Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

myst n rayne · myst n rayne

The last few nights I have been kept awake buy these burning questions... Why do we call it a disease? Is it not a choice? How does my A choose not to drink for a day or a week? I lost my dad to cancer a year ago...he could not choose to be cancer free for a day, a week, but my A...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

dear all, I replyed to d day post last night and then read on to find another earlier one. I can't tell you how comforting it was to see how many here have A-kids. I waswondering as I've hung around recently if there were more than spouses on this site.I needed so bad to see this. I have an A-dau and A-mom. I...

rtexas · rtexas

Last night my A asked how long it would take for me to do this program? Well... It is not a summer school class and I don't have a schedule for graduation.... <sigh> I told her I had spent 41 years getting this way and there is no telling how long it will take me to get back. She still res...

expatanneli · expatanneli

My daughter is not going into treatment. She has spent the last week drunk every day and has made no arrangements to go into the center. Everything as usual is a lie and all she wants is for someone to rescue her and take care of her. She doesn't seem to be able to do...

rtexas · rtexas

Ok, until I get a sponsor... I have a question. "Admitted we are powerless over alcohol and our lives had become unmanageable." I am fully in bed with the unmanageable life part... lock stock and barrell. "Admitted I am powerless over alcohol..." I admit it, and my scientific self completly ag...

lebe27 · lebe27

Help! Just got new computer and have AOL 9.0 on it. When try to get in using mipchat.net get Miracles in Progress screen but fails to load. Just shows small red x at top left of screen even though says Done at bottom. When try to get in thru 12stepforums.net can get main screen and me...

Christy · Christy

Hello my dear friends.. All those prayers worked!!! Yesterday when I went to see hubby he was mentally back :) (almost) He was sitting up eating, and said "HI, little one". That was sooooo good to hear. He has said that to me for years so I knew he was feeliing much better. He asked if I'd help hi...

kitty · kitty

As much as I surender to God's will & not my own... I had fallen into worrying & projecting this weekend. Having some old 'stinkin' thinking' going on... and i get run off of the road!!! So I have to think about today & not worry about what will become of me, all it does i...

emma · emma

Has anyone else run into this -- in the last few weeks I very casually met someone, who after only speaking to them a very few minutes, certainly less than an hour during a meeting with 4 other people there, I was just bowled over with attraction. I didn't even know this person, and it was like I was knocked...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I have my f2f meeting tonight. I missed it last week. I don't really feel like going anymore. My a has been much better lately, though I know he is not permenantly better. I feel like I am falling off a diet, you know? Things are fine so I just don't want to go. ...

maresie · maresie

From day one I was always far more there for the A than he ever was for me. He only had to hint at financial difficulty and I stepped in. I prided myself on that he did not need to ask. He needed new clothes I bought them for him. I liked to try to anticipate his needs. These days I work on anticip...

expatanneli · expatanneli

I knew about Alanon many years ago. I even went to a couple of meetings but felt sure I could handle my problems myself. After all I am an educated woman. Surely I can do this on my own. Well, I know I can't. My 33 year old daughter has ste...

Becky1 · Becky1

I have been participating in the chatroom and message board since Jan. 1 of this year. I went to Alanon f2f 19 years ago, for about a year, but divorced the A, so figured I didn't need it. So, who am I married to now? Another A! I am also ACOA, father died when I was 16 from cirrhosis of the liver....

Becky1 · Becky1

I need some serious prayers, all. I have had the same job for 19 years, now they are firing all kinds of people for anything. I have always had good attendance, but in Sept. I missed 3 days, and the end of Feb. I missed a week. All due to stress from living with an A. I was in hospital in Sept. for s...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

my life has been a complete mess the past week or so. i have had no time to come on this message board even. i can feel everything going out of control because i havent had time for the program. i got to a f2f on monday and i felt good, its thursday morning and im a wreck. i know i need to phone my sponsor but am ter...

gardengal · gardengal

Sooner or later the alcoholic's behaviour makes other people angry. As we realize that the alcoholic is telling lies, using us, and not taking care of responisibilities, we may begin to feel that the alcoholic doesnt love us, We often want to strike back, punish, and make the alcoholic pay for the hur...

kitty · kitty

Well, I was involved in a car acident lst night, got banged up pretty badly... spent the night in ER. Nothing broken, thank God... I swerved & hit the right hand side curb, busting my tired, the air bag deployed & cut me up quite a bit. I'm all sore & bruised & very tired bu...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I'm soooo frustrated with dealing with my A. He is insane. I look at him and think, YOU ARE INSANE. Is it no wonder that I'm crazy??? We are suppose to be separating (legally). We've been physicially living apart for a year and a half. We see each other 3 time a wee...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i shared this poem on the board about a year or so ago, and a friend was asking me about a little while back. Thought i'd post it here for her and the newer members that maybe might like it to. LET GO As children bring thier broken toys- with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dream...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

Ok I need some help with clarifying the role of a victim. I'm confused as usual. As victims we are intent on proving our rightness. Therefore we blame others and or circumstances that suit OUR NEEDS to justify our behavior in a given situation. Which makes us a victim of others or unlucky circumstanc...

bd · bd

I live with a wonderful man now (hahah they all have their bad points). My father is an A and so is my ex-husband. The ex is now long out of the picture and doesn't affect me in any way. However, because my mother still lives with my father he does affect me. My current partner rea...

sweetums · sweetums

Well I was on the phone with my A last night. I have spent the last five weeks or so working through the depression of being alone again, trying to find some zest for life again. I started to feel stronger this week, as per my latest posts, but now I realize something! I am angry! The only reaso...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

After I told my boys what my online meetings were all about, Alanon. They said Mom, " You sure have changed a lot.Your a better Mom." I know we are going to be OK! At least I hope things don't change in their attititudes when it is only a female in the house. Thank you all for you...

sallyb · sallyb

I have come to a point with myself where I feel numb. I moved out of the house over two months ago and I feel like a zombie just going about my typical day. Every day. I miss my fiance. He has only had one drink in 66 days and I am so amazingly proud of him. We talk on the phone severa...

Powerless · Powerless

Today has been a very sad day for me. I gave in to my husband this morning and called off work for him. We ran some errands...got the staples out of the mastiff's belly, paid bills. My husband talked as we were flitting from one place to another. I was upset because a great aunt l...

myst n rayne · myst n rayne

Another newbie here! I have been looking through posts for the last 2 days and I was shocked to read "my story" from complete strangers. What a relief to know I am not alone. I often wonder why I just can't seem to let go of my A. We started out as high school sweethearts and wit...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Thank you all who responded with knowledge on their experiences with the legal system. I offered my "a" supervised visits at his parents house with the kids. He reluctantly took it, but then called the next day to say how I'm treating him like a criminal. I was able to write up a Visi...

rtexas · rtexas

My wife is an active A and we have been in total turmoil for months now. So much so I scrambled around and found this wonderful place (and wonderful people). We had a civil conversation last night where she let me know she just couldn't live with me going to these 'meetings'. She doesn't l...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hub has been gone for 2 weeks. Came Sunday and spent a very chaste night. Was here Monday when I got home from work. Was not drinking. Wants to know where we are headed. He can come home anytime he wants to, but has resentment towards me. I love him, but have handed him over to HP. Am working hard to sta...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Thank you all!!! Tonight my A wasn't any different. But I was

I had said earlier today that I felt like I was fighting being in a paper bag. That if I would just quit fighting that I'd figure how to get out. Only it just felt impossible to gi...

penny · penny

Were off again... My A started helping a friend out in the evenings at a new take away shop. As it is normally around 12 when he gets back, I go to bed as I am up at 6 for work. This morning I woke to find him asleep on the sofa with empty cans of beer half hidden. I...

Powerless · Powerless

I started my morning this morning on a positive note. I have a lot of questions about my HP and sometimes have a lot of trouble handing things over to Him, but I know for a fact that He has Blessed my life in so many ways. I have a wonderful home. It's a double wide mobile home, but it's four bed...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor asked me this question because she feels it is a real issue in ending the cycle of choosing dysfunctional partners. I know for me the urge to depend, be included and be part of is enormous because I come from a family where I was absolutely excluded and ostracized and banned and punished.&nbs...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

''So I guess what I am saying is take this time for you. Focus on yourself, commit to your own recovery. Let his be his, it will all play out in time. When I realized that my husbands behavior did not change whether he was drinking or not, without a program in AA, I also realized th...

annah · annah

Since I have been in contact with alanon I have learned that expectations were not necessarily good (leads to resentments). But surely I should be able to expect some degree of communication and cooperation from my a husband? Am I right to think I need to learn more about setting boundaries? If so, whe...

Powerless · Powerless

I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all bu...

Tammy · Tammy

Living with an alcoholic is sooooo confusing. I know we all know that it is just some days it is more clear than others... I am having a very bad day and thought i would seek a shoulder from my friends here ... My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married a very long time and he has been a...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Surrender Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. --Step Three of Al Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible.Doors op...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Things are starting to get ugly. My "a" has demanded overnights with the boys and I'm so not comfortable about it. He says he'll take me to court if he has to. I know this girl has been pressuring him to fight for his rights to see them, but I can't trust him. He's lied about the af...

rtexas · rtexas

I am the only guy in the f2f meetings I have gone to. That doesn't bother me as right now I am just a sponge for information and help. They could be big red and green martians for all I care. My question is: Is my being there inhibiting anyone? I know you are not there, but in your...

Christy · Christy

I'm unable to chair Thursday morning's meeting. If anyone would like to step up, I'd sure appreciate it. Love Christy

bobump · bobump

Dyfs and FPS (family preservation services) is coming at 1pm. I expect it to be a good visit and that the ball will begin really rolling on the help we need. Would just like some prayers that I reach out and do and receive HP's will. :) Thanks all ! Bob

moto · moto

I have been going to face to face meetings for about three years. I live in a small town and very few men attend alanon. I have even went to AA looking for a sponsor but just have not been able find someone. I was wondering if there were other males that might be interested in keeping in touch by email and poss...

bobump · bobump

We are looking at setting up a room where we could have men's meetings. Not all the logistics have been worked out yet but there is an area on the server ready. JohnOP is OK with it as well. If your interested. Send me a PM or send me an email (off the board) so I can keep you posted. Also, your timezone mig...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Okay, here's my new situation. I just love my soap opera life! My childhood friend, had been talking to my AH for me while I wasn't talking to him (while he was in Arizona this past month and a half) She also has been the one who kept telling him to get his ass home and d...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is an AA prayer. I edited 2 sentences from it, to fit my alanon program. Good Morning, God!   Thank you for this day! As I consider my plans for this day, Le...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

MONDAY , MARCH 06, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. This Mouse must give up one of the Mouse ways of seeing things in order that he may grow. --Hyemeyohsts Storm There is an American Indian tale of a mouse who heard a roaring...

Powerless · Powerless

I have a serious question. How do you detach from your loved one and their addiction and still maintain your love for them. I find that everytime I try to detach lovingly, i feel myself becoming numb and distant from him. He notices this and asks me why I am cold and distant. I d...

Jayda · Jayda

Well, we sent my bro away two weeks ago so he could get clean and get some help. He's decided to come back to town again and feels he doesn't need treatment. I'm so disappointed. I get really tired of getting my hopes up and then having them shattered over and over. It was a relief for the last two weeks not to...

kitty · kitty

okay.... -- Edited by kitty at 00:46, 2006-03-08

Jayda · Jayda

"Life isn't fair...get used to it." This is a saying that I tell myself quite often when I'm feeling down about things and find myself thinking, "Why do bad things seem to happen to me?" I guess there's no rhyme or reason to life. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Accepting that we don't alway...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting this morning. I woke up ill and need to make a visit to my Doctor. Sorry for the short notice; it is unavoidable. Shimo (Jeri)

Jeannie · Jeannie

Last night I lost it. My huband pushed me too far, and I said the most cruel things I can imagine. I was lying in bed again, still not feeling well, the cold went to my chest, so I have been barking. He walked in at 6PM, drunk and nasty. He looked at me and screamed COOK, NOW! I got out of bed and walked into t...

hudsond · hudsond

Well that's how I feel my life is--just a bunch of lemons. I am very sad, but I think I'm also becoming numb, which scares me yet also comforts me (does that make ANY sense?). My a has stopped going to meetings again, but this time I'm seeing a bigger change. This time he doesn't even seem to...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Extended family)))))))))))))), Just wanted to let you know, that my hubby is back home with me. Due to his emotions coming to the surface after being masked by alcohol for years, he got into a rather heated argument with the director of the place he was living at. I came home last...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Just as "out of the blue" he made the decision to stay in another state, he "out of the blue" made the decision to come back and face his fears. He drove 17 hours on a motorcycle from Arizona to Colorado and went to my parents to make amends with them, they were much more forgiving than I thought ...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtf...

Sondee · Sondee

I would like to not be all twisted up inside. I need to find clarity once and for all. I do believe in a HP. I just have a hard time believing the HP believes in me. I don't want this to be a sob story, but it is one inside my heart. I just keep thinking that maybe if I just put it "out there" once and for all, then may...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i spoke with my aunt (who lives way far away) last night and i got upset. i have not had ANY contact with my dad in months (but he has not made any effort to contact me, either). i feel good about my decision not to have contact with him. but she tried to convince me to change my mind. she asked me..."who is hi...

kitty · kitty

It amazes even me, I can be so smooth, together even almost balanced & a monkey wrench is thrown into the works & I'm fully lost in desolation land. I think of what my therapist said, 'forgiveness is a muscle, it takes practise, patience, work effort a little more each day.' How...

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	concerning question need your help! (Preview) The last few nights I have been kept awake buy these burning questions... Why do we call it a disease? Is it not a choice? How does my A choose not to drink for a day or a week? I lost my dad to cancer a year ago...he could not choose to be cancer free for a day, a week, but my A...	myst n rayne	8	470	Mar 10, 2006 by Ria
	My A-child,A-Mom,A-bro broke me (Preview) dear all, I replyed to d day post last night and then read on to find another earlier one. I can't tell you how comforting it was to see how many here have A-kids. I waswondering as I've hung around recently if there were more than spouses on this site.I needed so bad to see this. I have an A-dau and A-mom. I...	d53sjurne	4	412	Mar 10, 2006 by maresie
	Changing me is soo hard... (Preview) Last night my A asked how long it would take for me to do this program? Well... It is not a summer school class and I don't have a schedule for graduation.... <sigh> I told her I had spent 41 years getting this way and there is no telling how long it will take me to get back. She still res...	rtexas	7	662	Mar 10, 2006 by maresie
	D day is tomorrow. Am I doing the right thing? (Preview) My daughter is not going into treatment. She has spent the last week drunk every day and has made no arrangements to go into the center. Everything as usual is a lie and all she wants is for someone to rescue her and take care of her. She doesn't seem to be able to do...	expatanneli	8	305	Mar 10, 2006 by maresie
	Step 1 (Preview) Ok, until I get a sponsor... I have a question. "Admitted we are powerless over alcohol and our lives had become unmanageable." I am fully in bed with the unmanageable life part... lock stock and barrell. "Admitted I am powerless over alcohol..." I admit it, and my scientific self completly ag...	rtexas	8	336	Mar 10, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Can't get on Chat (Preview) Help! Just got new computer and have AOL 9.0 on it. When try to get in using mipchat.net get Miracles in Progress screen but fails to load. Just shows small red x at top left of screen even though says Done at bottom. When try to get in thru 12stepforums.net can get main screen and me...	lebe27	3	246	Mar 9, 2006 by lebe27
	Wonderful news!!!! (Preview) Hello my dear friends.. All those prayers worked!!! Yesterday when I went to see hubby he was mentally back :) (almost) He was sitting up eating, and said "HI, little one". That was sooooo good to hear. He has said that to me for years so I knew he was feeliing much better. He asked if I'd help hi...	Christy	12	364	Mar 9, 2006 by peewee
	God's Will be done! (Preview) As much as I surender to God's will & not my own... I had fallen into worrying & projecting this weekend. Having some old 'stinkin' thinking' going on... and i get run off of the road!!! So I have to think about today & not worry about what will become of me, all it does i...	kitty	5	271	Mar 9, 2006 by peewee
	attraction (Preview) Has anyone else run into this -- in the last few weeks I very casually met someone, who after only speaking to them a very few minutes, certainly less than an hour during a meeting with 4 other people there, I was just bowled over with attraction. I didn't even know this person, and it was like I was knocked...	emma	7	389	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	lacking motivation (Preview) I have my f2f meeting tonight. I missed it last week. I don't really feel like going anymore. My a has been much better lately, though I know he is not permenantly better. I feel like I am falling off a diet, you know? Things are fine so I just don't want to go. ...	paintthinnr	9	256	Mar 9, 2006 by gardengal
	in direct communications (Preview) From day one I was always far more there for the A than he ever was for me. He only had to hint at financial difficulty and I stepped in. I prided myself on that he did not need to ask. He needed new clothes I bought them for him. I liked to try to anticipate his needs. These days I work on anticip...	maresie	3	200	Mar 9, 2006 by maresie
	Why did I wait so long? (Preview) I knew about Alanon many years ago. I even went to a couple of meetings but felt sure I could handle my problems myself. After all I am an educated woman. Surely I can do this on my own. Well, I know I can't. My 33 year old daughter has ste...	expatanneli	13	443	Mar 9, 2006 by expatanneli
	Sponsor needed (Preview) I have been participating in the chatroom and message board since Jan. 1 of this year. I went to Alanon f2f 19 years ago, for about a year, but divorced the A, so figured I didn't need it. So, who am I married to now? Another A! I am also ACOA, father died when I was 16 from cirrhosis of the liver....	Becky1	1	210	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	My Job (Preview) I need some serious prayers, all. I have had the same job for 19 years, now they are firing all kinds of people for anything. I have always had good attendance, but in Sept. I missed 3 days, and the end of Feb. I missed a week. All due to stress from living with an A. I was in hospital in Sept. for s...	Becky1	8	284	Mar 9, 2006 by myst n rayne
	trying to find time (Preview) my life has been a complete mess the past week or so. i have had no time to come on this message board even. i can feel everything going out of control because i havent had time for the program. i got to a f2f on monday and i felt good, its thursday morning and im a wreck. i know i need to phone my sponsor but am ter...	notsonew1111	4	192	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	Feelings of anger, denial, guilt (Preview) Sooner or later the alcoholic's behaviour makes other people angry. As we realize that the alcoholic is telling lies, using us, and not taking care of responisibilities, we may begin to feel that the alcoholic doesnt love us, We often want to strike back, punish, and make the alcoholic pay for the hur...	gardengal	4	506	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	car accident (Preview) Well, I was involved in a car acident lst night, got banged up pretty badly... spent the night in ER. Nothing broken, thank God... I swerved & hit the right hand side curb, busting my tired, the air bag deployed & cut me up quite a bit. I'm all sore & bruised & very tired bu...	kitty	14	298	Mar 9, 2006 by twinmom2
	He's insane (Preview) I'm soooo frustrated with dealing with my A. He is insane. I look at him and think, YOU ARE INSANE. Is it no wonder that I'm crazy??? We are suppose to be separating (legally). We've been physicially living apart for a year and a half. We see each other 3 time a wee...	Lunamoth	9	524	Mar 9, 2006 by kitty
	Letting Go - an awesome poem (Preview) hi all, i shared this poem on the board about a year or so ago, and a friend was asking me about a little while back. Thought i'd post it here for her and the newer members that maybe might like it to. LET GO As children bring thier broken toys- with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dream...	mastiff	2	357	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Playing the victim, blaming (Preview) Ok I need some help with clarifying the role of a victim. I'm confused as usual. As victims we are intent on proving our rightness. Therefore we blame others and or circumstances that suit OUR NEEDS to justify our behavior in a given situation. Which makes us a victim of others or unlucky circumstanc...	Hopefloats	8	1026	Mar 9, 2006 by Hopefloats
	how do you explain (Preview) I live with a wonderful man now (hahah they all have their bad points). My father is an A and so is my ex-husband. The ex is now long out of the picture and doesn't affect me in any way. However, because my mother still lives with my father he does affect me. My current partner rea...	bd	4	286	Mar 9, 2006 by rtexas
	and the cycle continues..... (Preview) Well I was on the phone with my A last night. I have spent the last five weeks or so working through the depression of being alone again, trying to find some zest for life again. I started to feel stronger this week, as per my latest posts, but now I realize something! I am angry! The only reaso...	sweetums	1	240	Mar 9, 2006 by mebjk
	23 days (Preview) After I told my boys what my online meetings were all about, Alanon. They said Mom, " You sure have changed a lot.Your a better Mom." I know we are going to be OK! At least I hope things don't change in their attititudes when it is only a female in the house. Thank you all for you...	jrtjosey	9	251	Mar 9, 2006 by twinmom2
	Numb (Preview) I have come to a point with myself where I feel numb. I moved out of the house over two months ago and I feel like a zombie just going about my typical day. Every day. I miss my fiance. He has only had one drink in 66 days and I am so amazingly proud of him. We talk on the phone severa...	sallyb	4	265	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	It's a sad day (Preview) Today has been a very sad day for me. I gave in to my husband this morning and called off work for him. We ran some errands...got the staples out of the mastiff's belly, paid bills. My husband talked as we were flitting from one place to another. I was upset because a great aunt l...	Powerless	4	414	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	Finding out I am not alone! (Preview) Another newbie here! I have been looking through posts for the last 2 days and I was shocked to read "my story" from complete strangers. What a relief to know I am not alone. I often wonder why I just can't seem to let go of my A. We started out as high school sweethearts and wit...	myst n rayne	5	227	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	I'm fighting hard for recovery and safety (Preview) Thank you all who responded with knowledge on their experiences with the legal system. I offered my "a" supervised visits at his parents house with the kids. He reluctantly took it, but then called the next day to say how I'm treating him like a criminal. I was able to write up a Visi...	twinmom2	6	360	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	Al-Anon, the 'latest' reason it's over... (Preview) My wife is an active A and we have been in total turmoil for months now. So much so I scrambled around and found this wonderful place (and wonderful people). We had a civil conversation last night where she let me know she just couldn't live with me going to these 'meetings'. She doesn't l...	rtexas	9	316	Mar 9, 2006 by twinmom2
	Working on me (Preview) Hub has been gone for 2 weeks. Came Sunday and spent a very chaste night. Was here Monday when I got home from work. Was not drinking. Wants to know where we are headed. He can come home anytime he wants to, but has resentment towards me. I love him, but have handed him over to HP. Am working hard to sta...	Becky1	5	218	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	Thank you :-) (Preview) Thank you all!!! Tonight my A wasn't any different. But I was I had said earlier today that I felt like I was fighting being in a paper bag. That if I would just quit fighting that I'd figure how to get out. Only it just felt impossible to gi...	Lunamoth	1	212	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Off Again (Preview) Were off again... My A started helping a friend out in the evenings at a new take away shop. As it is normally around 12 when he gets back, I go to bed as I am up at 6 for work. This morning I woke to find him asleep on the sofa with empty cans of beer half hidden. I...	penny	3	217	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	So many Blessings (Preview) I started my morning this morning on a positive note. I have a lot of questions about my HP and sometimes have a lot of trouble handing things over to Him, but I know for a fact that He has Blessed my life in so many ways. I have a wonderful home. It's a double wide mobile home, but it's four bed...	Powerless	1	212	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	why did I choose the A (Preview) My sponsor asked me this question because she feels it is a real issue in ending the cycle of choosing dysfunctional partners. I know for me the urge to depend, be included and be part of is enormous because I come from a family where I was absolutely excluded and ostracized and banned and punished.&nbs...	maresie	3	513	Mar 9, 2006 by Sondee
	Breaking the behavior the negative pattern (Preview) ''So I guess what I am saying is take this time for you. Focus on yourself, commit to your own recovery. Let his be his, it will all play out in time. When I realized that my husbands behavior did not change whether he was drinking or not, without a program in AA, I also realized th...	Hopefloats	9	413	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	Expectations vs boundaries (Preview) Since I have been in contact with alanon I have learned that expectations were not necessarily good (leads to resentments). But surely I should be able to expect some degree of communication and cooperation from my a husband? Am I right to think I need to learn more about setting boundaries? If so, whe...	annah	6	675	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	Feeling better (Preview) I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all bu...	Powerless	3	211	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	Confused (Preview) Living with an alcoholic is sooooo confusing. I know we all know that it is just some days it is more clear than others... I am having a very bad day and thought i would seek a shoulder from my friends here ... My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married a very long time and he has been a...	Tammy	9	291	Mar 8, 2006 by marmare
	yes, the SWEETNESS of surrender (Preview) Surrender Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. --Step Three of Al Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible.Doors op...	rosie light shines	3	358	Mar 8, 2006 by kitty
	It's time to fight for my boundaries (Preview) Things are starting to get ugly. My "a" has demanded overnights with the boys and I'm so not comfortable about it. He says he'll take me to court if he has to. I know this girl has been pressuring him to fight for his rights to see them, but I can't trust him. He's lied about the af...	twinmom2	9	315	Mar 8, 2006 by emma
	guys in your f2f meetings... (Preview) I am the only guy in the f2f meetings I have gone to. That doesn't bother me as right now I am just a sponge for information and help. They could be big red and green martians for all I care. My question is: Is my being there inhibiting anyone? I know you are not there, but in your...	rtexas	12	375	Mar 8, 2006 by iona54
	Thursday A.M. Chairperson needed (Preview) I'm unable to chair Thursday morning's meeting. If anyone would like to step up, I'd sure appreciate it. Love Christy	Christy	2	281	Mar 8, 2006 by iona54
	A little late but... appreciate some quick prayers. :) (Preview) Dyfs and FPS (family preservation services) is coming at 1pm. I expect it to be a good visit and that the ball will begin really rolling on the help we need. Would just like some prayers that I reach out and do and receive HP's will. :) Thanks all ! Bob	bobump	14	336	Mar 8, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Looking for a male sponsor (Preview) I have been going to face to face meetings for about three years. I live in a small town and very few men attend alanon. I have even went to AA looking for a sponsor but just have not been able find someone. I was wondering if there were other males that might be interested in keeping in touch by email and poss...	moto	0	216	Mar 8, 2006 by moto
	ATTN GUYS - MIP Men's Meetings (Preview) We are looking at setting up a room where we could have men's meetings. Not all the logistics have been worked out yet but there is an area on the server ready. JohnOP is OK with it as well. If your interested. Send me a PM or send me an email (off the board) so I can keep you posted. Also, your timezone mig...	bobump	8	437	Mar 8, 2006 by moto
	My new soap opera situation (Preview) Okay, here's my new situation. I just love my soap opera life! My childhood friend, had been talking to my AH for me while I wasn't talking to him (while he was in Arizona this past month and a half) She also has been the one who kept telling him to get his ass home and d...	sdisnie	6	356	Mar 8, 2006 by hudsond
	Good Morning, God! HP! (Preview) This is an AA prayer. I edited 2 sentences from it, to fit my alanon program. Good Morning, God!   Thank you for this day! As I consider my plans for this day, Le...	wallsal55	0	183	Mar 8, 2006 by wallsal55
	i had to change my eyes (Preview) MONDAY , MARCH 06, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. *This Mouse must give up one of the Mouse ways of seeing things in order that he may grow. --Hyemeyohsts Storm* There is an American Indian tale of a mouse who heard a roaring...	rosie light shines	4	249	Mar 8, 2006 by alystylz
	Having a problem with detaching (Preview) I have a serious question. How do you detach from your loved one and their addiction and still maintain your love for them. I find that everytime I try to detach lovingly, i feel myself becoming numb and distant from him. He notices this and asks me why I am cold and distant. I d...	Powerless	6	326	Mar 8, 2006 by rtexas
	Discouraged Again (Preview) Well, we sent my bro away two weeks ago so he could get clean and get some help. He's decided to come back to town again and feels he doesn't need treatment. I'm so disappointed. I get really tired of getting my hopes up and then having them shattered over and over. It was a relief for the last two weeks not to...	Jayda	3	283	Mar 8, 2006 by TLC2
	hmm (Preview) okay.... -- Edited by kitty at 00:46, 2006-03-08	kitty	1	265	Mar 8, 2006 by rtexas
	Life isn't fair... (Preview) "Life isn't fair...get used to it." This is a saying that I tell myself quite often when I'm feeling down about things and find myself thinking, "Why do bad things seem to happen to me?" I guess there's no rhyme or reason to life. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Accepting that we don't alway...	Jayda	1	295	Mar 8, 2006 by Christy
	MONDAY A.M. ALANON MTG (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting this morning. I woke up ill and need to make a visit to my Doctor. Sorry for the short notice; it is unavoidable. Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	241	Mar 8, 2006 by leo
	I'm not a nice person (Preview) Last night I lost it. My huband pushed me too far, and I said the most cruel things I can imagine. I was lying in bed again, still not feeling well, the cold went to my chest, so I have been barking. He walked in at 6PM, drunk and nasty. He looked at me and screamed COOK, NOW! I got out of bed and walked into t...	Jeannie	13	469	Mar 8, 2006 by leo
	when life gives you lemons (Preview) Well that's how I feel my life is--just a bunch of lemons. I am very sad, but I think I'm also becoming numb, which scares me yet also comforts me (does that make ANY sense?). My a has stopped going to meetings again, but this time I'm seeing a bigger change. This time he doesn't even seem to...	hudsond	10	364	Mar 8, 2006 by hudsond
	A is back home (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Extended family)))))))))))))), Just wanted to let you know, that my hubby is back home with me. Due to his emotions coming to the surface after being masked by alcohol for years, he got into a rather heated argument with the director of the place he was living at. I came home last...	Karilynn	7	283	Mar 8, 2006 by tea2
	AH came back after 3 months (Preview) Just as "out of the blue" he made the decision to stay in another state, he "out of the blue" made the decision to come back and face his fears. He drove 17 hours on a motorcycle from Arizona to Colorado and went to my parents to make amends with them, they were much more forgiving than I thought ...	sdisnie	6	317	Mar 8, 2006 by nmike
	Feeling calm after the loss (Preview) Hello friends, Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtf...	cdb	24	565	Mar 8, 2006 by Jayda
	Twisting emotions (Preview) I would like to not be all twisted up inside. I need to find clarity once and for all. I do believe in a HP. I just have a hard time believing the HP believes in me. I don't want this to be a sob story, but it is one inside my heart. I just keep thinking that maybe if I just put it "out there" once and for all, then may...	Sondee	4	392	Mar 7, 2006 by Sondee
	who does it hurt? (Preview) i spoke with my aunt (who lives way far away) last night and i got upset. i have not had ANY contact with my dad in months (but he has not made any effort to contact me, either). i feel good about my decision not to have contact with him. but she tried to convince me to change my mind. she asked me..."who is hi...	flintfeet	3	305	Mar 7, 2006 by maresie
	rocky times (Preview) It amazes even me, I can be so smooth, together even almost balanced & a monkey wrench is thrown into the works & I'm fully lost in desolation land. I think of what my therapist said, 'forgiveness is a muscle, it takes practise, patience, work effort a little more each day.' How...	kitty	4	267	Mar 7, 2006 by maresie
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