years now. Things became quite bad almost five years ago. She suffered from withdrawal and was in a medically induced coma for almost a month and nearly died. Since then s...

Hey I'm kinda new here but I'm Chelsea and I'm 16. I don't get along with my mom at all now and moved in with my dad two years ago because of her extreme drinking problem. she has been drinking since before she had me but has gradually got worse, to the point where me and dad never tell her if I have a parents eve...

I'm the 20 year old daughter of an alcoholic mother.She has been an alcoholic my entire life, and lost custody of my brother and I as a kids. My 50 year old mother tried to kill herself a year ago and then was in rehab for several months and did GREAT. It was like meeting a new version of my mother I'd never s...

Hi.Im back! Ive been gone for awhile trying to re-adjust. Sorry for the lengthy post. Im just looking for some words of encouragement and suggestions. I have read a few post and they really resonated with me. I have been in a relationship with my now exAB for almost two years. Stuck by him continuou...

I'm 19 years old, and my mum has been drinking since I was about 10/11, and it's gradually worsened over the years. She's not a physically abusive drunk but instead is emotionally abusive, saying horrible things to me and my dad, and really anyone who's in the room and may have challenged her about her d...

Hello everyone, I very much need some help. I am struggling to cope, on the receiving end. I am 41, female and had to leave my marriage four Years ago as my husband did not manage to recover from cocaine addiction. I felt seriously let down. After I managed to get free of the mental anguish that that relati...

Hi All I have searched the internet and am at a loss as to what do next. My brother has been diagnosed with cirrhosis. He went into detox for 1 week and was booked I for rehab but after the detox he decided he wasn't going. So he is now at his house, drinking again. His wife has left and is staying with her adul...

Dear all, I'm here cause I feel confused and seek advice. I'm the sister of a bipolar addict (currently going through a manic episode) and daughter of a recovering alcoholic. I'm depressed myself and I have just had enough....we live together but are selling our family home to move away after 40yrs....

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Hi, I'm new to this site and new to the condition of alcoholism. I have three step-children ages 19, 17 and 11. Their mother will be going in for residential treatment in a week for 30 days. During that time they will be living with me and their father full time. (We normally have them every other week...
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Hi all! I'm new to the group and first want to say hello and thank you for being here. I have a problem and hopefully can get an answer today (sorry to post at the last minute but I just found you guys!) My birthday was on Sep. 1st and my AH's birthday is today, Sep. 15th. My AH had been sober now for over a year. I...
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Hello All, This is my second post in this forum. My ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years is an alcoholic. We lived together for about year and broke up last October. It has been a tumultuos turning of events and I sought the help of Al anon and will be in the program for 5 months in March. I got a sponsor and I am wo...
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I haven't reached out further than my closest friend for help. I bought a book on codependency and I sort of half way relate to it. I am not sure where really to start here... So I'll try to spit this out.... I believe I am a codependent, living with an alcoholic who has admitted the problem, been to AA meeti...
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Hi all, I am new to the boards and fairly new to this whole area. My husband has been drinking for well over a decade and we we have been together for 11 years. We had a pretty rocky marriage for many of those years, but then I got very sick with a debilitating illnesss. For many years I could barely get ou...
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Hello, I am new to this site, and new to Al-Anon, but I thought that it might be helpful for me to share my story and get some opinions from people who have been in a similar situations themselves. So here it goes: About a year and a half ago, I started dating who I didn't realize then was a fucitoning alcohol...
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My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I guess deep down, if Im being completely honest, I have known for quite a while. Finding bottles of liquor behind the garbage in the bathroom, or in a suitcase in the storage closet, isnt normal. Why didnt I ever address it with him? All the signs were there, and I never said...
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Hi Everyone! I just want to say thank you in advance for anyone who takes the time to read my post/reply. I've never done anything like this before so I don't really know where to start. My therapist suggested to me that she thinks al-anon meetings would help me, but I have a very busy schedule and I think a...
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I'm not sure, as I sit here, what exactly I am hoping to gain by typing this out. I don't know that anyone can advise me on an effective solution or soothe me with words of wisdom. My earliest memories as a child are of my father or about my father and his being drunk, violent, out of control, or all of the abov...
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Hello, I'm not sure of where else to turn at this point. My brother-in-law's wife has been dealing with severe alcoholism for many years now. Things became quite bad almost five years ago. She suffered from withdrawal and was in a medically induced coma for almost a month and nearly died. Since then s...
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Hi.Im back! Ive been gone for awhile trying to re-adjust. Sorry for the lengthy post. Im just looking for some words of encouragement and suggestions. I have read a few post and they really resonated with me. I have been in a relationship with my now exAB for almost two years. Stuck by him continuou...
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I'm 19 years old, and my mum has been drinking since I was about 10/11, and it's gradually worsened over the years. She's not a physically abusive drunk but instead is emotionally abusive, saying horrible things to me and my dad, and really anyone who's in the room and may have challenged her about her d...
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Hello everyone, I very much need some help. I am struggling to cope, on the receiving end. I am 41, female and had to leave my marriage four Years ago as my husband did not manage to recover from cocaine addiction. I felt seriously let down. After I managed to get free of the mental anguish that that relati...
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Hi All I have searched the internet and am at a loss as to what do next. My brother has been diagnosed with cirrhosis. He went into detox for 1 week and was booked I for rehab but after the detox he decided he wasn't going. So he is now at his house, drinking again. His wife has left and is staying with her adul...
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Dear all, I'm here cause I feel confused and seek advice. I'm the sister of a bipolar addict (currently going through a manic episode) and daughter of a recovering alcoholic. I'm depressed myself and I have just had enough....we live together but are selling our family home to move away after 40yrs....

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