Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

Help, I'm so confused. My husband has been an alcoholic for all of the 18 years we've been married and before. While young thought he would grow out of his party attitude - but hasn't. I suffered alot through the years - being left alone to raise the kids, to going through illnesses b...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i had a good time at the dinner theater good food and a good show. my a took him mom to detox but we arent sure if she will stay there. not my problem. my a said if she sticks with it he is gonna go to meetings with her. this cant be good for him is the way i see it because he will be focused on her the whole time. i...

jersey1 · jersey1

i am an alcoholic my sobriety date is 9/1/02. i have gone through the steps in AA and I have also attended ALANON mtgs during the past year on and off. After doing work in that area of my life (AA) I realised that I needed more..hence ALANON. I have found that I need alot of work in this area and i...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I haven't been posting much these days, I've been trying to muster up the strength each day to get through the day. The news about my father's cancer has really take hold and given me another good shake. Day to day is how I get through, hour by hour and so on.....I just don't feel read...

Christy · Christy

One of the members asked (ordered..lol) me to post my share from last night in hopes that it may show others "how Alanon works" Detachment: I didn't understand detachment at all when I first heard it. I thought it meant "ignore". But detachment with love? After all my A had done to me was even...

Barbara · Barbara

Found out this past Tues that I need 2 teeth extracted. Need a bridge turned into a partial. Ive had a partial now for a few yrs on the upper left side. Will need new 1 to include both sides. Ouch ouch ouch. Im insisting the oral surgeon puts me under. No surgery date yet. This Thurs I go for the impressions...

Kim · Kim

Thank you all for your responses to my previous post. I am always amazed at how the ESH aof others can lift you. My friends wound up cancelling due to the weather...but Itook the opportunity to take care of my house and started to organize things a bit...before I knew it I can cleaned out my l...

Barbara · Barbara

you'll go off topic? Thats my excuse now for not speaking

canadianguy · canadianguy

that is so commonplace, in the argument of "Christianity" vs. "being religious", with the latter one being people's interpretation of what one "should or shouldn't do" with respect to our beliefs..... The program of Al-Anon, although Christian based, has proven over the years to be available a...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

HOW I KNOW I AM GETTING BETTER: -Even though my ex and I broke up right before Christmas, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas for MYSELF. I did cry and cry when I heard the news. Then, I asked myself, "How can I take care of myself during this time?" I made a plan for how to celebrate and sp...

debilyn · debilyn

you know when I saw the A so sick and on the floor, not unlike a starving Ethiopian, I felt such sadness inside. My first thought was there is no one to talk to that will understand. I knew in my heart you guys do understand. I felt so fortunate to know when I got home I could tell ya. The hugs and car...

debilyn · debilyn

HI all, well I cannot get into the chat room so that is how come I am not there anyomre. Seems to be too much "life" going on for me. My gma is almost 106. She had an infection that has taken her down some. Sometimes we think she is going then the next thing ya know she is wanting to go to the dining room....

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i had a major slip today. everything was going great my a and i had plans today then we get a phone call. from his mother and shes screaming and crying and all this crap. so we speant the entire day over there fighting. my a totally but himself on the backburner to tc of his mom and didnt get it that i wan...

toto12 · toto12

Hi Beth, I hope you are reading this..there has been a lot of trouble for some with the chatroom and haven't seen you in a month. A situation on Sat. reminded me of you. I hope everything is ok. At any rate, take it easy and know that toto is thinking of you. Take care, Toto

elizabeth · elizabeth

TWELVE STEPS OF A SPONSOR 2) &nbs...

RDP2976 · RDP2976

Hi I was just in the chat room but I have to go now and i hope to see everyone that talk to me and help me and listen to me. Thank you all for doing that.

Good Night ROBYN,

elizabeth · elizabeth

We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. --Beyond Codependency It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy...

tea2 · tea2

This is the ongoing / reoccurring theme for me at this time, whether it be my father calling me after four months and being “sick” or my ex husband being “sick” regarding our son. I had posted a thread on the message board asking what “letting go” meant to you – I felt there was more to it, th...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...

debilyn · debilyn

HOw are ya? Yes we have pretty music going and food around. We talk about the past and tease each other. Grama is always saying something funny. Her son told her to be good, she said well I don't have much choice! lol She cannot heare or see well so we keep telling her who we are. I tell her I am Mort...

doxie · doxie

I have had it, I am through. I have been married to long to want to start over. No desire to do that. BUT, I will not give my emotions to him any longer. Only to be trampled on again and again. Gotta protect me. He needs to go through this, ok. I have no desire to be the doormat anymore. I am focusing on m...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...

kitty · kitty

Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...

ae`` · ae``

i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...

chris52 · chris52

I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...

Barbara · Barbara

Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...

elizabeth · elizabeth

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....

Barbara · Barbara

If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.

Kimbrali · Kimbrali

Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...

elizabeth · elizabeth

12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...

tea2 · tea2

(((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...

Lea · Lea

Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...

bobump · bobump

I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...

free2bme · free2bme

I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...

chris52 · chris52

Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??

nycbt · nycbt

The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...

nycbt · nycbt

WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...

elizabeth · elizabeth

When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...

bobump · bobump

I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...

pixel04 · pixel04

i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...

nycbt · nycbt

I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...

Emafer · Emafer

I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...

Emafer · Emafer

I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...

Kim · Kim

Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...

elizabeth · elizabeth

THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...

sas · sas

Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Hate or anger I can't stand him anymore (Preview) Help, I'm so confused. My husband has been an alcoholic for all of the 18 years we've been married and before. While young thought he would grow out of his party attitude - but hasn't. I suffered alot through the years - being left alone to raise the kids, to going through illnesses b...	nancyfrances	7	411	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	my day today (Preview) well i had a good time at the dinner theater good food and a good show. my a took him mom to detox but we arent sure if she will stay there. not my problem. my a said if she sticks with it he is gonna go to meetings with her. this cant be good for him is the way i see it because he will be focused on her the whole time. i...	notsonew1111	5	260	Jan 16, 2006 by marmare
	nice to be here (Preview) i am an alcoholic my sobriety date is 9/1/02. i have gone through the steps in AA and I have also attended ALANON mtgs during the past year on and off. After doing work in that area of my life (AA) I realised that I needed more..hence ALANON. I have found that I need alot of work in this area and i...	jersey1	4	313	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	isolating and depressed (Preview) Hello all: I haven't been posting much these days, I've been trying to muster up the strength each day to get through the day. The news about my father's cancer has really take hold and given me another good shake. Day to day is how I get through, hour by hour and so on.....I just don't feel read...	Kim	8	428	Jan 16, 2006 by marmare
	Detachment Share (Preview) One of the members asked (ordered..lol) me to post my share from last night in hopes that it may show others "how Alanon works" Detachment: I didn't understand detachment at all when I first heard it. I thought it meant "ignore". But detachment with love? After all my A had done to me was even...	Christy	6	462	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	Im facing surgery - need teeth extracted (Preview) Found out this past Tues that I need 2 teeth extracted. Need a bridge turned into a partial. Ive had a partial now for a few yrs on the upper left side. Will need new 1 to include both sides. Ouch ouch ouch. Im insisting the oral surgeon puts me under. No surgery date yet. This Thurs I go for the impressions...	Barbara	5	235	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	got moving (Preview) Thank you all for your responses to my previous post. I am always amazed at how the ESH aof others can lift you. My friends wound up cancelling due to the weather...but Itook the opportunity to take care of my house and started to organize things a bit...before I knew it I can cleaned out my l...	Kim	5	313	Jan 16, 2006 by maresie
	ever afraid to speak at F2F cos (Preview) you'll go off topic? Thats my excuse now for not speaking	Barbara	9	458	Jan 16, 2006 by abbyal
	Al-Anon reminds me of another great battle.... (Preview) that is so commonplace, in the argument of "Christianity" vs. "being religious", with the latter one being people's interpretation of what one "should or shouldn't do" with respect to our beliefs..... The program of Al-Anon, although Christian based, has proven over the years to be available a...	canadianguy	2	387	Jan 15, 2006 by doxie
	How I know I am Getting Better (Preview) HOW I KNOW I AM GETTING BETTER: -Even though my ex and I broke up right before Christmas, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas for MYSELF. I did cry and cry when I heard the news. Then, I asked myself, "How can I take care of myself during this time?" I made a plan for how to celebrate and sp...	BlueCloud	3	335	Jan 15, 2006 by mebjk
	Bob n all (Preview) you know when I saw the A so sick and on the floor, not unlike a starving Ethiopian, I felt such sadness inside. My first thought was there is no one to talk to that will understand. I knew in my heart you guys do understand. I felt so fortunate to know when I got home I could tell ya. The hugs and car...	debilyn	3	250	Jan 15, 2006 by TLC2
	need some unlife (Preview) HI all, well I cannot get into the chat room so that is how come I am not there anyomre. Seems to be too much "life" going on for me. My gma is almost 106. She had an infection that has taken her down some. Sometimes we think she is going then the next thing ya know she is wanting to go to the dining room....	debilyn	6	284	Jan 15, 2006 by TLC2
	horrible day (Preview) i had a major slip today. everything was going great my a and i had plans today then we get a phone call. from his mother and shes screaming and crying and all this crap. so we speant the entire day over there fighting. my a totally but himself on the backburner to tc of his mom and didnt get it that i wan...	notsonew1111	9	466	Jan 15, 2006 by Flora123
	Beth, still here? (Preview) Hi Beth, I hope you are reading this..there has been a lot of trouble for some with the chatroom and haven't seen you in a month. A situation on Sat. reminded me of you. I hope everything is ok. At any rate, take it easy and know that toto is thinking of you. Take care, Toto	toto12	1	322	Jan 15, 2006 by Beth
	twelve steps of a sponsor (Preview) TWELVE STEPS OF A SPONSOR 2) &nbs...	elizabeth	0	270	Jan 15, 2006 by elizabeth
	I am sorry I had to go (Preview) Hi I was just in the chat room but I have to go now and i hope to see everyone that talk to me and help me and listen to me. Thank you all for doing that. Good Night ROBYN,	RDP2976	1	294	Jan 15, 2006 by Maria123
	from Language of Letting Go..... (Preview) We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. --Beyond Codependency It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy...	elizabeth	0	343	Jan 15, 2006 by elizabeth
	Letting Go (Preview) This is the ongoing / reoccurring theme for me at this time, whether it be my father calling me after four months and being “sick” or my ex husband being “sick” regarding our son. I had posted a thread on the message board asking what “letting go” meant to you – I felt there was more to it, th...	tea2	13	627	Jan 15, 2006 by Jerry F
	things that make you go hmmmm...... (Preview) Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...	elizabeth	2	354	Jan 15, 2006 by whitie
	Whitie (Preview) HOw are ya? Yes we have pretty music going and food around. We talk about the past and tease each other. Grama is always saying something funny. Her son told her to be good, she said well I don't have much choice! lol She cannot heare or see well so we keep telling her who we are. I tell her I am Mort...	debilyn	1	307	Jan 15, 2006 by whitie
	HAD IT (Preview) I have had it, I am through. I have been married to long to want to start over. No desire to do that. BUT, I will not give my emotions to him any longer. Only to be trampled on again and again. Gotta protect me. He needs to go through this, ok. I have no desire to be the doormat anymore. I am focusing on m...	doxie	6	286	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	i guess i am ok (Preview) Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...	nycbt	4	281	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Is there hope for us? (Preview) It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...	sdisnie	5	372	Jan 14, 2006 by doxie
	Responses & Posts (loving myself) (Preview) Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...	kitty	5	456	Jan 14, 2006 by notsonew1111
	James Frey- Larry King tonight-encore show... (Preview) i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...	ae``	0	290	Jan 14, 2006 by ae``
	Learning how to pray (Preview) I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...	chris52	3	246	Jan 14, 2006 by Flora123
	Bobump says "It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids" (Preview) Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...	UncleLou	19	668	Jan 14, 2006 by Jeannie
	how do you start the subject of AlAnon with your A? (Preview) Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...	Barbara	9	322	Jan 14, 2006 by Feather
	meeting God..... (Preview) A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...	elizabeth	3	268	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Cant do it anymore....... (Preview) hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....	Rebecca	4	323	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	has anyone reserved a room for Cape convention? (Preview) If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.	Barbara	3	253	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	My problem or his? (Preview) Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...	Kimbrali	7	321	Jan 14, 2006 by debilyn
	HAPPY AND SAD AT THE SAME TIME (Preview) Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...	Lauren ashley	3	336	Jan 14, 2006 by toto12
	12 step prayers..... (Preview) 12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...	elizabeth	0	6753	Jan 14, 2006 by elizabeth
	Welcome Cruise_06 (Preview) (((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...	tea2	4	375	Jan 14, 2006 by Rebecca
	advice needed (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...	Lea	4	312	Jan 14, 2006 by bobump
	is the chatroom down? (Preview) I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob	bobump	9	265	Jan 14, 2006 by John_R
	Lost my focus and my head this morning (Preview) Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...	twinmom2	7	338	Jan 14, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny about James Frey (Preview) Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...	Jennifer	4	415	Jan 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	New Here, looking for support (Preview) I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...	free2bme	7	369	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	How to deal with him? (Preview) Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...	phoebemoonpie	7	492	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	I thought chatroom had been fixed? (Preview) Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??	chris52	0	220	Jan 13, 2006 by chris52
	some saying (Preview) The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...	nycbt	0	276	Jan 13, 2006 by nycbt
	WHERE IS EVERYONE (Preview) WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????	nycbt	1	266	Jan 13, 2006 by tea2
	i did a get job (Preview) Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...	nycbt	8	335	Jan 13, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Does anyone know? (Preview) Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...	Dolphin123	4	363	Jan 13, 2006 by Diva
	A bunch of stink think clogging my brain (Preview) Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...	Jennifer	5	342	Jan 13, 2006 by Jennifer
	Helpful Books (Preview) I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...	Lanchas	2	264	Jan 13, 2006 by doxie
	"A Million Little Pieces" - fact or fiction?? (Preview) I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...	canadianguy	8	1074	Jan 12, 2006 by Jeannie
	I will know peace when...........I learn to let go. (Preview) When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...	elizabeth	4	353	Jan 12, 2006 by sandy
	Keep it Shut Stupid ! (Preview) I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...	bobump	11	411	Jan 12, 2006 by maresie
	getting ahead of myself (Preview) i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...	pixel04	4	286	Jan 12, 2006 by mebjk
	i'll be around...just not so much (Preview) hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...	rosie light shines	13	517	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	then and now (Preview) I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...	nycbt	3	270	Jan 12, 2006 by Feather
	Restlessness (Preview) I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...	Emafer	6	339	Jan 12, 2006 by Emafer
	How Al-Anon Works (Preview) I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.	Emafer	3	311	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Trying no to give advice... (Preview) Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...	twinmom2	3	389	Jan 12, 2006 by rosie light shines
	a new update (Preview) Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...	Kim	7	358	Jan 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	The man in the glass...... (Preview) THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...	elizabeth	4	297	Jan 12, 2006 by twinmom2
	beyond codependency (Preview) Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...	sas	8	345	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
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