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QOD · QOD

Roller Coaster Roller Coaster, Where is the End? My son called me yesterday @ 5:00 just as I was leaving work to tell me that his dad was home & could take him to karate so I didn't have to rush. I told my son to give him the phone. When he got on, I asked where he had been. He claimed that had gone jo...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I recently sent a PM to a new member who thought maybe she was in the wrong place. Her husband is in recovery and she wants her marriage to work. She had stated that it seemed that the message on this board was to dump him. I sent her a PM and she said that she wished someone would post a simila...

nycbt · nycbt

Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Phone number is 1-888-425-2666 Alanon meetings 800-351-9996 Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666 Alanon meeting info. 800-433-...

moonbeam · moonbeam

Having a bad night tonight. My husband is an off and on drinker. Tonight was on. I really feel that I don't love him anymore. He makes my life a lot easier becuase he helps with the kids, house, everything. But he does not fulfill my needs emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise. He is a good father, and I d...

DoN4me · DoN4me

In my meeting tonight learned a few things. First I learned about fun and how much I had missed it. For me it was a time when I didn't have a "headache to keep me down". Before I left for my meeting in the car I was thinking "HALT = am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired". I was angry before I left the...

Tazz · Tazz

Hi all, I guess I sould start off by saying I am new to the Al-Anon group. A good friend has been shareing her experiances and encouraging me to attend. I went to a confrence, and I really enjoyed it. I thought that Al-Anon may be the starting point I was looking for. After a very rough couple of days, I got up...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) So much has happened in the last couple of days. I'm exhausted but trying to stay focused on myself. I'll make this as short as possible. My A came home drunk on Sunday night from his new job and decided to call the girl he was seeing while we were separated. ...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

OK, so now I understand what I've heard from others that "relapse is a part of recovery." In our case it's a big part, bigger than I thought it would be. My A (daughter, age 23) relapsed for the second time since completing a 31-day inpatient program at the end of March. The first relapse put her in c...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I didn't get a chance to really talk tonight at the meeting got in there late. Been a few weeks since I have made an online meeting. I stayed a little in the room after the meeting. I listened to alot of things that were said. The thing is this. I am Grateful everyday for who I am now that I have this pr...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK So I caved. I called him, he SUPRISED me by answering on the second ring. He told me he loves me, maybe not in the way that I love him, but HE loves me. I told him I was leaving work and would stop by and see him...he said no. I said I am already 2 blocks from your house...he said he was leaving. He must ha...

flintfeet · flintfeet

welll...i gave in!!! i have not spoken to my dad in 6 months b/c i found out that he started drinking again. he WAS a wonderful father & papaw. then the drinking got in the way. he became a different person. definitely not the man i remember and not the man i want my kids to see growing up. for my...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Tonight, a woman came to my house and presented me with a lawyer's card. A group of people leasing homes from our landlord are meeting tomorrow to fight a new lease that discriminates against anyone with children and under the age of 55. My name is not on the lease, so I made a decision...a C...

jecy · jecy

I keep trying, and my A keeps bringing me down. i try to seperate, but she wont let me go in my life, she calls and gives everyone a hard time that i know, but if i try to talk to her i'm a retched human being. years before i found "here" and i'm new, i knew everything was wrong. all i wanted to do was get awa...

lila · lila

Thank you all for reading this essay in advance. I have been a browser on this forum for around 2 weeks now and am finding inspiration in even the darkest of places and it may sound weird but i enjoy reading your shares as it helps me look at things in my life in a different way. I’d like to share my (abr...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), It's been a tough week for us. I almost forced A to leave on Wednesday because he's drinking more so than usual. But I walked away for a few hours and comforted a friend instead. We both kept each other from crying. A was going to away for a few days to see his k...

QOD · QOD

AH = Crack & Alcohol Addiction = My Misery!!! He is gone again. Get this: He disappeared from 5/3 - 5/11, at which time he landed himself in the hospital. He called his mom for help, who reluctantly helped him and swares she won't again. (She refuses to enable him). He stayed @ his gra...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Then he shows me Hello Roomies, Last night was a bit scary for me. I was at the meeting here and feeling just fine. At 6:30pm I started to hurt, so I left the meeting and laid down on the couch. I then started to get really really cold. I went and got a blanket and went back to the couch. I just kept getting c...

serendipity · serendipity

my 3 year old told me today that her dad loves her. i said yes he does (hasn't seen him in 3 months). she said he should come here to our house. the she asked if he is with jesus. i told her no grandpa is with jesus. she said dad loves me and her sisters. i said yes he does. then i was talking to my mother (hasn't spo...

sarahlm · sarahlm

Yesterday I posted that my AH wanted a divorce. People wrote me back and i felt okay, had a good day planned, and then he called back to say he was just stressed and not to listen to anything he said. Experience tells me thats what usually happens with him but still... How irritating and abusive,...

sparkette · sparkette

I admit I am brand new to the practice of meditation. I just wanted to share a little of my experience as I am sure there are plenty others out there who are curious about meditation. The gift that I have found immediately in meditating is that it has helped me profoundly in relaxing and calming myself. I w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Thank you all so much for you love and support when I asked hubby to leave this past Friday. It's been an okay weekend. I pretty much worked, and that helped to pass the time. I was phyically and emotionally spent when I came home last night...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I am still in my office, no clients, not working, just in group and in my own sick twisted mind. I actually saw a funeral procession and said to myself "lucky". OMG I dont want to be dead! I forget sometimes that I am a meaningful worthwhile person. Then I started fantasizing that I would be in a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was sleeping last night. When I got one of those "headaches" that don't stop the kind that got tired of all the "ABUSE". So I got up and took some medicine to fix it. I told a few of my friends months ago about these headaches and how I was tired of them and it was getting way out of hand. But no on...

kent_s · kent_s

I've been to many AA meetings with my sweetie, my AW. One last year keeps coming back to mind, over and over. When we entered the large room, I noticed over to one side a young adult with a laptop computer. I noticed later he seemed to be typing in what was being said, and the person next to him was reading wha...

shimo · shimo

Hi Rose, Just wanted to let you know my e-mail with the recipes bounced back to me today with the following notation "unable to deliver message to recipient, due to being unable to connect successfully to the destination mail server." Will try again! wondering if the e-mail box may be full...

angelnomore · angelnomore

(Ouch) feels like advice with a back hand to it, “shopping list quality”, hum never thought of it that way. Personally I thought I was communicating the best way I knew how. Absolutely “sobriety is life or death for the A in our lives” I’m learning that as he continues with the program, but I have a...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

A friend of mine used to quote the old saying that when you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on for dear life. I've added another knot. I started dating a man that I met through eharmony at the beginning of the year. We dated exclusively from the start. ...

Lana · Lana

Due to my illusions concerning fairytales and reality, I was impressed with the following and wanted to share it here. I was listening to an Al-Anon member that gave a new meaning to the phrase happily ever after. She said that, "Happily ever after is working your recovery." ...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I no longer wish to be thought of as...."the sweetest person I know" by a few of my friends. I want to be that mean and evil...no care for human emotion girl, with guns blazing. Maybe not completely. One of the many things I have learned from this program is that, I am only responsible...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

It was suggested to me that perhaps my A is MY addiction. I had not seen OR spoken to my A since May 12. I sent him a letter confessing my undying love and devotion, I sent him a text, I left him a voice mail...not a single response. Yesterday, I passed him. He immediately picked up his phone a called me, a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) I read back over my last post yesterday and decided I needed to make a change before it came between my family and I. I said what I meant and I said it nicely. I know they are happy for me and want me to have a different life than the rollercoaster I have been on the last 2 or so years. I un...

Diva · Diva

My dear, dignified, graceful, 12 year-old Boston Terrier was diagnosed with canine Cushing's Disease several months ago. This is a disease which has no cure, and the medications used to treat it are oftentimes as bad or worse than the disease tiself. Ultimately it is fatal. So hubby and I decided not...

hudsond · hudsond

Sometimes I find it difficult to know when to open my mouth and when to shut it. I'm not talking about in an arguement with my a I'm talking about just talking about stuff. I might have the opportunity for a new position at my school--becoming the music teacher. I'm very excited abou...

ohera101 · ohera101

I am as new as you get to this. I found out two weeks ago that my AH had cheated on me. He saw it as an opportunity to say how he really feels.....he isn't happy with our marriage....we aren't who we used to be....and he doesn't want to work at it. We have been together for almost 8 years, and that would have bee...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Weird day today........not feeling to good about some things so I had to write. I know of the saying "doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity" but isn't doing things differently and getting the same old results insanity too???? Just don't get it. Anyway.....wr...

Tammy · Tammy

As most of you know, I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years .. I have two teenage children. My husband is an alcoholic and has been since he was a teenager. His parents were/are alcoholics and his mother died less than two years ago at 57 suddenly after a night of drinking..( no autopsy done, i do... >

sunny123 · sunny123

I am feeling really scared today. I just can't seem to get it together. I am exhausted and crying and need to do some many things in order to move out. I have been resting all day when I know I need to pack and find an apartment. My AH and I haven't talked in over 3 weeks. I can't believe that he hasn't tried...

nycbt · nycbt

Well I am very angry because my husband goes to this friends house all the dam time. I know he not having sex with her but that have some kind of money thing going on. I am really pissed off because I worried when the stuff is every going to end. I mean really. Some people say he is doing drug and buying i...

shimo · shimo

Hi Rose: Just wanted to let you know I e-mailed some recipes for the book yesterday (Sunday), but received a message "delivery delayed" and that I do not have to send my message again. Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)

serendipity · serendipity

just wanted to thank everyone for their love and support.

bob6502 · bob6502

I was feeling a little sad today so I thought I would apply a little program to my pity party. I have been feeling alone and lonely lately. At the same time happy in my independence, but wishing I had someone to share it with. Scared that if I get close to someone they will realize that I am not perfect and u...

John · John

Hi Everyone, When you registered on the Miracles In Progress message board it automatically added your email address to a Broadcast/Mailing List. This list of emails is not shared with anyone, for any reason, outside of MIP, and it's only utilization by MIP is to provide all registered mem...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm sitting here waiting for my lawyers office to open. It's hard at 6AM with not much to do and trying to be fairly quiet to not wake the house to sit and be nervous. I know logically what I am doing is right. There was a letter in the mail the other day when I stopped home, to th...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey u 2, i got that microsoft thing too and i just hit the "delete button".... i mean , hey we all make mistakes, and i was never mad anyway...some folks are into that "chain letter thing" i am not..... i didn't see what the big deal was........i mean D...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Dear M After today Sunday May 21, 2006 it’s pretty clear there isn’t a chance in hell for us. The words I remember last were “you don’t know what do anymore you don’t respect the boundaries I set or the boundaries you’ve set” and my patience is running pretty thin now” &nb...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Today was a new day. I could have sat home feeling sad...I could have hunkered down in loneliness....I could have lived someone else's existence....I had a choice. I went to the park with my kids, and we had a picnic. I left my cell phone behind, and we sat in the gras...

Lindy · Lindy

I know there are people on here who have much bigger problems than I have. It helps me to talk about what happened over the weekend. I had my son this weekend so when my A is drunk around my son it hurts me terribly and I feel like I'm in the middle of everything. Anyway, my A came home later on Sat. from working...

tippergirl · tippergirl

My A is driving me a little crazy right now. It's hard for me to know that my A only gives just enough information to our friends to make me look like the bad guy. He doesn't truly accept his behavior as his own. I don't air our dirty laundry out to anyone that we are associated iwth, but it seems that he is. Aft...

mattress_feller · mattress_feller

i already posted this in aa postings.and not everyone can change.but i know with the LORD i already have.and im sorry for anyone who was hurt by alcholics in family,i feel bad.and i know some people can change,and i hope its yours. hello,i dont know where to begin.my wife had this site on t...

angelnomore · angelnomore

How do I pause in a relationship? My AABoyfriend is telling me this is what he needs. But I can’t and I’m so TERRIED! I tried to not speaking to him while he goes through sobriety but he keeps leaving messages to tell me Hi and to see how my father is, my Father is very ill and is critical I’m not s...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

Detachement for me has been "walking away from everyone I love and have come to respect in my life." But for me the detachment I choose was because "I" wanted to find me to learn what it is that I have lost over so much time. I had gotten close to so many people and forgot th...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) I really did not feel like posting this but isn't that the time I usually need to post the most? I moved out of my house 2 weeks ago. In that time I stopped by a few times, once I was supposed to stay the night for a doc appointment the next day but while I was there the police showed up...

sarahlm · sarahlm

So my AH wants a divorce. He told me from prison. Its not that Im that upset, I just feel so crappy being rejected by such a loser. Whatever. I am pretty sure Im not that upset because we have been thru this routine before and its hard to believe its true but maybe it really is. If it is, I am sure I will be de...

amommyfirst · amommyfirst

Hello My name is Christa and I am new to the board but no where near new to what is going on. My husband is a alcholic. it started really even before we were married. We both partied and drank but only on weekends and when I got pregnant he even stoped drinking since I could not. well 8 months after our daughte...

nycbt · nycbt

HI EVERYONE JAL-CON 2006 31ST ANNUAL NEW JERSEY AL-ALANON CONVENTION EARLY BIRD RATE REGISTRATION FORM MUST BE POSTMRKED BY JUNE 23, 2006 "GET YOUR KICKS" AL-ANON MEETINGS-ALATEEN MEETINGS-AA MEETINGS SPEAKERS-LONG-TIMER'S PANEL-FAMILY PANEL-SKIT-BANQUET-DANCE JULY 21ST,...

marmare · marmare

Hi to All, Well, with my new job, (I already got a raise), mom being ill, my A being active, etc. etc. I have had lots of stress. Two years ago this would have affected every aspect of my life making me unable to do the smallest tasks like pay the bills. The skills I have learned through Alano...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was feeling sorry for myself today. I feel like my life has been wasted. It has had no meaning. My A is in bed sick asleep all day. I found this poem that helped me feel better. I thought my alanon family might benefit from it as well. I have no one in my real life outside my f2f meetings to talk to when I am mad a...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((((family)))))))))) Something I read in a post has started me thinking.We know the A's are addicted to alcohol,but what are alanons addicted to? To the a's? Maybe not...... I had a friendship with a woman where I work that lasted about 8 years.I had just gotten back together with my AH afte...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Hi everyone I have been reading the board all weekend as it helps me stay in reality. Although my AH isn't as bad as some I have read about, the cycle of disappointment,despair and anger has been apart of my life for too long. This weekend has been stressful for me not because he is drinking b...

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	Heeee's Baaaack! AGAIN (Preview) Roller Coaster Roller Coaster, Where is the End? My son called me yesterday @ 5:00 just as I was leaving work to tell me that his dad was home & could take him to karate so I didn't have to rush. I told my son to give him the phone. When he got on, I asked where he had been. He claimed that had gone jo...	QOD	4	339	May 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	Alanon and Marriage (Preview) Hi everyone, I recently sent a PM to a new member who thought maybe she was in the wrong place. Her husband is in recovery and she wants her marriage to work. She had stated that it seemed that the message on this board was to dump him. I sent her a PM and she said that she wished someone would post a simila...	Jeannie	9	546	May 24, 2006 by tea2
	anyone new check this out (Preview) Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Phone number is 1-888-425-2666 Alanon meetings 800-351-9996 Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666 Alanon meeting info. 800-433-...	nycbt	0	230	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	New here (Preview) Having a bad night tonight. My husband is an off and on drinker. Tonight was on. I really feel that I don't love him anymore. He makes my life a lot easier becuase he helps with the kids, house, everything. But he does not fulfill my needs emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise. He is a good father, and I d...	moonbeam	3	257	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	f2f - Talk was Fun (Preview) In my meeting tonight learned a few things. First I learned about fun and how much I had missed it. For me it was a time when I didn't have a "headache to keep me down". Before I left for my meeting in the car I was thinking "HALT = am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired". I was angry before I left the...	DoN4me	4	280	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	My insanity circle (Preview) Hi all, I guess I sould start off by saying I am new to the Al-Anon group. A good friend has been shareing her experiances and encouraging me to attend. I went to a confrence, and I really enjoyed it. I thought that Al-Anon may be the starting point I was looking for. After a very rough couple of days, I got up...	Tazz	3	766	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	My A wants recovery, need a little ESH (Preview) (((Hello Group))) So much has happened in the last couple of days. I'm exhausted but trying to stay focused on myself. I'll make this as short as possible. My A came home drunk on Sunday night from his new job and decided to call the girl he was seeing while we were separated. ...	twinmom2	4	417	May 24, 2006 by hudsond
	Relapse Questions (Preview) OK, so now I understand what I've heard from others that "relapse is a part of recovery." In our case it's a big part, bigger than I thought it would be. My A (daughter, age 23) relapsed for the second time since completing a 31-day inpatient program at the end of March. The first relapse put her in c...	Jeff Reynolds	7	384	May 24, 2006 by mel123
	Meeting tonight - Gratitude (Preview) I didn't get a chance to really talk tonight at the meeting got in there late. Been a few weeks since I have made an online meeting. I stayed a little in the room after the meeting. I listened to alot of things that were said. The thing is this. I am Grateful everyday for who I am now that I have this pr...	angeleyes8462	2	246	May 24, 2006 by tea2
	OMG! The agony of rejection and withdrawl! (Preview) OK So I caved. I called him, he SUPRISED me by answering on the second ring. He told me he loves me, maybe not in the way that I love him, but HE loves me. I told him I was leaving work and would stop by and see him...he said no. I said I am already 2 blocks from your house...he said he was leaving. He must ha...	jennneeefffurrr	7	366	May 24, 2006 by Cyn
	made a deal w/ the devil (Preview) welll...i gave in!!! i have not spoken to my dad in 6 months b/c i found out that he started drinking again. he WAS a wonderful father & papaw. then the drinking got in the way. he became a different person. definitely not the man i remember and not the man i want my kids to see growing up. for my...	flintfeet	3	335	May 24, 2006 by Rita G
	No expectations, BIG pay off (Preview) Tonight, a woman came to my house and presented me with a lawyer's card. A group of people leasing homes from our landlord are meeting tomorrow to fight a new lease that discriminates against anyone with children and under the age of 55. My name is not on the lease, so I made a decision...a C...	Jennfer32	3	269	May 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	keep searching and find nothing (Preview) I keep trying, and my A keeps bringing me down. i try to seperate, but she wont let me go in my life, she calls and gives everyone a hard time that i know, but if i try to talk to her i'm a retched human being. years before i found "here" and i'm new, i knew everything was wrong. all i wanted to do was get awa...	jecy	3	400	May 24, 2006 by Rita G
	Brain dump by a newbie to al-anon (Preview) Thank you all for reading this essay in advance. I have been a browser on this forum for around 2 weeks now and am finding inspiration in even the darkest of places and it may sound weird but i enjoy reading your shares as it helps me look at things in my life in a different way. I’d like to share my (abr...	lila	7	547	May 24, 2006 by lila
	Hubby has left (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), It's been a tough week for us. I almost forced A to leave on Wednesday because he's drinking more so than usual. But I walked away for a few hours and comforted a friend instead. We both kept each other from crying. A was going to away for a few days to see his k...	Karilynn	19	538	May 24, 2006 by lila
	He's Gone Again & I Took A BIG Step! (Preview) AH = Crack & Alcohol Addiction = My Misery!!! He is gone again. Get this: He disappeared from 5/3 - 5/11, at which time he landed himself in the hospital. He called his mom for help, who reluctantly helped him and swares she won't again. (She refuses to enable him). He stayed @ his gra...	QOD	3	460	May 24, 2006 by Andrea12
	Whenever I wonder if he loves me............... (Preview) Then he shows me Hello Roomies, Last night was a bit scary for me. I was at the meeting here and feeling just fine. At 6:30pm I started to hurt, so I left the meeting and laid down on the couch. I then started to get really really cold. I went and got a blanket and went back to the couch. I just kept getting c...	Dolphin123	3	460	May 24, 2006 by Jennifer
	how do i respond? (Preview) my 3 year old told me today that her dad loves her. i said yes he does (hasn't seen him in 3 months). she said he should come here to our house. the she asked if he is with jesus. i told her no grandpa is with jesus. she said dad loves me and her sisters. i said yes he does. then i was talking to my mother (hasn't spo...	serendipity	2	307	May 24, 2006 by KathyS
	Dillema (Preview) Yesterday I posted that my AH wanted a divorce. People wrote me back and i felt okay, had a good day planned, and then he called back to say he was just stressed and not to listen to anything he said. Experience tells me thats what usually happens with him but still... How irritating and abusive,...	sarahlm	7	296	May 24, 2006 by KathyS
	Meditation (Preview) I admit I am brand new to the practice of meditation. I just wanted to share a little of my experience as I am sure there are plenty others out there who are curious about meditation. The gift that I have found immediately in meditating is that it has helped me profoundly in relaxing and calming myself. I w...	sparkette	2	288	May 24, 2006 by david62
	Thank you family (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Thank you all so much for you love and support when I asked hubby to leave this past Friday. It's been an okay weekend. I pretty much worked, and that helped to pass the time. I was phyically and emotionally spent when I came home last night...	Karilynn	7	434	May 23, 2006 by Andrea12
	SICK SICK SICK fantasies (Preview) I am still in my office, no clients, not working, just in group and in my own sick twisted mind. I actually saw a funeral procession and said to myself "lucky". OMG I dont want to be dead! I forget sometimes that I am a meaningful worthwhile person. Then I started fantasizing that I would be in a...	jennneeefffurrr	7	383	May 23, 2006 by serendipity
	Tired of the headaches (Preview) I was sleeping last night. When I got one of those "headaches" that don't stop the kind that got tired of all the "ABUSE". So I got up and took some medicine to fix it. I told a few of my friends months ago about these headaches and how I was tired of them and it was getting way out of hand. But no on...	DoN4me	2	247	May 23, 2006 by DoN4me
	Ask nothing of another person... (Preview) I've been to many AA meetings with my sweetie, my AW. One last year keeps coming back to mind, over and over. When we entered the large room, I noticed over to one side a young adult with a laptop computer. I noticed later he seemed to be typing in what was being said, and the person next to him was reading wha...	kent_s	4	442	May 23, 2006 by kent_s
	ROSE - RECIPES (Preview) Hi Rose, Just wanted to let you know my e-mail with the recipes bounced back to me today with the following notation "unable to deliver message to recipient, due to being unable to connect successfully to the destination mail server." Will try again! wondering if the e-mail box may be full...	shimo	0	410	May 23, 2006 by shimo
	don’t know how it’s evolved to this PART 2 (Preview) (Ouch) feels like advice with a back hand to it, “shopping list quality”, hum never thought of it that way. Personally I thought I was communicating the best way I knew how. Absolutely “sobriety is life or death for the A in our lives” I’m learning that as he continues with the program, but I have a...	angelnomore	3	422	May 23, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	another knot in the rope (Preview) A friend of mine used to quote the old saying that when you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on for dear life. I've added another knot. I started dating a man that I met through eharmony at the beginning of the year. We dated exclusively from the start. ...	katrina2000	6	393	May 23, 2006 by Rita G
	illusions of reality (Preview) Due to my illusions concerning fairytales and reality, I was impressed with the following and wanted to share it here. I was listening to an Al-Anon member that gave a new meaning to the phrase happily ever after. She said that, "Happily ever after is working your recovery." ...	Lana	2	470	May 23, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Make the sweet stuff go away! (Preview) I no longer wish to be thought of as...."the sweetest person I know" by a few of my friends. I want to be that mean and evil...no care for human emotion girl, with guns blazing. Maybe not completely. One of the many things I have learned from this program is that, I am only responsible...	ZiggyDoodles	1	268	May 23, 2006 by wallsal55
	Revelations...about MY addiction (Preview) It was suggested to me that perhaps my A is MY addiction. I had not seen OR spoken to my A since May 12. I sent him a letter confessing my undying love and devotion, I sent him a text, I left him a voice mail...not a single response. Yesterday, I passed him. He immediately picked up his phone a called me, a...	jennneeefffurrr	8	641	May 23, 2006 by sarahlm
	Family Talk & Apology (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) I read back over my last post yesterday and decided I needed to make a change before it came between my family and I. I said what I meant and I said it nicely. I know they are happy for me and want me to have a different life than the rollercoaster I have been on the last 2 or so years. I un...	Jennifer	1	347	May 23, 2006 by megan
	Off the subject... (Preview) My dear, dignified, graceful, 12 year-old Boston Terrier was diagnosed with canine Cushing's Disease several months ago. This is a disease which has no cure, and the medications used to treat it are oftentimes as bad or worse than the disease tiself. Ultimately it is fatal. So hubby and I decided not...	Diva	14	405	May 23, 2006 by TLC2
	what to say/do (Preview) Sometimes I find it difficult to know when to open my mouth and when to shut it. I'm not talking about in an arguement with my a I'm talking about just talking about stuff. I might have the opportunity for a new position at my school--becoming the music teacher. I'm very excited abou...	hudsond	4	437	May 23, 2006 by hudsond
	And the words came out.... (Preview) I am as new as you get to this. I found out two weeks ago that my AH had cheated on me. He saw it as an opportunity to say how he really feels.....he isn't happy with our marriage....we aren't who we used to be....and he doesn't want to work at it. We have been together for almost 8 years, and that would have bee...	ohera101	3	277	May 23, 2006 by confused
	Falling Stars (Preview) Weird day today........not feeling to good about some things so I had to write. I know of the saying "doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity" but isn't doing things differently and getting the same old results insanity too???? Just don't get it. Anyway.....wr...	buzzfree	10	367	May 23, 2006 by sparkette
	Does growing stronger make you NUMB ? (Preview) As most of you know, I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years .. I have two teenage children. My husband is an alcoholic and has been since he was a teenager. His parents were/are alcoholics and his mother died less than two years ago at 57 suddenly after a night of drinking..( no autopsy done, i do... >	Tammy	4	402	May 22, 2006 by quest
	scared (Preview) I am feeling really scared today. I just can't seem to get it together. I am exhausted and crying and need to do some many things in order to move out. I have been resting all day when I know I need to pack and find an apartment. My AH and I haven't talked in over 3 weeks. I can't believe that he hasn't tried...	sunny123	11	387	May 22, 2006 by sunny123
	ANGRY (Preview) Well I am very angry because my husband goes to this friends house all the dam time. I know he not having sex with her but that have some kind of money thing going on. I am really pissed off because I worried when the stuff is every going to end. I mean really. Some people say he is doing drug and buying i...	nycbt	10	337	May 22, 2006 by Maria123
	ROSE RE RECIPE'S (Preview) Hi Rose: Just wanted to let you know I e-mailed some recipes for the book yesterday (Sunday), but received a message "delivery delayed" and that I do not have to send my message again. Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	279	May 22, 2006 by Becky1
	thank you (Preview) just wanted to thank everyone for their love and support.	serendipity	4	266	May 22, 2006 by bubbles1990
	It's a journey (Preview) I was feeling a little sad today so I thought I would apply a little program to my pity party. I have been feeling alone and lonely lately. At the same time happy in my independence, but wishing I had someone to share it with. Scared that if I get close to someone they will realize that I am not perfect and u...	bob6502	9	469	May 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	Deepest Apology (Preview) Hi Everyone, When you registered on the Miracles In Progress message board it automatically added your email address to a Broadcast/Mailing List. This list of emails is not shared with anyone, for any reason, outside of MIP, and it's only utilization by MIP is to provide all registered mem...	John	18	3222	May 22, 2006 by moonstorm
	Waiting (Preview) Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm sitting here waiting for my lawyers office to open. It's hard at 6AM with not much to do and trying to be fairly quiet to not wake the house to sit and be nervous. I know logically what I am doing is right. There was a letter in the mail the other day when I stopped home, to th...	Jennifer	6	405	May 22, 2006 by Jennifer
	Add yourself to MIP MAP (closed) (Preview) This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...	jrtjosey	0	334	May 22, 2006 by toto12
	to john and rose (Preview) hey u 2, i got that microsoft thing too and i just hit the "delete button".... i mean , hey we all make mistakes, and i was never mad anyway...some folks are into that "chain letter thing" i am not..... i didn't see what the big deal was........i mean D...	rosie light shines	4	298	May 22, 2006 by toto12
	don’t know how it’s evolved to this. (Preview) Dear M After today Sunday May 21, 2006 it’s pretty clear there isn’t a chance in hell for us. The words I remember last were “you don’t know what do anymore you don’t respect the boundaries I set or the boundaries you’ve set” and my patience is running pretty thin now” &nb...	angelnomore	3	378	May 22, 2006 by abbyal
	An experience I need to share (Preview) Today was a new day. I could have sat home feeling sad...I could have hunkered down in loneliness....I could have lived someone else's existence....I had a choice. I went to the park with my kids, and we had a picnic. I left my cell phone behind, and we sat in the gras...	Jennfer32	5	418	May 22, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Weekend with a drunk; doesn't remember what he said! (Preview) I know there are people on here who have much bigger problems than I have. It helps me to talk about what happened over the weekend. I had my son this weekend so when my A is drunk around my son it hurts me terribly and I feel like I'm in the middle of everything. Anyway, my A came home later on Sat. from working...	Lindy	3	503	May 22, 2006 by megan
	hard to focus on self (Preview) My A is driving me a little crazy right now. It's hard for me to know that my A only gives just enough information to our friends to make me look like the bad guy. He doesn't truly accept his behavior as his own. I don't air our dirty laundry out to anyone that we are associated iwth, but it seems that he is. Aft...	tippergirl	6	361	May 22, 2006 by Dolphin123
	addiction (Preview) i already posted this in aa postings.and not everyone can change.but i know with the LORD i already have.and im sorry for anyone who was hurt by alcholics in family,i feel bad.and i know some people can change,and i hope its yours. hello,i dont know where to begin.my wife had this site on t...	mattress_feller	5	337	May 22, 2006 by carol g
	HOW DO YOU PAUSE!!!! (Preview) How do I pause in a relationship? My AABoyfriend is telling me this is what he needs. But I can’t and I’m so TERRIED! I tried to not speaking to him while he goes through sobriety but he keeps leaving messages to tell me Hi and to see how my father is, my Father is very ill and is critical I’m not s...	angelnomore	3	705	May 21, 2006 by kent_s
	Detachment (Preview) Detachement for me has been "walking away from everyone I love and have come to respect in my life." But for me the detachment I choose was because "I" wanted to find me to learn what it is that I have lost over so much time. I had gotten close to so many people and forgot th...	angeleyes8462	3	269	May 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	UGH I did not think it could hurt more (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) I really did not feel like posting this but isn't that the time I usually need to post the most? I moved out of my house 2 weeks ago. In that time I stopped by a few times, once I was supposed to stay the night for a doc appointment the next day but while I was there the police showed up...	Jennifer	4	296	May 21, 2006 by Tammy
	The pain of being rejected by a LOSER!!! (Preview) So my AH wants a divorce. He told me from prison. Its not that Im that upset, I just feel so crappy being rejected by such a loser. Whatever. I am pretty sure Im not that upset because we have been thru this routine before and its hard to believe its true but maybe it really is. If it is, I am sure I will be de...	sarahlm	3	952	May 21, 2006 by Busbe
	need help (Preview) Hello My name is Christa and I am new to the board but no where near new to what is going on. My husband is a alcholic. it started really even before we were married. We both partied and drank but only on weekends and when I got pregnant he even stoped drinking since I could not. well 8 months after our daughte...	amommyfirst	6	256	May 21, 2006 by nycbt
	JAL-CON 2006 NJ (Preview) HI EVERYONE JAL-CON 2006 31ST ANNUAL NEW JERSEY AL-ALANON CONVENTION EARLY BIRD RATE REGISTRATION FORM MUST BE POSTMRKED BY JUNE 23, 2006 "GET YOUR KICKS" AL-ANON MEETINGS-ALATEEN MEETINGS-AA MEETINGS SPEAKERS-LONG-TIMER'S PANEL-FAMILY PANEL-SKIT-BANQUET-DANCE JULY 21ST,...	nycbt	4	287	May 21, 2006 by nycbt
	What a switch (Preview) Hi to All, Well, with my new job, (I already got a raise), mom being ill, my A being active, etc. etc. I have had lots of stress. Two years ago this would have affected every aspect of my life making me unable to do the smallest tasks like pay the bills. The skills I have learned through Alano...	marmare	2	259	May 21, 2006 by Tammy
	inspirational poem wanted to share (Preview) I was feeling sorry for myself today. I feel like my life has been wasted. It has had no meaning. My A is in bed sick asleep all day. I found this poem that helped me feel better. I thought my alanon family might benefit from it as well. I have no one in my real life outside my f2f meetings to talk to when I am mad a...	hmrnrnmm	1	237	May 21, 2006 by Lana
	the "substance" alanons are hooked on (Preview) (((((((((family)))))))))) Something I read in a post has started me thinking.We know the A's are addicted to alcohol,but what are alanons addicted to? To the a's? Maybe not...... I had a friendship with a woman where I work that lasted about 8 years.I had just gotten back together with my AH afte...	drucilla06	7	978	May 21, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Holding Back (Preview) Hi everyone I have been reading the board all weekend as it helps me stay in reality. Although my AH isn't as bad as some I have read about, the cycle of disappointment,despair and anger has been apart of my life for too long. This weekend has been stressful for me not because he is drinking b...	Elizabeth M	4	290	May 21, 2006 by maresie
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