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looking after ourselves
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I get a weekly newsletter from an arts related source and this struck me as wonderful in that it it is like the alanon programme in the way that we strive to look after ourselves and look for the best. Hope you all enjoy as much as I did hugs iona54
Focusing the mind on a higher purpo...
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How long is this ride?
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Hello Roomies,
Well, the ride continues.
My "A" and I had a wonderful weekend. We spent family time together, spent quality time together, and he was sober all weekend.
He cut ties off from his "friends" on Wednesday after they returned the car completely out of gas, and it also had stolen prope...
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Looking for a sponsor
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Hi, I am looking for a sponsor. Hoping to find another woman who has an active alcoholic husband. It is a different life living with an active spouse. I live is a small farming community, the closest Alanon meetings are 20 miles away, plus I work evening shift that makes it doubly hard to get to f2f meetin...
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I chose these lessons
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I have some strange views for a westerner, I have read Zen since I was 16, after surviving my first suicide attempt. I do believe I came into this family, had these hardships, married an addict, it was all in God's divine plan... for me to disocver the love in me, the divinity or spark of God t...
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Emotional Abandonnment
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This is really irony, I always felt like I did not want to be abandonnded & that I genuinely had a fear of it ~ yet I was the one that had abandonned myself all along.
I spent all of my life pouring out all I had onto others & being jipped in the end... ironically I did it to myself!!! Bo...
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Edna, Flora and Chris
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Edna, Flora and Chris, I miss seeing you guys. I hope everything is alright. Hurry back. love ya, Beth123
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I thin HP was talking to me...on the pot, lol
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Bear w/ me because this post may contain TMI and traces of peanuts but.... I thought it was interesting.
I'm at my son's Sunday school. In an effort to save myself some gas and time, I usually do some literature or non cal reading in the parking lot and clean out the car a little.
Today I d...
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happy news
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I won, I won, I won ....
The radio contest for VIP seating at the Soul to Soul II Contest with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw.
I have been trying and trying to win tickets for five years and this time it worked.
Just wanted to share with y'all.
Love Maria
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too lazy to leave
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this was the sorry conclusion my A and I both came to this weekend.
He has been out of commission all week with selfmedicating (alcohol/pot/ambien) his way thru spring fever or something. same old same old. I only wish he would be out of the house for 3 days like some of these A's . All mine does is remedi...
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Tippsy
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one of my son's that live at home came home tippsy again....I walked away when he went on about things that have him down.Things I have already dicused when he was sober.He has a court date to determine if he is the father of a baby boy.Needing DNA test.As a mother I explain if the the child is his he is res...
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I'm on Cujo's off
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I'm back on line in my home.
Cujo has no Power, LOL
More later.
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Newbies ~ So many Excellent Slogans
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I have this printed out & put up in my condo all over the place, in the bathroom, on the ice box, the front door & next to my PC:
LET GO & LET GOD ATTEND TO THE DIVINE PLAN
Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with your Divine Plan
&nbs...
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How to respond
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I haven't spoken to my ex-A for 3 months I have had no contact and haven't tried and neither has he. We went out for 8 years never married or even lived with each other. He lied about the drinking I would find out and we would break up. this went on for our entire relationship. It's funny we brea...
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The Shoe
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The other day I was taking my lunch walk around our office complex which includes a large hotel. As I was walking around the hotel, I saw a ladies dress shoe sitting on top of one of the hedges. My first thought was, "I wonder how one ladies shoe got there?" Well, t...
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My anniversary
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((((((((((Family))))))))))))),
Happy Day for me!
Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary. It's is also Piper Kitty's 3 birthday, and 1 year ago she came home to us! We became a family.
I look back on a year ago, and where we were. My hubby...
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Group Conscience Meeting
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GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING
APRIL 5, 2006
SenoraBob       &nb...
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Progression of hell
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Seemed like a "normal" family at the time clear back in 1970. Two very cute country boys, darling little blond sister who had a pony. Mom home, Dad an electrician.
I met my A's family very young. I watched my A get drafted, his mom and dad divorced after years of all kinds of abuse on the whole family. A's...
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Kink in the space/time continium....
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Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral. She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst.
Includes taking swings at me...
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Sick is no excuse for bad behavior
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I have been reading so many posts about infidelity, and abuse, from many people, myself included.
There is a book I particularly like called "Marriage on the Rocks". The auther makes things kind of cut and dry and clear.
She states that the first thing we have to do is accept alcoholism as a disease...
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can't get in chatroom
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Tried but cant get in ...
1) Message box popped up: "Verify Certif... Do you wnt to trust the signed applet distributed by Phillippe DeTourneay?" DO I or is this a virus?
2) Then white box loads, but .... I get that "Unable to connect: java.security.
AccessControlException: accessdenied.
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Not sure
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Hi everyone. Its 8:14pm on SUnday night, and as in every weekend every night from dinner till bedtime, my S/O sits in the chair and snores. Its like he has no desire to even socialize with me, let alone anything else. He says its my fault, LOL. I'm the one awake, doing laundry,...
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Step 4
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This from Forum (meeting in my pocket)click attachment
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He's leaving me!
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After 15 years of marriage, he says he's unhappy and that's why he uses! He gave me all these reasons why he's unhappy, (he wanted more than 2 kids, I didn't, etc), but says if he doesn't get out, he'll never stop using. I found out a long time ago that he's never satisfied with his life...
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one of my fears might be coming true
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One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease.
She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...
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Some trouble in paradise...
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This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...
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a new plan??
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Hi All,
I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...
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Is it really possible?
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Hello all,
Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy?
I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was.
But the more stressed out I get with my s...
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at the crossroads
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Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...
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Aargg! I don't get it!!
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I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking.
Last nig...
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Is Infidelity Part of the Disease?
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I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker.
Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...
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Today is a new day
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First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...
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D53 and pm
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D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again.
I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...
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could use some help with boudaries
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Hi,
Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it.
I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...
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what if the A is not "active"?
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Hi everyone.
Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...
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Why do they try so hard just to tick us off???
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I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...
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Step 3
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Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel
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love ONE day at a time
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Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...
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A Revelation ...
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I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...
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Something to think about
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Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...
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What a difference a day makes
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Good morning, all.
Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...
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ARE YOU HUNGRY TO GET HEALTHY?
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When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself.
Take time to become calm and centered.
Get in touch with your own values.
Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...
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gardengal
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Past present future
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I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...
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megan
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Constantly Surrenderring
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I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month.
Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...
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Need ESH
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Hi all,
I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A.
My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...
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How far do I pursue truth??
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Hi all,
Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...
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robyn76
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Spoke up honestly for self
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Last night I spoke up honestly for myself without worrying about how he was going to react. He hurt my feelings about how I cooked supper (I always thought I was a pretty decent cook until the 2 husbands I have had both didn't/don't like my cooking). I tried not to make a big deal out of it, I ju...
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Fearful
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I have wanted to divorce my husband ever since I realized he is an a. I simply don't deserve the treatment I face due to his alcoholism. To that end, I have been working to separate our lives. We own a store together and I put it on the market and prayed really hard and tomorrow it...
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jrtjosey report :)
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I just talked to Josey and she is moved in to her new home, the boxes anyway..lol The boys (twins, age 11) are also doing well and are excited to be in their new home.
Josey is pretty exhausted as anyone would be, but she has deficits from her stroke that make things much more difficult for her.
I don'...
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Christy
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Feeling the love in chat room
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Hello All,
As I have posted to my negative feelings about my one bad experience in the chat room, I would like to post today about the good things.
I am so very grateful to have found this place. The meeting this morning was so wonderful and full of love.
There is so much help, love and kindnes...
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Tripping over my own ego
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Something really cool happened to me today while I was at my f2f meeting. This is a new homegroup for me. I have gone the past 3 weeks, so I am still missing my old home group as many of you can relate. I didn't move - it was more of a schedule change that necessitated the home group change. Anyways...
It was...
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sparkette
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I Give Up
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I give up on everything. The more I try to make my situation better, the more obstacles fly in the way. I was 1 of 110 people chosen for an entreprenuer program. My family said they would watch my daughter 3 evening per week while I was in the program, then decided to pull the rug out from under me. I was termi...
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kissers
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The truth at last
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He finally admitted tonight that he has been seeing her and sleeping with her. He admitted it while make love to me. We were in the middle of sex and he told me exactly what happened. I got up and felt like I was going to throw up. I can't believe he admitted it. I guess part...
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The other woman
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I am so angry. I wanted to post earlier but couldn't calm down enough to type. The other woman called me this morning and said she had been thinking all night and couldn't live with herself for lying to me yesterday. She said that they met each other two months ago, not one and that the...
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Last Happy Birthday Month for March '06
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Happy Birthday Month to everyone with a birthday this month! You know who you are!
For the rest of the year you will have to settle for Happy Serenity Day, that is a 365 day per year holiday. Boy wouldn't that be a relief!
Take care everyone!
-- Edited by rtexas at 11:24, 2006-0...
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What do you do ?
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It's been a long time since I've posted anything. I truly thought things were going better. My husband was drinking less and staying home more. I felt like he really wanted our family to work.
Now, about 2 months ago the cycle started again. I can't figure out what my bigge...
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confusedmom
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The kids...
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You know... <sigh>
I can't seem to win for loosing...
My A and I are not talking much. She is very put out that I am not fighting with her all the time. She refuses to do recreational things with me. Our son has done some stuff with her, which is fine with me as long as she is saf...
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rtexas
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It is extremely hard coming back to reality
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Just came back late last night/early this morn from my week at "My Happy Place" (Walt Disney World). I almost cried on the plane knowing it was time to face reality once again. I want to run away and live down there forever. Only 4.5 more months and I'll return - this time w/my son for a week before my husban...
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Books.....
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I love to read and getting to meetings will be tough for me since I work two jobs. I am going to try to go though. Does anyone have any good book recommendations? I have a twin, an ex-husband, and current boyfriend who are alcoholics. My parents never drank but I was molested by my dad when I was a teen. This p...
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DJ2006
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Keeping it real for me!
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Last night my "a" had to go to work. He's been working a third shift job since returning to the home. He didn't get to sleep until 4 pm because he chose to watch a movie and then hook up with one of his buddies to smoke pot and play music. I did say to him that I'd like him to work on his sleep s...
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friend
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Since I been in the program I have made alot of friends.
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nycbt
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