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Does DWI show up in a background check?
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AH had one four years ago, new job offer requires background check.
Anybody in the know want to share??
Thanks.
evey
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evey
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Following Alanon with Compassion
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Hello Friends,
Needing to share a little this Sunday Morning.....yesterday, Chuck called about 8:30 am and asked me to come and follow him to take his truck to his dads and take him to detox. I thought about it for awhile and said, ok....so went.....it was a very hard thing to do but I was thinking, i...
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Andrea12
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Well... she's moving out right now
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(((((Everyone)))))
For those who don't know, my AW and I have had a real rough time of it. Relationship really suffering and it came to a head for me on the 9th. I told her I really can't live this way any more and if she doesn't commit to a program to try and get sober that we needed to make arr...
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rtexas
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Now he recovers!!!
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Hello everyone.
Recently I started back to the local meetings in this area. However I am still plagued by the decision I have made to divorce my A/addict. ( just moved here to finish degree, commute was too expensive).
Background - We went throught the drinking 10 years ago, I...
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kidsmom
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"How long do I have to be good"
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So I'm on the phone with my A last night and talking about him getting a place to stay, paying bills, etc. and he says I don't want to get a place...how long do I have to be good before I come home! This really pissed me off, I guess the idea of being a foregone conclusion (of course I'm going to ta...
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carolinagirl
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Here We Go Again
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Last night my husband was actually home & waiting on me when I got home from work. Met me at the door, even. Gave me a big hug and kiss. He had not been drinking, and had been off work about 3 hours. He is never home when I get home (always across the street at his friend's house, an A.)...
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Becky1
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taking care of myself
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Hi,
I am at the end of a short break from my busy life. I participated in an athletic event with my peers (read seniors). I had a great time being physical and competitive. I played hard and won some and lost some. It is great to see old friends and listen to their stories. It is amazing what tragedies that...
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nmike
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What Alanon has given me today..
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When days like today happen I always have to reflect at what Alanon has given me and how my reactions have changed. This day is one of those that is just soooo rediculous! Yesterday my son in law was going to put new rotors on my son's car. Normally they just slide off but not on my son's car! I had to go rent so...
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Christy
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If you happen to see Our Senorabob . . .
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Today is the anniversary of her birth
Happy Birthday MyLovely&Talented Senora
I hope your day is full of love and fun
YourMaria
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Maria123
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a temp sponsor
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If u would like to have some one help u with ur first three steps and u are willing to do some work on them let me know. I would like the person to work from the path book and i like the person to answer the questions at the end of each of the step. If u are willing to work throug im and pm in the room. I am looking for s...
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nycbt
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How Sad
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Hello Friends,
It has been a very crazy week for me...so many things are happening...I know we are not to focus on the A but, I feel I need to for a minute...the reality of my husband is that he is homeless...he is living in his truck...he is dirty...same clothes for days now...omg I just keep thinkin...
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Andrea12
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Thought for the Day.
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((((((Family)))))))),
Happy Sunday to you all! I was reading an article in the NY Times today and came across this quote from FDR: "When you get to the end of our rope, tie a knot and hang on."
How did he know about Alanon? Now I know you all do yoga () so when I get to the end of my rope, I'll t...
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Karilynn
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I Wandered Lonely As A Cloud
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I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the milky way,
They stretche...
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Maria123
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Physical Abuse
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(((((Everyone)))))
I know the rule of thumb is no advise here.. but.
If your A does anything close to hitting or shoving you, get yourself and your kids out of there.
I have lived with my AW for 18 years. In the past couple of months she has clobered me twice in the face, and kicked the h...
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rtexas
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Prime Time Slogans
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From a post by Jerry F :
I hated being controled at any and all times by events outside of myself so I adopted the slogan "Don't react" as one of my prime slogans. With it I can stop myself from rising to the occasion. I learned from my sponsor that when I get angry at any person, place o...
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greta
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Projection City hmmmm
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I'm trying my hardest to get all the gear ready for this weekend Boyscout camp out. I'm finding I'm loading my gun w/ resentments to shoot the A /w and realize I have the power to destroy this weekend. So I've come here to vent.
A's are like magnets to each other, it never fails that my A will...
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Lunamoth
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desperate and so sorry
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I did a terrible thing. I was very angry.
I was in a rage (very worried about these arger surges lately). He was taunting me and I lost it. I had the tv remote control in my hand at the time and I threw it at him. It hit him on the shoulder and the batteries flew out and hit him in the face. He then carried on sh...
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annmarie
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ESH needed please
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I need some guidance on how to help a fellow Al-Anon member. Her life seemed to be going great, her A was dry, they seemed like the perfect happy couple he working his program and she working hers. Then out of the blue on Wednesday night he just up and left her. She is devastated to say t...
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Mobirdie
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drive home
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I had a conversation the other night with someone. They said, do you know, if I would have done this instead of this, I would probably be doing this. I told them I don't do "what if's" the reason why is simple. I view it like this, if I wanted to change one thread in my life how many different asp...
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DoN4me
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Isolation
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Lately I have been feeling a tremendous sense of isolation. I work from home and live alone. I do get to meetings but not every day. Today my feelings were especially intense. I have considered getting an office job, but then I would have to give up the business I have worked so hard to build. I enjoy my wor...
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plumeria
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Good day for a good cry!
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((((((((Family))))))))))))),
I just had to come and finish the soul cleaning that started tonight.
Today was soooooo long.
I am training a new employee and add to that today is our client walk in day so they all came in today.
Well when I got the kids to be I started cleaning, babysitter will be...
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Dolphin123
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Pardon My Humor (Sing Along and Dance)
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OK, Gather around, join arms at the shoulders~~~and begin the leg kicking like the Rockettes, and SING:
"He drives me CRAZY, and I CAN'T HELP MYSELF" (codependency showing today!) :roflmao:
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wallsal55
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son's court date is scheduled yet again
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((((((((((friends))))))))))))
My son's (Ryan) sentencing hearing is scheduled for Oct. 30. As many of you know, this has been postponed and rescheduled many times. I so want to get off the roller coaster and so does my son. So, those of you that have been so kind to pray a...
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Lexie
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HURT BY MY MOM
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Hi,
I've never been here before, and it feels weird. My friend sent me the link. My mom is an Alchoholic and today, a short while ago, she crushed my feelings again. I called to give her some "good" news and by the end of the brief conversation, she tearily announced that I am nothin...
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Piglette
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Thankful to be alive
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Life has been looking great for quite some time now. I won my SSI case on Oct 4th I just have to wait for my 3 year lump sum no idea how long that will be. Not really thinking about it either. My health is doing good. I changed to cymbalta on my antidepressants & it improved a whole lot of stuf...
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hmrnrnmm
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So he's dead...
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Got a heads up this last evening that one of the local MJ advocates just passed on. I hadn't heard from him for a while and in the past had some personal contact in public. My son told me that the man tried to "turn him on" to some very "great Cannabis" and my son could see thru it as a pass user.&n...
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Jerry F
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Takin a trip
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I decided earlier this week that I was going to try to take a trip to DC just me and the kids. I have a 5 day weekend for Veterans day and I decided this would be an excellent time to see DC in all it's glory. I have never been there and it's on my "list of things to do before leaving here". I ke...
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carolinagirl
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Smokeless - doing the happy dance
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Ok been A LONG TIME coming but it is time. I have been thinking alot about quitting smoking. I have smoked off and on since I was 15. For whatever reason I would pick them back up. Well as of today I have been 33 hours smoke free. All of the sudden I just didn't want them or feel like I needed them anymore...
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DoN4me
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being willing
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For the last couple of years finances have been a huge huge issue for me. I have had one job from hell after another. I had one boss who actually spit in my face because she was so angry she became hysterical and all her spittle went everywhere. I feel like I have to hell and back with the...
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maresie2
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sick, pathetic, and all stirred up
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Hello all...
My Alcoholic/coke-addicted husband called me this afternoon. He's not supposed to have any contact with me. There's a personal protection order filed against him. He left a voicemail asking if it was okay for him to go to the house and take some tools out of...
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artygirl
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Getting better at detaching?
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(((Hi Everyone)))
I went to a wonderful "Mixed Nuts" meeting lastnight with AAs and Alanons. I had a pretty deep conversation afterward with some great guys who are willing to 12 step my AH when the time arises. He is talking about the devil being in him, crying all the time, bein...
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hersh
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Dealing with the burdens of life.
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A far away friend sent this to me today, thought I'd share:
Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
Always read stuff that wil...
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carolinagirl
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Prayers please
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Hi everyone,
This is off topic, so please forgive me,
A dear friend of my family was just diagnosed with lung cancer.
She is young, vital, and dedicates so much of her free time to helping out in the High School, she is an amazing woman.
Tonight her son who is very close to my kids came over in tears...
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Jeannie
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Controling behaviors
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(((((Everyone)))))
What is controling behavior really? If I trick, beg, plead or demand someone do "something" I am trying to control them, right?
There are a number of behaviors that bother me in my wifes version of this disease. It dawned on my during last nights "session...
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rtexas
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unable to open up...
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I haven't been on the forum for a while but today I needed to come back. It is abad day today. I have been going to f2f meetings for Al-Anon and ACOA, they have been helpingme but my biggest problem now is being able to share with my wife. Back in March of 2006 when I realized that I was not normal thanks to my wi...
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iwishuheaven
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ARE YOU WILLING TO ADMIT YOU DONT HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS?
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For years I begged and pleaded with the A to listen to me...."I knew what I was talking about." To get help for his drinking problem. I struggled for many years dealing with his progression in his disease, and became more insane. I thought I knew "how to get him to stop" trying everything within my power t...
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gardengal
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Good morning...
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((((Everyone))))
Out of todays ODAT "... Surrender to the will of god is not a passport to inertia"
How true is it that I want to be able to simply avoid situations and hope they get better on thier own. Is that faith? .... ummmm probably not. Does let go and let God, mean never giv...
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rtexas
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Ladies some ESH please
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Fair warning...not for the weak. Way personal post...but need the ESH!
I am sure most women can identify to this. I have had ovarian cysts for nearly 15 years now. One here, another here, two here. I have seen the dr. many times in the past for it. T...
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ZiggyDoodles
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Self-care is about setting boundaries, letting go
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"Some of us have so many voices in our heads, we could hold group therapy by ourselves," said Rokelle Lerner, a popular speaker and trainer on relationships, women's issues, and addicted family systems.
This internal chorus is often composed of voices from our family of origin, voices of critica...
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Phil
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A got out of jail
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He got out of jail after 17 days on a 50 day sentance and started calling and emailing. I talked to him, immediately my new boundries came into play as the the roller coaster started again. He again wanted me to do things for him at my own expense and I FINALLY said nope can't help you with that I sure h...
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DoN4me
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Detatchment With Love Takes On Deeper Meaning
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One of the great gifts of the addiction recovery movement is the concept of detachment with love. Originally conceived as a way to relate to an alcoholic family member, detachment with love is actually a tool that we can apply with anyone.
Al-Anon, a Twelve Step mutual-help group for friends and fa...
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Phil
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The A's Brother crashes
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The A's mother has gone. She is off three states away. Needless to say after all her demands she isn't unpacking her truck anytime soon. After weeks of her demands she is finally off the horizon. Now the A's brother enters. He is drinking to total excess, totally smashed eve...
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maresie2
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Thoughts on my morning meditation
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It is no longer good enough to cry peace, we must act peace, live peace, and live in peace. So, today in one of my meditation books, there was a novel idea presented to me. To summarize: Some people will never be happy because they **choose** not to be. Essentially, they believe that they are **unw...
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Tiger2006
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Yupper!!
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The Al-Anon Promises
“From Survival to Recovery” (page 269)
-- Edited by tea2 at 22:55, 2006-10-19
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Phil
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I slipped
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Well, I am usually pretty good at detaching from my ah. He does his thing and I don't say anything about it. I presume that eventually he will see the light and make a change. I blew it this morning!
Yesterday evening he was noticably intoxicated, went to bed early, was kind of irritating. I guess I have...
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babysteps
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i feel lost and alone
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I have reached the point of full blown depression again. I cry constatly I have no intrest in any thing even the gym which has been my home away from home for 6 yrs. my husband drinks constanly he goes to the bar for lunch and stops at another bar before going home. i have such a fear of leaving yet i feel like i...
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liliana
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Sometimes-I forget (long)
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Sometimes I forget just how sick he is. My a husband has been completely sober for a little over 2 months--he has been sober from alcohol for 3 months. There are days his grouchiness really can get to me, or his mood swings and of course his selfishness, but then I think, yeah but he has come s...
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hudsond
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Signs of progress....
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((Everyone)))
Why is it that I am becoming so aware that I have absolutely NO self-esteem and haven't for a long long time? I guess awareness is part of this program, but I am really finding out things about myself that I guess are helping me to grow but opening my eyes even wider with fear. ...
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hersh
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I am so Angry!!!
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Ugh, what a frustrating weekend, I was surfing the net when my I.Explorer just died and spent 4 hours trying to fix it to find out...it's unfixable,lol. I wound up having to do a rescue boot form my cd which renders almost all of your progems unusable and once I got stuff reinstalled IT DID IT AGAIN!!! Tha...
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Mindy
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Get your kleenex.. (off topic)
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My daughter just sent me this link of an up and coming singer. Not sure if I have ever heard a sadder song. Warning...it is about an abused child. This song will hopefully raise awareness. It's called Allysa Lies [url=http://www.myspace.com/jasonmichaelcarroll ]http://www.myspace.co...
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Christy
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Some days...
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(((Hello Group)))
I got a difficult case handed down to me this week at work and without getting into details it is bringing up some strong feelings in me not just of my A but another relationship I had several years ago. This family I'm working with has a father who is an A, not in recovery just dr...
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twinmom2
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A pumpkin recovery box
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(((((((((((((Family)))))))))),
Good morning family. I got up early this morning and was dusting. I came across a box that hubby made for me in rehab 2 years ago as part of his art therapy. Now of course it has a pumpkin on it and it is filled with little pumpkins. But he also...
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Karilynn
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Accepting the truth
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Hello Friends,
I had a reality check today that I can view one of two ways, I saw my husband today for the first time in a month....the reality of his life makes me sad....also it makes me happy to know where I am right now...
This awful thing called addiction is the most heart wrenching thing I hav...
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Andrea12
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my future mother-in-law...the enabler
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She was married to an A for many years...she left him coz of the drinking,only to leave him for another A,who she then left for another one...
Meanwhile, all the children in the family grew up in a household where this was normal behaviour.
I made the mistake of calling her to talk about the problem i...
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arty
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How do You Think of God/HP?
(Preview)
Enjoy! http://home.att.net/~scorh5/Pedal.html
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wallsal55
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All I need is this can.... and maybe this chair
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(((((Everyone)))))
So I sit here at my desk wondering why I would think our seperation would be any different than any other ridiculous argument we have ever had. Why would my reasons for wanting to seperate or my ideas about what a destructive force the drinking has become all of a sudden mak...
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rtexas
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starting over
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This is going to be a long post because I have so many feelings swirling around inside I might have trouble articulating them all. I seem to be dealing with most of the topics that have been listed for the next 2 weeks. Guilt, shame, self esteem and on and on.
First of all I want to thank Tiger. She start...
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bluegrassgal
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Oct 17 2005 vs 2006
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Oct 17 is our wedding anniversary. We were first married in 1981 (divorced 1988, remarried 1989 but we still celebrate our wedding anniversary)
Oct 17 2005 I sat in an AlAnon meeting (first meeting back this time)
Oct 17 2006 my husband, 14yr son and I went out for a nice dinner
Maybe AlAnon does w...
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Barbara
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not enough focus on myself.
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hi all,
recently i've kinda slipped back in my recovery.
i'm not working the steps and focusing more on other ppl than i am myself, and i feel like i did when i was a child, scared and alone.
all my life i have had addiction in my life, first with my dad and mam, then later with my brothers and then with t...
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trapped one
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Procrastination
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I was meeting with my sponsor last night and she and I were talking about procrastination. I have been seperated from my husband for almost a year but we tried working things out several times in that period. The last time that we were together was over 2 months ago and I still have no...
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JulieLynn
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