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Made a decision about all the crap that happened last night....
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I am calling Verizon (local telephone comp.) and having both his sister and niece's numbers blocked from calling on my phone.
I am already having a hrd time getttng out, now I don't know. I know she will be looking for me. What do I keep in my purse to protect myslef. Anyone know how expesive mace or pepp...
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Hello again...
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post removed -- Edited by cullyvan at 10:27, 2007-01-08
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What is manipulative behavior?
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I'm very confused about this. I'm very direct in that I state what I think and feel, so I am very lost. I keep hearing that those in Alanon are manipulative. Another member shared that when she was little she would give her mother evil looks to get what she wanted. She said this was controlling behavior. S...
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Old Time Al-Anon Snow bird
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I have been attending Al-Anon since 1991.due to my son's drinking and my ex-husband's
drinking. I had a bad attitude and a loose mouth the criticizum and sarcasm that came
out of my mouth was awfull. I never thought before I spoke I've learned to do that in
Al-Anon. I've also learne...
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Today went well
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So I am taking one day at a time....Hubby and I talked today, I told him some of my fears and worries, although I really did not want to....I want him to focus on him not me. But I cant keep much from him so I buckled....I felt better afterwards!! He talked some too, I realized that we are both in...
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haven't posted for a while, however......
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I guess I haven't had a very good day. I have been in a lot of physidal pain, and my A has some kind of flu==I really don't want to mess with hism a lot since I was just in the hosp. for pneumonia right after Thanksgiving.
I have realized I myself can just have the bitchiest attitutde around my A, even...
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reaction
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hi all
so my weekend visit to A in rehab went well...i had 8 hours of aa life...talked with a lot of A's, and their loved ones. attended my first aa meeting - heard the stories that we all know - so moving, so hopeful, so much reliance on HP. he and i had good talks....open communication - what our needs,...
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Anger & shame are eating me up
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My A is in the hospital for the 5th time in 2 months because of his drinking. He was very, very sick & escaped a heart attack again but he's getting close to no-escape. At home I can detach, & deal with my A husband when he tries to cause an argument, manipulate me etc.&n...
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Treatment/Medications
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Hi- I'm new to the site and have never done this. My A is in treatment for a relapse after 14 months sober. The Dr. at the center is thinking of putting him on a RX for cravings. I'm not sure if it will work but my A is hopeful. I guess anything is worth a try.
I'd be in...
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Another birthday girl!
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(((((((((((Family))))))))))),
We have another birthday girl today. Shh.....don't tell anyone but it's our
GARDENGAL!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET
GARDENGAL!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
May it be extra spec...
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Karilynn
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A lot can happen in a week
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My ex-A who I refused to have for Christmas had to be hospitalised on new year's eve for high blood pressure. He is staying with me and is now watching tv. That might not sound so strange only it is ten years since he has staying away from the pub and watched television in a family environment. Unfortunate...
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maire rua
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New member needs help.
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I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has been an alcoholic all of this time.
It has been livable but not an enjoyable life.
He recently became steadily weaker, had loss of muscle mass, loss of appetite and weight.
He then suffered two seizures.
My daughter who knows how t...
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A Gift For All of You
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http://www.lightmovie.com/
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Taking a break from the board
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(((((Everyone))))))
I'm taking a little break from the board. Things here are a bit unmanagable and I need to focus on taking care of a few things.
I thank you all for the prayers for my friend. Her Ex-Ah has been sent home, because that is where he wants to be. He's been given abo...
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My wish for you...
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(((((Everyone))))))
This song has become very popular around here. Really sums up how I feel these days. Hope you like it and take it as a personal wish from me to you even though I stole it... LOL
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, yo...
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I am adjusting to alot of changes
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I am back home at the apt. I have a big presentation tommorrow and I am nervous about it.
I am having to adjust to my one nephew moving away from me and he will not call me. It is nice to have the peace and quiet but I miss him. I could not go to my parents this partly because my broth...
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Positive Update on ME!
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Rebecca
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here we go again
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It's a crisis for the A.....I am trying to stay on track, things have been going good for me, new job, going through the feelings and feeling them of losing my mom. My A for the most part has been a good husband, coming home after work, not hanging out in the bars, although he's still drinking. ...
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Horrible tragedy but hope...
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(((Everyone))):
I have lived with my AH for 17 years, and we have both raised his children together that his ex-wife left 17 years ago. I have had these kids since they were 2 and 6. They are now 19 and 23. They have kept in touch with their mother but never lived with her, visited a co...
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wendy are you there???
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I have tried to find you - just want to thank you for helping me that friday night before xmas early in the morning est. I thought your name was breezee but forgot. then remembered wendy. Please know your words meant so much to get me through that night. Now i check in regularly with alanon. W...
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Newbie here....
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Hi so if you have not guessed I am NEW here!!
Well everyone probably already KNOWS why I am here so I guess to tell you what is going on and how I feel is the next step right!?!?
My husband has come to the realization that he has a problem!! He has smoked pot for 15 years or so. But he REALLY sta...
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i know i need to be clear-help
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sooooo
two weeks from now,Aboyfriend gets out of rehab...unable to go back to his former living situation(tho he primarily lived with me and my two daughters) because they are drinkers. unwilling to move to his mother's(thank god). does not want to go to 1/2 way house, tho he hasn't explored that p...
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This must be one heck of a guy!!!
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I found this on another messageboard and it touched me so much that I ask your permission to share it with you. This must be one heck of a guy. If I had a husband with a fraction of these principles, I would be still married. Imagine-- no lying, no cheating, no manipulati...
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Business Meeting
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Business Meeting this month only will be held on January 14th, 2007 at 9pm est.
If you have anything to add for the agenda or any new concerns please let me know.
Kerry
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****THANKS FOR CHRISTMAS CARDS******
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I would like to thank all of you who sent Christmas cards and care packages to us at the Miricales in Progress recovery house. Your support ment so mutch to all of us. As Christmas aproched I was feeling so alone and was sarting to f...
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Trusting my AH
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Happy New Year everyone! I have not been on much due to the holidays and being sick with an aweful cold. I am ready for the new year to begin right and with that, some new changes that I have to make. The most biggest change I must concentrate on is TRUST!!!!!! Trust is so hard for me as I have been abused in eve...
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glum
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so can i feel sorry for myself here? i HATE to do that.
i just dropped off my kids at their dad's house....the kids are there one night a week only....it was all nice and cozy and cleaned by his new partner....i come home to my house - big,messy,full of toys,laundry,dishes,papers and the anxiety of m...
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I'm Home!
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Oops, wrong meeting!
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So, tonight I was going to my first f2f alanon meeting. I was super nervous, but determined. I was running a little late because my boyfriend kept talking to me (I think he thought if he made me run late, I would decide not to go). So, when I got there, I hurried in and sat at a table with s...
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Resolutions silly? NOT when it comes to alanon ones!
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Each year millions of people "say" they are going to this and do that.........but in alanon we learn to not only say we are going to change in some ways, but we do it to improve our life situations. I for one take each new year as another challenge, how can I make my life more simpler, less stre...
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Ally is ok but her internet is not
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((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))
If any of you were wondering what happened to Ally (aka hen) her internet is down. She will be back as soon as they fix it. I'm praying that it is not much longer. We miss you hen!!!!!
Take care
Shad
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Hey Drucilla!!!!
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Are we all invisible??? (c: Just kidding, so what do you think? I mean how did all the shares make ya feel?
You brought up something we all relate to. Are you ok? Please do not disappear. That took courage to share your feelings. I am glad you did. love,debilyn
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Lookey what I found...
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On match dot com
I have a terrific career working for a non-profit, which allows me to occasionally wander through swamps starting the woods on fire. The work is rewarding and I could not imagine doing anything else. Not your ordinary lawyer!
It's a sign... An internet surfing lawyer who is singl...
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carolinagirl
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Faith and Trust
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Lately, things in my life seem to be going in circles. And, as I led a meeting I realized that if I surrender on a daily basis. I will not only become one with my HP, but also find that my option to use and the choice to use is eliminated. Because, with that surrender I adapt my will to my&n...
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letting go lovingly--ESH??
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MIP Friends--
Happy new year!! I hope it is filled with happiness, hope, health for everyone.
Just took my 5th step today with a fellow member and feel really good about how far I've come, and so much more realistic than I used to be about how far I have to go. I'm so grateful to this program for h...
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Almost a week
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Wow, I can't believe it has been only six days since I found MIP. Things have been going a little more smoothly lately, almost smooth enough to forget there was even an issue. I found a nearby meeting, but because I was trying to secretive, I ended up taking care of the kids while he was out somewhere. His d...
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he resents me
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Hi everyone,
My A and I split a few weeks ago. I have a nice new place to live and although it's lonely without him, I'm setting in. I'm doing okay. I had no choice but to split I felt. His drinking was getting worse and worse and I couldn't cope with it at all in the end. I thought I was doing the right thing by...
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annmarie
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Detachment such a difficult one
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The A I live with is in a huge sulk. He's playing video games night and day (he's always done that). He has let many of his bills go. He is not even initiating work anymore. I can't imagine what some of his customers must think (he is an electrician) he has cut his phone off. He has also le...
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maresie2
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really bad day
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I am having such a really really bad day at the moment. The hotel didn't pay me. They are jerking me around. I now have to wait a few days and then file for the labor board if needbe. Needless to say that is a tremendously long process and I hope I don't have to go down that. Of cours...
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Update
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Hi family!
Well, the holidays were very difficult, and yes, I'm glad they are over.
My daughter (grandaughter) who left home the 10th of Dec. did come for a little bit Christmas Eve and then again for a few hours Christmas day. She didn't say much, although did say she loves me when she left.&...
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100 days of recovery
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hello all,
i have not posted in awhile, and just wanted to say hello. my daughter is at 100 days or so of recovery, and my husband and i the same. he's actually been more faithful than i to alanon the past few weeks, but the holidays and end of year work obligations keep me a bit more tied up than him.
i'm g...
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kabbie
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wanted to share
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I just wanted to give some hope to those out there who might be new to al-anon. I've been going to meetings for about one and a half years now. I was a real mess when I first arrived and wasn't really sure how it could help me because like most people I was seeking someone to tell me what to do. I left the first me...
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jennifer9
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an angel that night
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I am new here ( just before xmas). I just want to thank the angel who talked to me that scarey night when I got a call from the police telling me my husband got picked up for a dui. Her words calmed me , let me know that the situation was not caused by me.I only wish I could cont...
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johello
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Pits
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I have been thinking a lot lately about ruts and pits. I read a book over the holidays called Get out of the Pit. I found the book very helpful. It basically tells how at some point or another we all get in a pit, and although we can't get out of them ourselves, if we ask our HP (God) for help He wil...
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hudsond
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Is this a normal action?
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I have been reading alot but not posting. I have not been to a f2f for almost 3 weeks. Mainly because my regular weekly meeting is on Monday nights. There is another one I go to on Thursday nights occasionally. I was thinking about it last night but decided not to go.
Things, at the moment, are pretty q...
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Gailey
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In memory
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((((((((Family))))))),
I know this seems like an odd thing to do, but please bear with me. This has nothing to do with politics, I promise you.
I would like to take a moment to honor the passing of President Gerald Ford. Whether or not your republican, democrat, atheist, political or not I a...
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Karilynn
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Need to vent for a minute
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I called the A tonight, don't know why just had the urge, he's starting a new job tomorrow and all. So of course he asks me how come I don't call more often and are we going to get back together and when can he come home (I hope he was joking) and he kept brining up things either I didn't want to talk about...
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carolinagirl
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what do the initials my A's or my AH's mean?
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before i say anything, i would like to say this.........,
recently i have recieved the gift of being able to LOL [laugh out loud], shortly after getting this gift, i recieved the blessing to COL [cry out loud], yesterday for the first time i can remember in years, i decided to GOL [grump out loud], wit...
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jewely
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Bad, bad Bill.
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My thoughts have returned to an earlier time in my life. I was 14 years old when I met him. The undisputed love of my life. My youthful innocence was awed by this "older man" of 18. Bill was gorgeous to look at; blond curly hair, clear blue eyes that cut directly through my clothing, and a smile that could me...
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Diva
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A little humor :)
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(((family)))
Thought I'd share a memo that my A recieved at work. I guess it's normal for Alaska, but can you imagine getting this memo in any other office facility?
From: ANCHORAGE, Building Services
Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:55 AM
Subject: Reminder: Moose Danger
Importan...
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Christy
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your getting sober...and what i forgive you now?!?!?
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My A mother has been abusive both physicaly and verbaly to me. (If you want details look at my other posts) This past christmas i or my brother did not go home. I think that she FINALLY got the point that she was sick and that she was going to loose her family. my dad even said enou...
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Klutz
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Drucilla...I understand being invisible...to everyone I've missed...
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I can certainly relate to feeling invisible, like your post mentioned, Drucilla. I've felt that way a lot, but I believe it's one of my MAJOR character defects.
I just wanted to tell everyone that I don't usually respond to all posts (lol, hard to believe THAT one, I know...), but I do re...
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lmt123
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New Year New Start
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(((((((((friends)))))))))),
Well this year I am gonna try and make some major changes in my life....first of all I started a new job yesterday...more money and with raising two teens on my own I can use all of that I can get.....lol...
Second of all, living single again....wow t his has been a...
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Andrea12
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I give up. Initiating Divorce proceedings
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At 5:48 am today Thursday January 4, 2007, after the latest lashing out at me, I finally give up and no longer wish to take the emotional abuse of my recovering alcoholic/drug addicted wife.
Anything else has to be better than this. I absolutely positively have done nothing wrong but s...
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Cucamonga
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Not a Great Start to the New Year
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(((friends)))
Son called yesterday. He had been seeing his boss' daughter on the sly. She is 17 or 18 but parents don't want her having a boyfriend. A mutual friend of theirs spilled the beans New Year's Eve I guess.
Son spends alot of time at their house and often eats th...
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I Hope You Dance
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Hi friends,
Wow! Higher power spoke to me loud and clear. I read the following in my church bulletin over the weekend. I asked my pastor where he got it. He said someone e-mailed it to him. Then yesterday I received an e-mail from another alanoner w/th...
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danz123
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New and totally lost
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So, I am new to this, but not new to the effects of alcholism. I grew up in a family where my father was and still is a hard core drunk. My partner of five years has finally surrendered to the disease of alcholism and is working a program. My partner has been sober for four months. I had begged her to get sober a...
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ColeShan
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Categorizing the Steps
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I was reading through some past stuff that my sponsor had sent to me the other day, and stumbled across this one, that made me smile..... He told me to think of the steps in four parts:
Steps 1-3 "GIVE up"
Steps 4-6 "FESS up"
Steps 7-9 "MAKE up"
Steps 10-12 "KE...
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canadianguy
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trying to walk the talk
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happy new year everyone
so i am trying so hard to focus on me and take care of me and my life while A boyfriend is away at rehab getting sober, but it is HARD WORK. getting doctors and dentist appointment for me and the kids, having fun with them (we flew a kite today and the joy in their eyes...ahhh), seein...
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Fifi
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A Healing Moment!
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Wow, this really is a rollercoaster! I mean just the other nite I was here saying "why do we do this?" But even before that post I had asked for some suggestions on helping my 12 year old son cope. See, my son had not experienced the effects of alcoholism until I married my husba...
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Spiritually Calm
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