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son's court date continued
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Hello dear friends,
My son got to court this morning and the judge wasn't there. He was out on sick leave. No one had informed my son's attorney. There was another judge there, but attorney felt that it would be in son's best interest to get a continuance until the other judge came...
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Lexie
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Just moved out
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Well I am new to this have been to a couple of alanon meetings but have difficulty getting there with 3 kids in tow who can't sit still for 5 mins. much less an hour. My alcoholic addict husband is stranded somewhere in Arizona and I get the collect calls begging for money. It's a very very lon...
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carolinagirl
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Abandoment
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(((((((((Family)))))))))),
I had been thinking about posting this since I read it. But Tiger's most recent post really convinced me to do it. Thank you Tiger.
This is from: More on the Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
Stand up to your fear of aband...
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Karilynn
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Isabala where are you??
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Ok what is going on??? How are you and what are you up to??
love,debilyn
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Panic feelings...
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Hi everyone,
Just need to vent, it feels better usually.
Don't know what to think, what to do. I go crazy thinking about things so I try to pray a lot. After confronting AH with the cell phone bill he claimed it was only a friend, that they did date while we were separated this year (I left...
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hersh
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the double bind
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Essentially what the A puts me in all the time from morning to night and during my sleep is a double bind. He is always telling me that he does not have time for me or my needs. Yet at the same time, he demands and cajoles and manipulates to get all his needs met. The only thing that matters are hi...
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maresie
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Lonely
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Hi everyone, I am new to this message board but not to Al Anon. Meetings are hard to get to as they conflict with my work schedule most of the time. I am thankful for this board. I've been reading some posts and I guess I should be lucky my AH does not go into any loud hysterics or become ph...
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Daisy
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I Live in A Crazy House
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Last night, I went to the Dr. cos my right thumb has been hurting really bad for a couple of weeks. I do assembly work, and use tools, so it has been very hard at work. Anyway, went to Dr., got an x-ray, went to pharmacy.
Got home, kissed AH hello, he was fine. Couple of hours later, he i...
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just as I predicted
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Hello
Yesterday, while high on cocaine, my A husband was understanding about being served with divorce papers. Yesterday we agreed to be pleasant about this and maintain a friendly relationship. He was apologetic about how he has screwed us up financially and otherwise.
Today, the drugs ha...
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artygirl
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Resentment again
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Hey guys,
I am feeling resentment towards my ex bf A, whose been sober 4 months.....some of you know, he and I decided to take a break after his stint in rehab so he could focus on his recovery and me to do the same. He was literally at deaths door and both our sponsors thought it was best for our relation...
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Where to start?
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Hi. I am new to this forum and am writing to ask for some input from those of you who have been through this before. A good friend of mine has a drinking problem and i'm not sure what to do about it. I've spoken with another good friend of mine, who is a recovering alcoholic (and lives in a...
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valentine
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Feedback needed
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Hello. I stumbled on this board today and figured that this was a good place to get suggestions and feedback from others. I have read from other postings the advice and understanding that each of you have displayed. I am hoping that perhaps you will be able to enlighten me and help m...
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WifeinDespair
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mark is in rehab
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He called me tonight and was really upset. I talked to him a little but I was at work. He called his sponsor and talked to him. When I got caught up I called him back. I didn't like the way he was talking and the things he was saying. Then he said he was thinking about going to rehab, but he said he didn't tell Ray...
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marks girl
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sponsors words coming to haunt me
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I have not spoken to my sponsor for quite a while. She is out of town on an extended holiday. One thing she did say to me was that when I got ready to leave the A he would put a lot of obstacles in my way. Lately he has been staying home all the time. I want to go through all my stuff and get it organized.&nbs...
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maresie2
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clarity needed
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I've just found and joined your site. I'm having another bad night! Don't want to bore you all with the ins and outs but something's not sitting right with me and i can't put my finger on it. I've come to realise that I'm 50% responsible for the dynamics of my alcoholic marriage and there I'm stuck....
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paula Q
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I finally did it!!!!
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I gave 4 weeks notice at work!!!!!!!!
God , what a relieve!!! I havent spoke about my job, so i put you into a picture. I work for hot tub company last 3 years. I loved it since day one, i had fantastic people around and work was always fun. About a year ago my boss stoped coming to the office and we had to deal...
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daisy2
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Please say a prayer....
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Hi everyone:
I just got a call from AH who has been unemployed for a while now and our financial situation is going downhill. He says he has a temporary printing position and the guy said it would be for a while, like a month or so. It is the graveyard shift, (who cares, ANYTHING is needed at...
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hersh
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i'm new to alanon
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hi all, i am the mom to a 19 year old who is struggling in his recovery from alcohol and drugs. i've been attending naranon meetings and they have helped alot. i would like to find a new group that focuses more on the traditions and steps. i was thinking of trying a alanon meeting but i wasn't sure if i would b...
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nj mom
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a poem by mac
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Fallen
In the morning springtime air,
A gentle breeze is blowing where
Winter winds had rushed around the trees,
And spun some to the ground.
In the forest, autumn leaves,
Fallen from the vibrant trees,
With broken limbs that found no sun,
Released from high, to e...
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mac57
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A semi-new cycle
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Hi!
So after Thursday & Friday of perfectly charming husband, he has slipped. I however, read, prayed, tried not to slip too bad. Stayed calm, did a lot of saying....Let Go Let God, and "quit interupting HP work".....Tonight when he called, I asked...."what are you doing?" his r...
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marmare
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just need some support
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i did something really stupid. i can't even justify it in my own head, that's how blatently stupid it was.i slept with my ex. no protection, which for me is about the dumbest thing i have ever done and that is saying alot. so, i'm scared. god only knows where he's been or who with. but all i can do about that i...
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serendipity
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Mac57????
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I got your email and I'm trying to reach you but my emails to you keep bouncing back!
Please let me know if there is another way to find you.
And ... thank you.
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2 A's and a 2 year Old
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Just got back from Michigan from a VERY stressful weekend (4 days long) to visit my granddaughter who is two. I live in Ohio. The baby is my AH's son's girlfriend's baby, but I couldn't love her more if she were my own flesh and blood.
We went camping. OMG. My AH acted like a je...
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non stop dramarama
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Well the A sulked all weekend then went on a mini binge. He did zero around the house nothing. Then he started drinking smoking and using (I think it was marjuana). I detached detached detached working on plan b, and kept on working.
Today he is supposedly back at work and says he doesn't...
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What else can happen?????
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HAVEN'T POSTED IN A WHILE. TRYING TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME WITH EX/ABF. As I found out he was cheating! Confronted her,(she was very nice and realized he was using both of us) then confronted him (denied everything and turned it all on me) then I told myself I had closed another chapter in my...
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now I'm confused!
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Hello
So, my A/C-addicted hubby was served with divorce papers yesterday. Not the reaction I was expecting. He came home in a cocaine-induced mood (which is his only GOOD mood).
He was rather pleasant about the whole thing. Told me I was justified. He was at fault, he screwed up, he'll do what...
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artygirl
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Terrified, please help.
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I am so overwhelmed right now. I just don't know what to do. My father gave up on me, he just signed off. While it's relieving that court is over, I'm hurt that it was that easy for him to just forget about me. The guy I love, told me that he loves another girl more than he could ever love me, my brothers leave fo...
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Miranda
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Business Meeting
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Business Meeting, Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there.
kerry
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Walking through the fear.....
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(((Hi everyone))):
After another crisis situation with AH, I sank into a horrible depression last week. I snapped out of it and I have been reading a lot, going to a lot of face to face meetings and getting out of my isolation. The roller coaster is not ending soon it seems.
What I have r...
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hersh
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My family pictures
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Jeannie
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Miracles
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Hi Roomies,
Miracles are things that have no earthly explanation. We see a line of daffodils turned toward the sun in the afternoon light, see the blue sky above us all day, gumdrop sparkling stars all night, with no sense of wonder? We casually notice animals, insects, clouds, ocean...
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mac57
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What else can I do to get away?
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Just great I spent the last 15 to 30 minutes writing a post. The computer decided to do something wierd and everything dissappeared. Here I go again. Not as long this time. I will just recap last nite.
I got home around 9pm. I see that my A, Tina had gotten the truck running.( She was suppose to wait for my...
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hmrnrnmm
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Jealousy
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It was a heartfelt weekend for me. I had a great talk with my A this weekend. Don't know what will be the outcome of it only my HP knows for sure. I can say this much, I am really enjoying who I am becoming. I realize there is a life outside my house. I thank my HP everyday for showing my how to break-free from all...
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DoN4me
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Help I was out of control
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I am so unfamiliar with this anger. It comes on me BOOM. I am left to repent, but how do I avoid it in the first place? Any advice is welcome. thank you Jill
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Jill
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Let the chips fall where they may
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(((Hello Group)))
Its been an emotional weekend and holiday for me. Things at home have not really gotten better in fact for me they got worse. My A's attitude towards me all week was defensive and negative. I did my best to tune it out and continue with my recovery and taking care...
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twinmom2
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dropping the bomb
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Hello
Today's the big day. The attorney is serving my A/cocaine-addicted husband with divorce papers.
I'm a bit concerned about his reaction and possible retalliation. I just hope he doesn't come into the house when I'm not here and take things that he shouldn't... or break things. I don't...
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artygirl
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giving up trying to get him to do...
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This past week we got a notice on the yard that it had to be weeded and trimmed up. The A did 5 minutes of it then declared the mower is broken. Keep in mind that he says that the weed trimmer(2 of them) another mower and now this mower given to us by the landlord are all broken. And he has umpteen excuses why he c...
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maresie2
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what is the difference between being a doormat & not fighting?
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have not felt totally good for the last couple of days. My back & hip are so stiff nothing is working much. I am just going on as usual. I had an appt today and of course it is a good thing I took my A along. She had to fill out paperwork too. We had a bunch of clothes to donate. I do be...
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hmrnrnmm
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No Faith in a HP
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This is driving me totally crazy. I feel like there is something wrong with me. Why can’t I get a true faith or trust in a HP? I see the coincidences and burning bushes.
I do believe that there is some form of a power... a higher power that must be guiding this world. There is so much beauty and incredi...
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sandie123
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Thankfully, holiday weekend over
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I will be so happy to see this long weekend end. No good comes of long holiday weekends for us. The problem isn't drinking today...it is not drinking. Once again my son has decided he has had enough of the alcohol and says he is finished. I say "when polar bears live in trees"....not to him, of course. I hav...
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omajoy
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Being stuck/getting unstuck
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A friend of mine who is also in the program has been helping me a lot lately to break my stuff down into small pieces and keep working on those pieces. Normally a holiday with the A around would be a nightmare. If he is not drinking or using he is just a lump stuck in the middle of the TV feeling sorry for...
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maresie2
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brothers courtdate is Tues
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Moms been subpoened to testify
Brother living in small apartment, not working, lost his part time job even
Mom wants this over and is willing to take brother back in to live at her condo
Me? Im detaching (as well as I can) - its a sick sick family
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Barbara
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thought i was handling things ok...
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I guess this post is more like me needing to just journal in a safe way. So for what it's worth (if you can stand reading a long post), here goes...
I'm feeling really confused about what I want out of my life, and what I need from those who are closest to me. I've felt this way probably...
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lmt123
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Surrender...Let Go and Let God
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They say that living in a dysfunctional family changes who you are. I believe that being a member of the Al-anon family can also change who you are.
Although I am feeling pretty good right now - as may be reflected in my previous post - I know that this too shall pass (Darn it! I used to...
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BeBlessed
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Hi
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Hello everyone,
I am new here and new to the Al-anon program. My husband of 13 years just returned from treatment and has been home for 5 days. He has been sober for 36 days and is struggling daily to keep himself on track. He is doing okay but, after tonight I am really starting to wonder how much longer I...
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lani
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Every woman.....
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Hope you can say "YES" to all of these!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..one old love she can imagine going back to.. and one who reminds her how far she has come... A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..enough money within her c...
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daisy2
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Son's courtdate
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Hello dear (((((friends)))))
My son's sentencing hearing is Tuesday, September 5. I am trusting God for the best outcome, but still have moments of nervousness and anxiety in anticipation. My son has been clean for 18 months now and is doing extremely well in every area of h...
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Lexie
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I Have The Faith
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Hello Dear Friends,
Well been getting thru minute by minute right now......The addition has totally taken over the addict once again....I can't worry about that....
So happy I start a new job on Tuesday....that is so great...I am very thankful about that......moving f...
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Andrea12
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Plan B
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I have been going through my stuff all weekend and am part the way through the task of being ready. I think that is some of the issue being ready for what God has in store for me. I oftentimes am not ready. I have been overdue on decluttering and getting rid of stuff for more than a year now.&nbs...
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maresie2
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more questions
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I feel silly asking more from each of you, but already the response has been overwhelming. Thank you for those that posted a response to my original post. Your ideas, suggestions and empathy have already lifted my heart! I think that I am just so thankful to know that I am not alone a...
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WifeinDespair
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trying not to be needy
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my ex just left after spending the day with the kids here at my home. i am feeling so lonlely that i thought about just crawling into his arms. that's pretty low for me. after all he has done and not done to me and for me i know i'm in a bad space to even have that thought in my head. and it's not him. it's me and my f...
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serendipity
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longest time
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HI all. So far it has been 30 hours since I have talked to my A. I know it seems lame to count but it is longest I have ever gone in 5 1/2 years. Yesterday was his family's bbq and I decided not to go to avoid the everyone pretending he's not drinking situation and me crying. I hung up...
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daisygrl4
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Another Day in Hell
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Hello Friends,
I am so tired of this damn life.....I feel trapped.....I am sick to death of the life of hell I live.....I am trying so very hard to hang on until hub gets a couple of checks....him being out of work has drained us....now that he is back to work the past couple of days have been a living he...
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Andrea12
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I need help. stressful day at work, dealing with a 73 yro alcoholic who was forced to quit in Jan. no program, not his idea, he still wants to drink
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Phew! I was so rattled today at work. The 73 yro man I sit with was hell bent determined to drive his truck into town and buy his liquor. It was said he used to drink the biggest bottle of liquor a day. I saw an empty bottle of vodka when I first started working.
I started in the end of March. His...
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hmrnrnmm
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Alot of Changes Since Turning It Over
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I must say that since I turned my will and life over to the care of God, my life has changed a great deal. Through the fellowship of Al-anon and working the steps I have learned to ask myself question like… 1. what is going on with me? 2. what hurts? 3. what feels good? 4. what do I want? 5. what do I need? 6...
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BeBlessed
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Thank you for your warm welcome
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Hello,
Thank you for your warm welcome. I really needed that. Im looking forward to hearing from you and chating with you. Im so anxious to get started with the steps and traditions. I have been to several local meetings. Im a cocktail waitress and I have such anxiety speaking in public. I know this so...
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hunnydoll
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So Sad & Frustrated,,,,,what to do?
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Hello,,,,,hoping you are all doing the best you are able to right now. I am writing in hopes that some of you wise and learned people may be able to offer me somethings I can try with my very alcoholic Father. I can't just ask him not to drink as much as he does, and certainly asking him and expe...
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Leah
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convincing mom to attend alanon
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hi everyone,
my stepdad is a recently-diagnosed alcoholic. my mom was very dependant on him for many years until his condition worsened. then their roles reversed - she took over all aspects of their lives - managing bills, health & work issues etc.
unfortunately, recently m...
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son_of_a
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I need to really listen to those voices....
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I have to tell you it is like a light went on inside my head. I think I get it!!!! Tonight my A called on his way home. He is so upset, he has had a lead on a jobsite that has been okaying extra breaks, early outs, on company time. It's a temporary jobsite for my A, but he worked for this compa...
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marmare
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BALLGAME NIGHT
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hELLO EVERYONE, I Need some advice.
I have heard my A talking about a ballgame taking place this weekend. I have heard conversations about a bonfire and a party. This will take place outside. They will watch or listen to the ballgame in his shop, but they will be getting drunk.&n...
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bluebjade
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