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Withdrawal Symptoms
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Hi Everyone.
Lovely day here. Can anyone help with this. My partner has been on detox programme for the last week. Strange things have been happening. Sometimes he can be fine. I have been sat with him and half an hour later he can turn into a mad man. Talking to himself about nothing. Looking at me as...
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divorce is on again and it's my fault
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This is a hard post to write and probably will be long, but bear with me, I need advice. My h is a crack addict and I've stayed with him all these years. Mainly because he's the breadwinner and I work part time. He's been telling me to find a full time job for a few years and he resen...
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Chatroom Entrance(s) (Please Read)
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Our www.mipchat.net page, which provided a entrance into our Al-Anon room, was removed by the group member who had kindly provided it, for what I will call "personal" reasons. MIP still has all admin. rights to the mipchat.net domain, so while it will be down for the next few days...
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chat down?
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I can't even get in via irc.
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a MONTH and NO A/Well deserved vacation!/Pen Pal Club INFO!
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Well, tomorrow will be 4 weeks since the last time my A and I were together. Have not spoken to him either. I cried my eyes out for hours last night. Praying, crying, releasing...healing.
I decided to give myself a break. Escape from this small little Ohio town and head...
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open AA meetings
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If you attend an open AA meeting as opposed to a Alanon meeting...what do you say when ask if there are any newcomers? I just wonder if AA members are ok with Alanon members in their meetings.
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photo posting whew!
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Can someone please tell me exactly what steps to follow to post photos on our album site. Have been round and round many times, result - total frustration.
Oh pleez, can it be this difficult?
thx
Perfectly confused,
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sorry if i seemed judgemental or insensitive
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i have read posts in these past months and i woudl see a poster and instead of saying "i hear ya" or "hey i can relate" or "gee i am sorry for ur pain" i would jump right in and get on their case with "what step r u working on???" or "do u have...
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Update - and Thankfulness
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Since I have joined alanon my life has improved drastically. I see things differently now. When I first came to this program. I was confused, and tired, and felt like my whole world was caving in on me. But now I have had alot of time for me. My son went to spend some of the summer with his father for the first...
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Sometimes I feel lost
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I am new here and I am unsure of how things work. I tried an alanon group in my area a few years ago but the people were so pushy that I didn't feel comfortable. My father is an alcoholoic. My first husband was an alcoholic and my current husband is an alcoholic. Of course his drinking has no effect on me or my d...
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Trouble getting in chatroom
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Hi, I cannot get into chatroom, says "cannot find server." Does anyone know what that's all about? At first I thought it was my ISP, but I can go everywere elsl online. Please let me know either here or via email. Thank you,
Debbie
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Hi
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(((Hi everyone))),
Just checking in to say hi. I haven't been able to post lately, but I have read a little. This time of year, I am running with end of the year school trips. Proms, Graduations and Communions. Plus baseball and Tball games. Between work and the kids their is no time to breath, let alon...
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hello
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just wanted to pop in and say hi. havent really been posting lately but im doing good. and still keeping the focus on me!!!!!!!! hope everyone else is doing ok. love all of you
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Why does the plan B have to hurt so much ??
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Last night was horrible, my husband and I fought he left then came back and proceeded to drink.. Telling me he was going to get as far as he could away from me, that he is done living like this and blabla bla... I didnt attend that fignt ( thanks to the advise of a friend who said we dont have to attend ever...
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a request
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(((((all)))))
For anyone who knows a bit of what is going on I am very concerned and nervous. I have asked HP for guidance.
I have an important doctor’s appointment today to see what is needed next.
I know many have it worse then me.
I would appreciate any prayers for a solution soon. I do know thi...
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I so DONT care anymore
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This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google.
I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too mu...
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Butterfly Kisses
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Ok, so many of you have probably heard the song Butterfly Kisses, right? Well I felt like I needed to cry tonight so I put it on. I don't know where all the hurt came from, but it just like poured out. It was actually kinda scary, I wasn't expecting it at all. While I was crying I had an idea to write down everyt...
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GOING CRAZY WITH JAVA
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Sorry, but I'm going nuts trying to get into business meeting. I reloaded J2DR ....update 7
Cannot get in. hmmm
help help
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afraid and tired
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My son's father called this morning. He worked nights last night, so I'll make the assumption that he's sober. I could tell he needed a drink. He yelled at me because I didn't kiss his bum. So tired of dealing with him. He ruined my memorial day by returni...
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CHAT ROOM
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The only links I can access from this page are the step work link and the site tdchnical problems link. I cannot get into chat through any other method either including google. This page is the only MIP link in my favorites that is also working. Will try when I get into work this eveni...
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JOHN!!!! ARE WE ** UNDER CONSTRUCTION ** !?!?!
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John!!!!!! ((I'm TELLING!!)) ~~~ n0n0., ((haha)) Im reallly asking you to help us understand..... what is going on.... today Wednesday Afternoon 060706.
We are... arnt we., ... ...
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Chat Room
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Is anyone having trouble getting in this morning or is it just me/my computer?
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General Business Group Conscience Meeting
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General Business Group Conscience Meeting
June 7, 2006
Chair: SenoraBob
Agenda Items
Old Business
1)Approval of Minutes from May 3, 2006 meeting
2) Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob
3) Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff/SenoraBob
New Business...
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Slurring, stumbling, and sulking, oh my!
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Here we go again with my AH. He has been off of work the last 2 weeks (in between jobs) and I get to come home to his slurring, stumbling, and sulking. The last two days I was on the road for my job for nine hours (3 on Monday and the rest yesterday). Anyway, I've been noticing he's been steadily getting more dr...
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reactivity
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I am trying to work on channeling my energy rather than having all my energy go into dysfunction.
Last night the A's mother dropped by just at dinner time. He of course ran off with her for an hour or so. Normally I would be obsessed with rage, resentment and disorder. I am workin...
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HELP!!!!
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I am new to this board. I have looked everywhere for a family support group for drug addicts but no luck. I am the mother of a 22 year old meth addict. I am divorced and have been raising my daughter's child since her birth. I have lost almost everything due to my daughter...
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WOW!! me after 28 months
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this was a response to some more literature that i like to read....
"I rarely cried while I was growing up in myalcoholic family. I was sure it was a sign ofweakness. However, my emotions came as apackage. When I turned off one feeling, I shut offall the others. My grief was, and sometimes still is,unb...
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Detachment with love
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As my "a " was on his last crack binge, I started to write this down, it turned out to be a poem/letter to him. I would like to share with all of you, this is what my first share ever was about in a meeting, this morning.
Each and everyday,
it gets easier,
to go away........
To never look back,
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Thanks and an update
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I have been hanging around this board for about a week and will attend my second f2f tomorrow. It has helped me tremendously to progress and I am incredibly grateful to everyone who has shared their stories because they have had a profoundly sobering effect on me. Consequently my relationship with my...
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help and support dealling with 20 year old narcotics addict.
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i just found out my son is using narcotics again . He's been in rehab and I thought he was clean for the past two years. He has been using all along. I'm depressed, freaked out and scared for him. It explains why he has been having trouble keeping jobs and basically taking good care of himself. He has an apar...
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Needing some advice
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I wanted to know if anyone could help me on the topic of a sponsor. I am still fairly new to alanon and I am really trying to learn as much as I can. I have been reading constantly and I am finally ready to try to change for me and me only, I can say the past few days I have felt more at peace tha...
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sorry i goofed up, and sent my post 2 x
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sorry i goofed and submitted it twice -- Edited by rosie light shines at 12:15, 2006-06-07
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Burning my candle at both ends
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I am so stressed, tired, confused. I am working so hard to keep my life from falling completely apart but I feel as if the walls are starting to crumble in around me.
My AH still is not working. It has been almost 4 weeks since he has been home from his last week long binge. He hasn't ha...
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What is F2F?
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Can anyone explain this acronym? I am new to this message board and sometimes see things such as F2F that I don't know.
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A first step
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She's sleeping in the guest room now at my request.
While I was online, she came upstairs, went right to that room and shut the door. Very out of character for her not to say goodnight.
15 minutes later, I went in and she woke up and looked at me with that stupid "I've been drinking" grin.
I men...
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Help needed
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My partner stopped drinking about 1 month ago. He has been on a home detox programme. I don't know what is happening to him at the moment. It's like living with 2 different people. One minute he's ok the next he's a mad man. Never seen him like this before. It is breaking my heart. He was fine yesterday when...
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perspective
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i was at my f2f tonight and a friend brought up a topic of powerlessness. her son worrying about his father (her ex). and another friend said how nice that she has raised a son who can care deeply and express his feelings. i just love when people can turn our sorrows into joys. it is all in the perspective. a...
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Lambasted by control freak
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Got out 4 books to bring self down from anger level, and here's what showed up:
"I don't have to react instantly to provocation, and I am not obligated to justify myself to anyone."
"Defending ourselves by engaging in arguments with actively drinking or otherwise irrational people is as fruitle...
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age
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I'm 19. I'm still unsure where I feel most comfortable.....on this board or the Alateen board. I also have been thinking of actually going to a f2f Al-Anon meeting but I'm unsure. Anyways....
How old are some of you?
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geeeez i feel like doggie doo doo
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last night i cried AGAIN!!!
i am lying in bed last night, getting ready for sleep, and it hit me!! here i am goin on 60 this month and i **feel** like i MISSED out on life.....the abuse-- the resultant addictions/ codependency disease, u know, the aftershocks of the trauma, and NOW, i get my...
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Please just leave!
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So what if I just want her to go away? And thus begins my rambling for the day.
Should I ignore the drinking? Yep. Do I? Nope. Why?
Here's the issue I have with letting her "get away" with the drinking. Like many stories I've seen here, she denies drinking eve...
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Cheating Myself
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Hello Everyone
I haven't posted in a while, I guess I've been withdrawn in my own little world. Basically I've been plodding along from day to day but not really feeling much peace. I threw my back out and its been pretty bad for the last week. Being in pain really drains me and depr...
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Packing, waiting, feel so left out
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Well, at least there is a plan to relocate. I thought it might be in a few weeks. I called to get sq.footage of apt and found out only mailing app today and may be 2-3 wks to process and maybe some weeks after to move in. The isolation gets soooo hard to deal with. I used to be able to have a bus just down the stree...
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Dateing in my 40's
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Hi my friends old and new.
I am dating. I am on 3 different dating websites and my email box is full.
I have even progressed to meeting 2 people in real life.
One not suitable and the other makes my heart beat fast and my pulse quicken.
The one I like is eerily similar to my husband. Profess...
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ESH please
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I have been praying to HP all day ... since yesterday. Let go, let God. Detach. Believe it will be OK, HP, please help me do the next right thing... these are all my mantras today.
My most difficult challenge with this program is not just feeling like someone is ...
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Life is stranger than fiction
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((((Hello Everyone))))
Been out of town for our aniversery and it started off miserably. All last week, my AW said she didn't want to go, didn't like the place I picked, wanted me to take the kids and she would stay home.... on and on. The disease at it's best.
Well, we settled on the kid...
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Age differs, but many feelings the same
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Hi, I am 50. My qualifier is my spouse. Welcome any time to this board. My experience with alanon, mixed ages, same feelings even though different situations, environments. One alanon shoe size does not fit all, so that is why you have a choice. ...
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Alcoholic
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Hi Everyone.
I'm new to this site. Like everyone else I need a little help. My partner of 8 years Paul is an Alcoholic. He has been on a detox programme. He detoxed at home for 2 weeks with the help of tablets and the doctors. The last few days I think he has been having Vodka. He has been acting drunk. Whe...
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Leading by example?
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I'm new here, please bare with me
When my stepson got out of rehab (drugs and alcohol) we were told that we needed to go home and clean out the closets so-to-speak. My husband and I didn't have anything to throw-away as we are not drinkers/druggers so there was no problem there. We did however, lock up S...
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thanks to all the ANGELS who comforted me
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i just wanted to thank U guys for taking time to "hug" me in my world of hurt here
i am working the steps on having to accept that all i may get out of this program is to love/treat me and others better...
there may NOT be any lights at the end of the tunnel...there may NOT be any be...
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Reflections
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I never fgure out whether a happy incident is a lovely ending or a beautiful beginning.
Feeling are not right or wrong they just are.
It's easier to ask "How Important Is it?"
than carry resentment.
Serenity is choosing to live with things as they happen,not choosing them to happen as you wish...
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verbal & psychological abuse
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It has been hard to deal with, it comes in waves. Being bombarded lately, even though I have come out of the dumps a bit, it still does such a number in your head, on your self-esteem/psyche... it is SO hard to remember hurt people... hurt people & not to take it personally but I have so mu...
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Is lying part of the disease?
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Thanks, everyone, for listening (reading) and responding. I appreciate all comments. I am a fairly new Al-Anon member. I attend meetings locally. This is my first online posting. I am living apart from my A boyfriend. We lived together for several years, b...
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sponsorship
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Quick question for those that have sponsored. . .
My one year anniversary in the program is in November. I have worked the steps, go to 5 meetings a week and currently sponsor 3 newcomers. My sponsor says that I am living and breathing the program, tha...
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What do you think
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My brother in law called asking for help in making a decision - wanted to put the situation out there to see if you think my reasoning is healthy???
Brother in law's daughter from 1st marriage is going on senior trip to cancun, he and his second wife were going as chaperones. His wife had e...
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They are coming to take me away............
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Sheesh, some of you may remember that song from the late 60's. "They are coming to take me away ha ha........." I feel like that lately. I have my HP working overtime restoring me to sanity.
My A is driving me nuts. I don't think she has drank in the last few days. But I suppose she thi...
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Is it time?
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How do I know when I have had enough. When will I be full and not take anymore. The cycles make me feel insane. I am tired of the I'm sorrys, I wasn't doing anything wrong and the famous....your the one I want to be with. I'm so tired, with my mom dying I can't deal with the crap that...
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Pain
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I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is:
"Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial"
It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...
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Prayers please, please, please.
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((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))),
I just got back from the ICU and seeing hubby. His pancreas has been damaged. The past 2 weeks that he has been staying with his friend from rehab (the one he saved a couple of months ago from a heroine overdose) he hasn't been able to ke...
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A crack in my serenity
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As some of you know....
Last month my son's first car was hit by a truck and totaled (son was fine). He had it 6 weeks. We lost $700.00 on the deal and took it with a grain of salt. Insuranse would only give us X amount.
So we found him another car for a good price. A red 1993 Mitsubishi Eclipse. Old, but h...
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